So for six weeks i've had an HB9 within my grasp, but within my utter paranoia and general pvssyness i never made the move to ask her out, i spent too much time reading her signs. In fact, for the most part i haven't come on strong on her at all, as that's my general composure, i never come on strong with girls.
In recent weeks she toned down her fliting with me, not so much an act of her losing interest in me, but she's come to believe im not attracted to her at all. I've managed to compose myself in a way that makes her think I consistantly can do much better than her. However, that can't be further from the truth.
I only compliment her when it's convienient, and i haven't made a pass at her. I've done kino without any negative response. For the most part, it was always her who approached me, whether it be the phone, IM, or at school.
She is still the one who makes the effort that we hang out when we do and I'm firm that I haven't reached the dreaded friend zone yet. When we're together, we're usually alone, we don't have any mutual friends, and she hasn't given me the "friendship hug of death" that she gives to most of her guy friends. She also makes it a point not to talk about guys she's interested in or dating. From what i perceive, she dropped me from immediate interest to potential interest, as right now she's dating another guy, simply because he was convienient. How i know this isn't at issue, so dont ask. It's not serious, and I know they're not exclusive.
Despite all this, she because rather cold towards me in terms of her level of flirting.
I know you're all going to tell me what I should've done and whatnot, and I know I should have made a move many weeks ago. I'm still beating myself over the head because of it, so i dont need to hear it again. All I need right now is damage control.
However, how can i "turn up the heat" without coming on strong, and making her think I'm only doing it because she's pulled back so much? I guess what I'm trying to ask is how to be flirtatious.
I'm assuming I'm looking for speed seduction. But any tips will help at this point.
I'm also looking for ways to make a girl feel special without kissing her ass.
In recent weeks she toned down her fliting with me, not so much an act of her losing interest in me, but she's come to believe im not attracted to her at all. I've managed to compose myself in a way that makes her think I consistantly can do much better than her. However, that can't be further from the truth.
I only compliment her when it's convienient, and i haven't made a pass at her. I've done kino without any negative response. For the most part, it was always her who approached me, whether it be the phone, IM, or at school.
She is still the one who makes the effort that we hang out when we do and I'm firm that I haven't reached the dreaded friend zone yet. When we're together, we're usually alone, we don't have any mutual friends, and she hasn't given me the "friendship hug of death" that she gives to most of her guy friends. She also makes it a point not to talk about guys she's interested in or dating. From what i perceive, she dropped me from immediate interest to potential interest, as right now she's dating another guy, simply because he was convienient. How i know this isn't at issue, so dont ask. It's not serious, and I know they're not exclusive.
Despite all this, she because rather cold towards me in terms of her level of flirting.
I know you're all going to tell me what I should've done and whatnot, and I know I should have made a move many weeks ago. I'm still beating myself over the head because of it, so i dont need to hear it again. All I need right now is damage control.
However, how can i "turn up the heat" without coming on strong, and making her think I'm only doing it because she's pulled back so much? I guess what I'm trying to ask is how to be flirtatious.
I'm assuming I'm looking for speed seduction. But any tips will help at this point.
I'm also looking for ways to make a girl feel special without kissing her ass.
-- peace