need help asap masters only

[duttylove]

sup peeps got a bit of a problem

been seeing my girl for a while now but got a problem with the ex. there been a few probs wit this dude. we broke up once n she got wit him again then told me she had made a mistake and cares about me blady blah yall know the story. now heres the problem. i told her i dont like her talkin to him (i no big mistake) but she tells me she wont n sh1t. but she still got his phone numbers saved and msn address n that. now when shes out wit me she wont talk to him but when ever i aint there he will come and talk to her. always tellin her how he wants to f**k her n sh1t always hittin on her. my girl tells me that i need to trust her because she wont do anything (bull****)

so do i need to give this guy a beating for the utter disrespect hes showing, trust my girl or get rid of her and beat the guy. need some suggestions.

now i do love my girl but i will get rid of her if need be, just hoping theres another option here.

 

[Wyldfire]

You just have to keep her wanting you more than she wants him. If you accuse her of doing something wrong just because he's trying to steal her back she's going to go back to him. If you beat him up, she is going to go back to him. If you break up with her, she ig going to go back to him.

The only way you can come out of this with her and your dignity is to keep her wanting you and forget about her ex.

 

[redgriffin]

sounds like Wyldfire is on the ball.

if she don't turn around soon, i'd ditch her.
sounds like she's got low self-esteem and not much fun to be around. i would'nt stay with a person like that.

move onward and upward dude.

 

[Triple X]

The only way you can come out of this with her and your dignity is to keep her wanting you and forget about her ex.

Maybe... but even if he does that the other guy will still always be lurking around, trying to steal the girl back. It won't totally solve the problem.

Now let me just say I'm not a 'master' or expert but any means, but I am a man and this is how I see it.

The guy is disrespecting you.. if he knows for sure that you are with her now he has no business trying to pry her away from you.

So what I would do is this... try and get him alone sometime and ask if you can have a word with him. Say to him (be friendly at first) that you know he used to be with her and everything but you are with her now and you can't tolerate him trying to get back with her all the time.

If he accepts.. fair enough, it's all good.

If he continues to disrespect you... then you are perfectly within your rights to tell him the back the f*** off (even start threatening him). Make sure he knows whats up and that you are prepared to beat his a$$ if it comes to it.

Then... if he still continues?? You beat his f***ing a$$. But make sure before you do that, your girl knows the situation (ie she knows that you asked him politely at first etc).

Hope that helps. That would be my reaction anyways.

 

[Blatant truth]

If she doesn't respect you enough to stop his advances, is she worth a fight over? Sounds like the girl you are in love with might not exist. I wonder how she is when you're not around...

The guy is at fault too, but really, if she wanted this to end, she could've done so. Just stop contacting dude, problem solved...but nope, keep your eyes open on this one.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
You just have to keep her wanting you more than she wants him.

Exactly, listen to wyldfire. If you are in any way jealous or let your emotions get the best of you, that will only make him more appealing to her. Beside, I'm sure she's enjoying the drama to some degree. Don't be surprised if she's a little flirty with him to keep getting the attention. I'm not saying this is the case, but keep a sharp eye out.

What you have to do is act like the situation is beneath you. Hell, the situation IS beneath you. It's petty nonsense and you are way to busy to get caught up in childish games. There are plenty of women with less drama you could have at any given point, so why waist time with this? This is the attitude you have to project towards her.

The whole this is funny. He waits until you are not around to talk all that smack to her, what a looser bro. When she tells you he does this, you should laugh and be like 'awww, poor guy, give him a simpathy bang babe, i feel bad for him'. This might seem like an unorthodoxed approach, but believe me it works. She'll start looking at him the same way, clingy and desparate.

 

[backbreaker]

Sounds like you have your own eposide of Laguna Beach going on.


This is just my opinion and I know it doesn't account for much, but the girl sounds like a Drama Queen. Yes what Wyldfire said is TRUE to the nine, but me personally I wouldn't be put in that position in the first place.

Regardless if you were wrong in the fact that you told her that you didn't want her talking to you, the fact is that you made it known that you do not apprricate this and you won't tolorate this. And she still talks to him.

So in otherwords, you clearly laid down the guidelines of the relationship, saying "I don't want you talking to him". If she doesn't like it, then she isn't for you. You can't pick and choose what guildelines of the relationship you want to follow.

Which tells me she is in it for the drama, she probalby gets a kick out of two guys "fighting" for her.


My last GF had a very bad habit of doing something very, very similar... she was/is 25, I am 22, but was 21 at the time. She pretty much lived with me. She had an EX-BF that was 31 and they were together for 6 years before I came in the picture.

