Need advice!

[don quixote]

Hey I'm a 19 year old boy from Europe and just moved to university (2 months ago) . I already went to a lot of partys (at least 2 times a week :cheer-
The problem I am facing is that I'm still virgin which causes me some problems.
At the partys all goes well with the girls I start flirting, kissing but I can't go further... I have the feeling that everybody is sexually well experienced here and it scares me if imagine me doing it with a girl who is 10 times better to me.
I always wanted to find THE girl to loose my virginity but it didn't work out.
I don't know what to do it's a kind of a vicious circle..
thanks!

 

[GotED?]

I didn't lose my virginity until I was around 22yrs old - late bloomer here but I lost it to my first real 'girlfriend'. First time will never be the perfect moment you see on TV, in fact, you may have trouble with performance because nerves will take over in the back of your head. The pressure will be enormous.

I would recommend you find a girl who you can laugh and enjoy good times with, laid back, and can be totally relaxed; YET YOU MUST FIND HER BODY VERY ATTRACTIVE or else you will not feel the passion to want to get inside of her. I think if you want the first time experience to be as easy going as possible, definitely do it with a girl who can make it just happen 'naturally' with least amount of pressure.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[thevilittletroll]

its a problem you have inside your head and you must rid the underlying belief. the belief is that if you make a sexual move on her that she will reject you and she will get mad and leave, you lose the girl forever. the reality is completely the opposite. keep up what you are doing and continue to sexually escalate. yes some girls will stop you, that just means take two steps back and continue to escalate up the ladder. you must make the move. most girls will not initiate sex, so you have to do it.

the other problem you will run into is this. if upon meeting the girl you come across as an alpha male while building attraction with her and you dont take it sexual, you will come across as all talk and no action. she will then lose attraction, putting you into the friend zone, or worse losing the girl completely. so bottom line you will lose more girls by not making your move versus making the move and failing. all you have to do is start pulling the trigger.