Need help ... developing oneitis for this chick

[Mintyfreshh]

Okay, I need help/advice.

I recently started seeing a girl from China. She’s here going to grad school. At first, I guess I just really wanted to get laid, but now I think I really want her…. But there are some problems.

At first I was worried that she was just out for a green-card because she was telling me that she was looking for a husband and marriage. I’m pretty positive that she isn’t a psycho just trying to use me, but the thought is in the back of my head.

We spent four or five weekends together (we live an hour and ½ from each other) and she still won’t sleep with me. But she did bang the last white guy she dated for 2 months prior…which admittedly ended very badly for her (she got pumped and dumped from what I understand.) We make out, we shower together, she gives me multiple HJ’s a day, I’ve eaten her out, and we even grind against each other naked till I come, but she just won’t let me stick it in her no matter how hard I try. Not sure if I’m just not being aggressive enough, but we’ll be basically fvcking with our underwear on and she’ll be like “I want you to fvck me” … but stops me from pulling down her panties over and over. I’ve asked if I should put a condom on and she tells me “no” between her moans.

Anyway, then I find out that she still has a boyfriend back in her home country. I played it cool and told her that’s fine and I don’t really care. I guess its true, the only part about it that bothers me is that it gives her an edge on me… like its much easier for her to walk away.

I guess we’re calling ourselves boyfriend/girlfriend (despite her already being taken), which is fine, but I feel myself getting emotionally attached and turning AFC. Thank god her English isn’t great because of all the dumb lovey-dovey stuff I’ve found myself saying.


So….

1.) Why can’t I get sex out of her or even a BJ? Do Asian chicks like to pretend they’re getting raped or something? I’m really not sure if I’m supposed to keep pushing forward when a girl stops me from pulling down her underwear 2 or 3 times. Does she just feel bad about having already cheated on her long distance BF, and I’m suffering for it? She tries to tell me sh*t like she has a low sex drive or feels like I’ll get bored and leave her if we sleep together so quickly …. Smells fishy to me.

2.) How can I stop myself from obsessing over her. Even just two weeks ago I was thinking about breaking it off because she threw unreasonable temper tantrums to the point where I had to get up and walk out of her apartment at 3am to let her stew in her bad emotions. She even broke something she just bought from the store because I refused to carry it… no way was I tolerating behavior like that. Now I’m all supplicating and sh*t

3.)Do I really need to go back out and game girls even if I found a chick just to stay attractive lol?

4.) I get the feeling that she’s either losing interest or maybe just with me because she’s lonely and wants a friend. “I feel like you wouldn’t be friends with me if I didn’t get you off,” and sh*t like that makes me wonder.

What should I do? Back off and see/talk to her less?

Last thing I told her is that we shouldn't see each other this weekend because we've been seeing too much of each other ... hope it was the right move.

 

[Mintyfreshh]

About to go out and do some day-game. Can't think of anything else.

 

[Mintyfreshh]

I can't tell if you're trolling me.

Anyway, I smoked some herb and had a revelation: ITS JUST A GIRL. I don't need her to be happy. Why the hell am I getting so attached so quickly, god damn no wonder shes losing interest... I'm acting like a total b*tch

No contact unless she contacts me first & keep forcing myself to get out of the house.

 

[zinc4]

Oh dude..she is definitely not GF material because of the whole BF back home thing and yes, a lot of mainland China chicks use guys for green cards..lot's of red flags there with her...

But as far as the sex, i would be more aggressive and rip her panties off and then say you just want to kiss her down there and eat her out and go from there and just stick it in when she is really turned on...once you get her panties off it's much easier...kiss her down there on top of the panties and through them and then yank them off very quickly with no warning and start eating her...i have overcome this problem several times...

 

[Greasy Pig]

Maybe she's thinking that it's not really cheating if there's no penetrative sex?
A la Bill Clinton.
I'd be banging other women and keeping your little Chinese concubine in reserve for a rainy day handjob.

 

[Trump]

1) Go with the flow and sleep with other girls. The most important thing for her is to get a reaction out of you and it sounds like she doing great. If she feels you are emotionally attached, you are DONE for.