Now she never DID anything with him, but everytime I would make her mad, or not do something she didn't like, she would go "talk to him" or go meet him one day...


So one day when she was going to meet him, I changed the locks in the house, and when she got home, I told her that if she couldn't respect my wishes, she can get out. I had all of her clothes neatly bagged outside.

After about a week of ignoring her phone calls, her Mom actually called me and talked me into meeting them and I got back with her, but under my conditions... either she was going to do it my way or she can go, no exepctions. Like I told her, it wasn't even that I thought she was cheating, because I didn't, but it was the princcipal of the matter... I think too highly of myself to sit around why you try to play mind games by staying in contact with your ex.



Anyway, like i said, Drama Queen, maybe she isn't worth all of this drama, maybe you should just let him have her

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by Triple X
Maybe... but even if he does that the other guy will still always be lurking around, trying to steal the girl back. It won't totally solve the problem.

Now let me just say I'm not a 'master' or expert but any means, but I am a man and this is how I see it.

The guy is disrespecting you.. if he knows for sure that you are with her now he has no business trying to pry her away from you.

So what I would do is this... try and get him alone sometime and ask if you can have a word with him. Say to him (be friendly at first) that you know he used to be with her and everything but you are with her now and you can't tolerate him trying to get back with her all the time.

If he accepts.. fair enough, it's all good.

If he continues to disrespect you... then you are perfectly within your rights to tell him the back the f*** off (even start threatening him). Make sure he knows whats up and that you are prepared to beat his a$$ if it comes to it.

Then... if he still continues?? You beat his f***ing a$$. But make sure before you do that, your girl knows the situation (ie she knows that you asked him politely at first etc).

Hope that helps. That would be my reaction anyways.

I like this tact better-this dude needs to back off-you should pull him to the side and try to talk to him as a ma, then if that doesnt work-then you'll have to choose either kick his as*(which could actually cause your girl to go to him) or you'll have to just be on your "A" game at all times with her-the moment that she'll feels doubts about you she will fu*k him and behind your back too...Ex's are dangerous,just hope that you can f*k better than him.

 

[biker_gixxer]

So one day when she was going to meet him, I changed the locks in the house, and when she got home, I told her that if she couldn't respect my wishes, she can get out. I had all of her clothes neatly bagged outside.

Nice...

 

[\O/]

I've always wondered why guys always wanna beat up the other guys hitting on their girls. They are just doing the same thing you are doing to other girls who has bf's. You give it your best shot and if she gives in to you, that's really a problem between her and her bf, not yours. If she decides to cheat on you with some other guy that's hitting on her, that's HER fault. And SHE's the one you should wanna beat up( In theory ofcourse)..

Beating up the dude is just stupid in my opinion. It also shows some weakness on your part. If she is truly so stupid that she would throw away what you have with some smooth moron, then it's her loss. And you should just leave her right there and laugh at how utterly stupid she is.. Show that you can't be broken.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by biker_gixxer
Exactly, listen to wyldfire. If you are in any way jealous or let your emotions get the best of you, that will only make him more appealing to her. Beside, I'm sure she's enjoying the drama to some degree. Don't be surprised if she's a little flirty with him to keep getting the attention. I'm not saying this is the case, but keep a sharp eye out.

What you have to do is act like the situation is beneath you. Hell, the situation IS beneath you. It's petty nonsense and you are way to busy to get caught up in childish games. There are plenty of women with less drama you could have at any given point, so why waist time with this? This is the attitude you have to project towards her.

The whole this is funny. He waits until you are not around to talk all that smack to her, what a looser bro. When she tells you he does this, you should laugh and be like 'awww, poor guy, give him a simpathy bang babe, i feel bad for him'. This might seem like an unorthodoxed approach, but believe me it works. She'll start looking at him the same way, clingy and desparate.

what exactly did the guy do wrong? Because he is gaming a girl with a BF? Sense when did that become "low".. espically with all of the "how do I get this girl with a BF" posts on the forum.


I mean, what's the alterntive, talking to her when this guy is there?

can you blame him? He saw something that he likes.. and she is to blame because she hasn't put the flame out. A girl makes it known if she is available or not, and she has clearly made it known to both parties that she is available.

So why get mad at the guy who is talking to him, or why think any less of him, knowing that you would probably do the same thing?

 

[Triple X]

Originally posted by \O/
I've always wondered why guys always wanna beat up the other guys hitting on their girls. They are just doing the same thing you are doing to other girls who has bf's.

