Need girl help/advice please

[hbkfan]

Ok so my gf dumped me back in Feb. We have not talked or anything until Easter when I sent her a snapchat. Last week we made small talk thru snapchat and text. She also randomly complimented me one day about me wearing a shirt she gave me. She also made a comment how she wanted to talk.

I was in her area but did not tell her. She wondered why I never told her and she said we could have met up to talk. On friday she called me and we talked for over an hour about random things. It was a very nice and good phone call. I told her I was going to be in her area on Saturday and she said she wanted to meet up.

We met up on saturday for 90 min at Buffalo wild wings. It was a good time. She kept asking about me and my family and other things going on in my life. She also made the comment how she had tried calling me a couple times after dumping me to talk to me. She also made a comment about how her family really loved me. She did say she wanted to remain friends and didnt want to close the door on anything between us for the future, she just isnt ready to date right now.

As we were leaving she gave me a big hug. I asked if she wanted to do anything that night because I was in her area looking for jobs/houses. She said she'd get back to me. About an hour or so later she texted me saying 'maybe we could hang out another night'. I just said 'alrite'. She then said 'it was very good to see me though!'. I replied with 'likewise'...Turns out she went out with friends that night and plus it might have been weird to hang out so soon anyways.

On sunday she sent me a random snap of her and her cat cuddling. I sent her a snap later that night but she never opened it until monday. I also sent a picture of me dressed very sharp on monday which she never replied to.

On tuesday morning she sent me a text asking 'why are you best friends on snapchat with one of my friends?" I couldnt reply for a few hours so she text me again saying 'i probably wouldnt reply either'...I then text her back 'sorry i had bad service(which is true) and that i honestly dont know why we are best friends on it, its just random snaps'....she then replied with 'thats cute'

Tuesday night she tried calling me. I was not able to answer, but right after calling me she sent a text saying 'lol k'....then 2 hours later she text me again saying 'you must still have ****ty service huh?"....i never replied

This morning her friend sent me a random snap(the one im best friends with)..i then sent out a random snap of my dogs to her friend and my ex and a few others....my ex then snapped me back 'hope you sent that to Ali too'

What is going on here? I am just confused/bothered by all this. Yes, I love/miss my ex but am in no rush to get back with her. I was very glad everything went well and I understand us not hanging out. But why the backlash now? Why would she be all nice to me all last week, then so hostile this week? And her friend and I have been best friends on snapchat for like 2 weeks now? So why is this an issue? is she really that jealous or what? And how did she find out we were best friends?

My initial thoughts are that she still has feelings for me and is obviously jealous. However I do not know what to do now? Yes I want to talk with her and try to hang out with her again and move forward. But at the same time I just dont know what to say/do. Any help is much appreciated.

 

[Yewki]

She also made a comment about how her family really loved me. She did say she wanted to remain friends and didnt want to close the door on anything between us for the future, she just isnt ready to date right now.

She's doesn't really like you, but her family does and she has no better options.

You're being used. She's searching for better options but wants to keep you on the table just in the case. This girl is going to waste your time and break your heart (again) if you let her. My suggestion is cut contact and drop her. Find someone who's actually into you.

 

[dustmuffin]

She's doesn't really like you, but her family does and she has no better options.

You're being used. She's searching for better options but wants to keep you on the table just in the case. This girl is going to waste your time and break your heart (again) if you let her. My suggestion is cut contact and drop her. Find someone who's actually into you.

This is very good advice. Find someone that likes you and is not just stringing you along. She will always be looking for your replacement. She wants to date just not you. You are her never ending plan B.

 

[70th Win]

This is very good advice. Find someone that likes you and is not just stringing you along. She will always be looking for your replacement. She wants to date just not you. You are her never ending plan B.

This. It's been said a million times and it's worth repeating:
Judge your girl based on her actions, not her words. She can say she loves you but if she isn't showing love what's the point? If she says she wants to be with you, yet always has a reason why she can't, she doesn't really want to be with you.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

She's doesn't really like you, but her family does and she has no better options.

You're being used. She's searching for better options but wants to keep you on the table just in the case. This girl is going to waste your time and break your heart (again) if you let her. My suggestion is cut contact and drop her. Find someone who's actually into you.

Actually I was going to say he's not even the safety net option, nor the backup dude. You know how girls have main guy they're trying to bang who is #1 on their radar, then you have #2 guy she's got on the backburner that's the safety option, you're like #4 or lower. What really amused me is she was demanding explanations of why you have some friend of hers on the chat...why do you owe her an explanation? You are not dating, you're not in a relationship, maybe you can get your balls back out of her purse and tell her that she doesn't get to make demands of you and you'll talk with whomever you want.

 

[RangerMIke]

I like to call this the "Checking In - Drive by and Bye"

Women from your past will periodically do sh!t like this. The purpose is to check in and see that IF she were to decide to take you back... you would be up for it. And oh man you fell into this hook line and sinker. Remember all women are the same and I promise the more women you have in your past the more you will see stuff like this.

First you have to understand that she really isn't interested in hooking up with you. If she were you would have been sharing a Penthouse Forum story instead of this.