2) Sleep with other girls/ get a hobby / get a job. Look what she is doing to you without even touching you. Imagine if she TRIED to play with your mind, she would CRUSH you. You have to turn the tables, let her worry that you may be screwing an actress from Hong Kong.

Also, while you are doing all this worrying about her, she is asking her boyfriend in China to get the purple pearls for her, not the blue ones.

3) Yes

4) Answer "You are right, wouldn't be friends with you at all if you didn't."

Bro how are you with a hot Asian girl and then tell her "we have been seeing too much other". If you don't want to see her, don't call her, but don't tell her. Logic doesn't work with women.

 

[Mintyfreshh]

Go with the flow and sleep with other girls. The most important thing for her is to get a reaction out of you and it sounds like she doing great. If she feels you are emotionally attached, you are DONE for.

Meh, she already knows I'd bet. I drank too much and she got me to say some pretty sappy sh*t ... basically just giving the same lines she fed me back to her (you make me happy, I like spending time with you, blah.)

I don't think its gameover yet, she must like me on some level since shes dropping hints and giving me a chance to "act cool like before."

Sleep with other girls/ get a hobby / get a job. Look what she is doing to you without even touching you. Imagine if she TRIED to play with your mind, she would CRUSH you. You have to turn the tables, let her worry that you may be screwing an actress from Hong Kong.

Have a job and many hobbies! ....just couldn't help myself from going all AFC and sh*t. Never fails when I actually like the chick for more than sex. You're right, I need to go talk to other girls.

Answer "You are right, wouldn't be friends with you at all if you didn't."

Eh, I think i said, sure I would but you're going to keep doing it.

Bro how are you with a hot Asian girl and then tell her "we have been seeing too much other". If you don't want to see her, don't call her, but don't tell her. Logic doesn't work with women.

Cause we had some iffy plans, had to say something right?


Appreciate the advice. It's easy to forget this is all a game, women are evil lol.

 

[JoeMarron]

Stop rewarding her. What reason does she have to put out when you'll stick around and do everything with her anyways? Every time you eat her out, say sappy chit to her, etc. you're reinforcing in her mind that you'll stick around without sex. Drastically decrease your attention to her and you just might have a chance. Plus she has a bf so that's another strike against you. On a slightly unrelated note I couldn't care less if you wanna fk chicks with bf's but I find it funny when dudes complain about women being wh0res when they're the ones enabling that behavior.

 

[Mintyfreshh]

Don't feel bad at all about her having a boyfriend on the other side of the planet lol. Maybe a younger version of myself cared about not disrespecting other dudes by going for their gf's but .... come on every chick hangs on to their old guy until something better comes along....

And you're right, drastically decreasing attention seems cruel, but she didn't leave me any other choice.

 

[VladPatton]

Besides, culture, distance, family issues, and a completely different social regime, you have this fact "I guess we’re calling ourselves boyfriend/girlfriend (despite her already being taken), which is fine, but I feel myself getting emotionally attached and turning AFC" going against you.

With all the girls in the US of A, ones you understand, ones your parents will understand, and have citizenship, I ask: why would you even ponder wasting one more minute in this relationship?

Hit the Eject button, and get your head back.

Good luck.

 

[Mintyfreshh]

Besides, culture, distance, family issues, and a completely different social regime, you have this fact "I guess we’re calling ourselves boyfriend/girlfriend (despite her already being taken), which is fine, but I feel myself getting emotionally attached and turning AFC" going against you.

With all the girls in the US of A, ones you understand, ones your parents will understand, and have citizenship, I ask: why would you even ponder wasting one more minute in this relationship?

Hit the Eject button, and get your head back.

Good luck.

Dunno, leaving it at friends with benefits for now. I started going back out and being social again and everything seems to be good again.

Thanks for advice. I really dig it.

 

[Mintyfreshh]

It's amazing what ignoring a few texts can do for interest level. This chick is blowing up my phone with texts/phone calls now that she suspects I have other options .... And her suspicions are correct. I asked out a chick that works at a store I had been previously too afraid to approach and I've gotten quite a few numbers from day game.

I swear they can smell other pvussy