Need Help Fast!!!!!

VinnyPants

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I need help fast I have no idea what I should do and my situation is kind of different. There is a girl I have worked with since march of this year and have always lightly flirted with nothing serious at all. Three weeks ago we went out and hooked up (no sex) I told her that I wouldn't sleep with her because we were a lil drunk. We have since gone out and had a great time together but now her sons father who was in a 30 day rehab for a heroin problem is out and is tryin to worm his way into the picture. I really like this girl and do not have a prblem with the "kid Factor"But I do not know how to win her over. We are going to this charity dinner on Friday and I really need some help with how things should go. So as not to leave anything out the breakup between her and her ex was only 3 or 4 months ago and it was of course caused by his addiction. After the first time we hooked up I asked what she was looking for and never got a straight answer. Please help me.


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Vinny
 

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this is going to be very sticky and there may be no way to win her over if she isnt over him.
it hasnt been long and she has a child involved.
hopefully she wont get involved with him again for the childs sake.
 

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Dude, PLEASE leave this woman alone. You have no idea the pain you're in for.............

Can't you do any better than this? Has she been tested for all the nasty diseases she could have from fukking an IV drug user? Would she tell you if she had something? You are clueless aren't you?

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Originally posted by VinnyPants
I need help fast I have no idea what I should do and my situation is kind of different. There is a girl I have worked with since march of this year and have always lightly flirted with nothing serious at all. Three weeks ago we went out and hooked up (no sex) I told her that I wouldn't sleep with her because we were a lil drunk. We have since gone out and had a great time together but now her sons father who was in a 30 day rehab for a heroin problem is out and is tryin to worm his way into the picture. I really like this girl and do not have a prblem with the "kid Factor"But I do not know how to win her over. We are going to this charity dinner on Friday and I really need some help with how things should go. So as not to leave anything out the breakup between her and her ex was only 3 or 4 months ago and it was of course caused by his addiction. After the first time we hooked up I asked what she was looking for and never got a straight answer. Please help me.


Thanx

Vinny

Cool man.

Here's my share of checklist on first date. A post Date checklist.

1) Did you end the date first?

2) Did you lead and stay in control?

3) Did you flirt with her?

4) Did you tease her?

5) Did you give her good eye contact?

6) Did you slow down your movements?

7) Did you have any physical contact with her?

8) Did you kiss her?

9) Did you hold her hands?

10) Did you make all the decisions?

11) Did you groom yourself before the date?

12) Did you wait a few days before you asked her
for a second date?

13) Did you have the guts to disagree with her?

14) Did you use your flirty bedroom voice?

15) Did you whisper into her ears?

If your answer to the above are all plain "YES" then congratulations! keep it up.

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Follow the above advice and never, ever ask a woman what she is looking for.
 

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Kis5ing class Sh!t does not work, let's just go for the kill

Alright, this is about my neighbour. Let's call her Next Door Neighbour (NDN) She is hot, sexy ( with make-ups on), I'll give her an 8 but a 6 without makeup. Anyway, she has a boyfriend at a moment. They don't live together and he lives quite far away, as far as I know. We talked several times about everyday stuff but whenever I tried to discuss her relationship with her boyfriend, she tried pushing it aside and says she does not want to talk about it. So, one day I was going to school... as I was about to leave my room, there she was--coming down the staircase. We exchanged greetings. Then she asked where I was going and I told her School. She said cool let me drop you off. My initial thought was, that'll be nice since she goes to the same school, it's highly likely that she going to school as well; but I later found later on that did not have class that day at all, and "just got bored and wanted to go to school to read"

Anyway, on the way to School....
Amoka: How is your boyfriend.
NDN: I don't like talking about it.
Amoka: Why is that, are you ashame of him?
NDN: No, I just don't like to talk about him.
Amoka: Alright, what is his name.
---( Folks, this guy is a very shy person. In fact, whenever he visits her and they are going out today, he lets her go spy the neighbourhood to ensure no one is watching them being together. Sometimes, he stays in the room 5-10 mins after she has already left. By the way, she did not tell me this about him. Another neighbour disclosed his observations to me since I was new to the place).
NDN: No, he is shy..
Amoka: I know, so you cannot tell me his name because he is shy?
NDN: Yes.
Amoka: Cool, so how is your relationship with him.
NDN: Actually, I dont know. I've been asking him to do some things if he does not do it, I'll see.
Amoka: What are those things? [Actually, I should not have asked her this question but rather made it into a ****y and funny statement but dropped the bomb already so, I'll have to fix it later]
NDN: Something personal. [ Now folks, one thing you should know is this girl is a "gold digger" ( from a trusted source). The guy is a businesmen who owns a store ( source? from NDN )
Amoka: Are you one of those that set ultimatum for guys and if they don't follow, you ditch them?
NDN: No... nothing like that...
Cool, we ended up exchanging phone numbers before I go dropped off at the school. Oh, by the way she is from Taiwan, and the guy is from Afghanistan...

So, I waited and called her one friday evening. She picked up and said she is home cooking so I should come. Unfortunately, I ate before calling her but I can't refuse extral bit! I went to her apartment about 45mins later and when I got there, she make nice meal and served a portion for me. woah!! Well, I was only able to eat minimum portion of the meal since I already ate before.

Anyway after the meal, I asked her to come dancing with me. He showed no hesitation at all. I game her 10 mins to get prepared so we can leave. 10 mins later, she was ready wainting for me in front of my door ready to leave. We went to the dancing class and had a blast!

On our way, he interest level got very high that she was touching me like I'm "her man". Sh!t, I should have gone for the k!ss right there. But sh!t, I blew it. While in the car, she was relunctant on even going home. Then I dropped the bomb:
Amoka: Tell, assuming your in a k!ssing class, on a scale of 1 to 10 what you'd you get.
NDN: Well, we're not in a k!ssing class so I don't know.
Amoka:[ Acted another AFC act here] Assuming, you are in a kissing class.
NDN: I don't know.
Amoka: Alright, come here and I'll show you.
NDN: No. Let's go home. [Sh!t, I easily could have nail that girl even in the car at that particular moment] [ Mind you, this girl is non-American. She is also shy as hell. But could not read that signal.]

We went home, we were supposed to watch a movie at my place but she even does not want to anymore. She's virtually trying to avoid me now. A good damage controlled stratagy is needed for situations such as this. Any ideas?
 
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