Why does this happen? Well for some reason at the moment she is feeling insecure... it could be the guy she is currently fvcking is being a little too distant for her taste, Or she might be in between c0cks right now, and needs a little validation, to carry her over until the next worthy hard one comes along. It could also be one of her friends are getting married, one of her friends is now fvcking a guy she likes.... et. al... look it really doesn't matter. But trust me when I say that it has EVERYTHING to do with what is going on in her life and NOTHING to do with you.

Okay, once you except what I'm saying is a fact now what to do....

You have to play this right because you really don't know if she is doing a "Checking In Drive by and Bye" or if this is a legitimate attempt to reach out to you and hook up again. The fact that you reached out to her first is a STRONG indication this is NOT a legitimate attempt to reach out to you What I'm about to say only really works if she reaches out to you FIRST. Let me repeat it is a MAJOR LEAGUE mistake to reach out to women that has dumped you. If you get dumped you are done, you NEVER reach back out to her first EVER. Trust me, that never ends well.

Okay back on topic. If she reaches out to you try to make a date. Don't do anything else, no long talks on the phone, no texting back and forth... none of that BS. She reaches out you tell her you are busy but would LOVE to see her again, then try to make a date, AT NIGHT, dinner drinks, whatever... no lunches, brunches or walks in the park... You try to make a romantic date. If she gives you ANY ANSWER other than yes, or gives you a legitimate time/date counter offer. Then just thank her for her time and tell her to reach out to you when she has time to see you. Don't be a jerk, but you are a busy man... you don't have time for stupid female BS.

If she is legitimately reaching out to you she will make the date... she might be playing games and being coy, and turn you down, but if you stick to your guns, and refuse to call or reach out, AND she likes you, she will catch on reach out to you again and agree to go out with you on your terms. But if you start acting like a pvssy, you will never know exactly what is going on until it is too late and she fvcking someone else.

 

[dude99]

Ok so my gf dumped me back in Feb. We have not talked or anything until Easter when I sent her a snapchat. Last week we made small talk thru snapchat and text. She also randomly complimented me one day about me wearing a shirt she gave me. She also made a comment how she wanted to talk.

I was in her area but did not tell her. She wondered why I never told her and she said we could have met up to talk. On friday she called me and we talked for over an hour about random things. It was a very nice and good phone call. I told her I was going to be in her area on Saturday and she said she wanted to meet up.

We met up on saturday for 90 min at Buffalo wild wings. It was a good time. She kept asking about me and my family and other things going on in my life. She also made the comment how she had tried calling me a couple times after dumping me to talk to me. She also made a comment about how her family really loved me. She did say she wanted to remain friends and didnt want to close the door on anything between us for the future, she just isnt ready to date right now.

As we were leaving she gave me a big hug. I asked if she wanted to do anything that night because I was in her area looking for jobs/houses. She said she'd get back to me. About an hour or so later she texted me saying 'maybe we could hang out another night'. I just said 'alrite'. She then said 'it was very good to see me though!'. I replied with 'likewise'...Turns out she went out with friends that night and plus it might have been weird to hang out so soon anyways.

On sunday she sent me a random snap of her and her cat cuddling. I sent her a snap later that night but she never opened it until monday. I also sent a picture of me dressed very sharp on monday which she never replied to.

On tuesday morning she sent me a text asking 'why are you best friends on snapchat with one of my friends?" I couldnt reply for a few hours so she text me again saying 'i probably wouldnt reply either'...I then text her back 'sorry i had bad service(which is true) and that i honestly dont know why we are best friends on it, its just random snaps'....she then replied with 'thats cute'

Tuesday night she tried calling me. I was not able to answer, but right after calling me she sent a text saying 'lol k'....then 2 hours later she text me again saying 'you must still have ****ty service huh?"....i never replied

This morning her friend sent me a random snap(the one im best friends with)..i then sent out a random snap of my dogs to her friend and my ex and a few others....my ex then snapped me back 'hope you sent that to Ali too'

What is going on here? I am just confused/bothered by all this. Yes, I love/miss my ex but am in no rush to get back with her. I was very glad everything went well and I understand us not hanging out. But why the backlash now? Why would she be all nice to me all last week, then so hostile this week? And her friend and I have been best friends on snapchat for like 2 weeks now? So why is this an issue? is she really that jealous or what? And how did she find out we were best friends?

My initial thoughts are that she still has feelings for me and is obviously jealous. However I do not know what to do now? Yes I want to talk with her and try to hang out with her again and move forward. But at the same time I just dont know what to say/do. Any help is much appreciated.

Why are you wasting your time on a girl who dumped you? With all the games she is now playing your best bet is to tell her you are increadibly busy then go no contact. You owe her no explanation for anything. The fact that she is saying "her family loves you," is manipulative and she is hoping to keep you as an orbiter. No contact dude. That is yourbest option.

 

[hbkfan]

Thanks for the input everyone. I truly am LOLing at her jealousy and insecurity. I will not play games with her.

I do love and want her back, but I am starting to realize that she just very well may not be worth it. If she wants to talk, and be on good terms she can get ahold of me and she knows how. I know she has feelings for me still otherwise she wouldnt go from 'hot/warm/nice' to being so 'cold/jealous/upset'.

Also I have noticed she reaches out to me about every other day. Today she sent me a random snapchat for no reason of her being silly. I did not respond.

I appreciate all the input from everyone. I will not reach out to her anymore from here on out.

If anyone else has any input I would greatly appreciate it