Well personally I find it a sign of huge disrespect. If they don't know she's with you then that's fine... but if they know you two are an item and continue to persist trying to get her... this is when you need to act.

I'm not a violent person and I'm not trying to advocate it but when this sort of thing happens.. these guys are essentially trying to steal something from you. What they are basically saying 'I know you are together, but I couldn't really give a f***... I'm gonna try and take what is yours for myself, f*** you'

If someone tried to steal something from you, you would react, right? (Possibly violently). So why is it any different with a woman?

Some ppl on the board may disagree with me... but I have always maintained that hitting on a girl with a BF is plain wrong. I would never do it personally. Plus why create all that drama when there are plenty of single hotties to choose from?

:woo:

 

[backbreaker]

What they are basically saying 'I know you are together, but I couldn't really give a f***... I'm gonna try and take what is yours for myself, f*** you'

Exactly... why should he give 2 ****s about you?


Just like if you see a hot girl at the mall or at a department store alone and she gives you her phone number, why should you give 2 ****s about her man or their relationship?


As an outsider, it's not my job to give a damn aobut someone elses that'sn ot my friends relationship.


And you aren't TAKING someone's girl, she CHOOSE someone else.. A guy can try all day long, but if the girl is not for sale, then she's not for sale.. thefore he didn't TAKE anything.


And just because she is your GF, it means just that... nothing more, nothing less.. You havne't put a ring on her finger.

2 thigns.. first, now that you are a DJ, any guy that hits on your girl shouldn't stand a chance, and 2) If a guy takes your girl, you should thank him for showing you now that she wasn't the one for you instead of trying to whip his ass, only for her to do it again down the line... what ar eyou going to do... scare her into settling down with yoU? :crackup:


One of my Best Friends, who just so happenes to be a girl, had an EX like that. Always was over protective, even when she wasn't doing anything wrong. When they broke up he tried to kill himself again... the 2nd time he tried to do something like that

Now if a guy is HARASSING my girl.. different story... But if he is pushing up on her and she isn't turning him alway, and you are going to kick HIS ass

 

[mattathensga]

Can you say, " attention *****"??

 

[NewMan]

You just have to keep her wanting you more than she wants him

I disagree - so then when she's tired he can go see all this "Work" he's put into disappear as she fvcks her ex.

we broke up once n she got wit him again then told me she had made a mistake and cares about me blady blah yall know the story. now heres the problem. i told her i dont like her talkin to him (i no big mistake) but she tells me she wont n sh1t. but she still got his phone numbers saved and msn address n that. now when shes out wit me she wont talk to him but when ever i aint there he will come and talk to her. always tellin her how he wants to f**k her n sh1t always hittin on her. my girl tells me that i need to trust her because she wont do anything (bull****)

1) you don't trust her.

2) she's done a repeat fvck on him

3) She's a ho - getting a little action with her ex when you broke up

4) she doesn't care about your feelings - even though her ex is talking sh#t to her, she doesn't close him down.


Why do you put up with this? Attention HO.

Turn it around on her.

Dump her a## - and keep her for some side fvcking.

I can guarantee you she'll go back and fvck him. Let him put up with her sh#t - and you can just use her for poon (because you know that's the kind of girl she is).

 

[Verbal]

this girl sounds like a pain in the a**. she is probley getting off on the attention and seeing you get mad. me i would be pissed too but i make sure they know i demand respect. if she doesnt get right, cut your losses and f**k one of her friends.

 

[duttylove]

what this was basically about was the fact i told her not to do it which i shouldnt have needed to then she does it any way. thanks for the replys guys youve been a great help.

i got rid of her ass, dont need the drama n bullshyt no no more.

 

[Triple X]

Originally posted by duttylove
i got rid of her ass, dont need the drama n bullshyt no no more.

You know, despite what I said I think this was probably the right choice anyhow.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by duttylove
i got rid of her ass, dont need the drama n bullshyt no no more.

Exactly what I was getting at in my prior post.

 

[\O/]

Originally posted by Triple X


If someone tried to steal something from you, you would react, right? (Possibly violently). So why is it any different with a woman?

Because what he's essentially trying to "steal" has a mind of it's own. And if he were to take her away from you , it would be her CHOICE. She would then have chosen him over you, and that's fair game.
I know that an argument is that anyone can be tempted no matter how good your relationship is, but that's just a fact of life. I would rather have a relationship with a girl that i can trust even though lots of guys are hitting on her, than a relationship in which i have to "isolate" her from potential DJ's in order to get her to stay with me....