Need advice

[Plasticjesus666]

Ok guys here is the thing a really good firend of mine reccomend me here. I have every intention of reading the bible but need some advice asap i would really apprecaite any help you could offer.. Ok well i recently moved in to this house were i rent a room well this gril moved in afterwards and we started hooking up shortly after and started dating. We have been going out for about 2 months now and thigns have been really good. Well recently i have been getting a little emo and i know it. Well the other day she took of to kick it with some friends and I blew up her phone like no other. I than called her homies phone a few times. Left a bunch of messages which i convinved her to delelte without listening to today. Anyways this moring i woke up and asked her why things have been differnt between us latley she than said i dont know thats my answer to everything.. I said well are you leaving me and she said i dont know. I than said somthing i dont remember and she said its not like we hve been together for years. I asked once again and she said i dont know what to do right now. Well i went inside and hopped in the shower than pulled her aside afterwards and said that I love her and will give her space and know that i have been coming on really strong latley she gave me i also said that if she does leave me im not going to go all crazy becasue i would really like to stay friends with her if we do end up breaking up. We live together so yea. Anways i really dont want to lose her is there anythingi can do to tip the balance in my favors or am pretty much ****ed??

 

[Driven2Succeed]

ur never totally fvcked man.. sometimes emotions just get in the way of logical thinking, its totally normal.. controlling it is the key

i dont really agree with dropping the L bomb so soon, esp since she even told u prior that "its not like uv been together for years".. i def would take that as she isn't as serious as u are. not saying shes fvckin other dudes or that she doesn't wanna be with u, but shes obviously not going head over heels like u are.

u posting here shows that u do care about her and thats a good thing man. ur situation is just so touchy cuz u guys live together too.. damn man, thats rough..

i would suggest u just try to chill, dont take it so seriously yet. give her some space but stay "cool" ya know?

hope this helps, ive been in these sticky situations too and dropping the L bomb either starts something serious or scares someone away..hang in there man and if she bails or decides she doesn't wanna be with u just try ur best to take it in stride and remain civil towards ur roommate lol.. peace man

 

[Plasticjesus666]

Thanks for the advice man but to clerify i didnt drop the l word today we have been saying it to eachother for like 3 weeks now. She told me one night when she was drunk and than a few nights later i told her that i love her so on and so fourth

 

[jakeyboy]

i suggest you really take it easy. lean back a little. you're smothering her dude! and she's finding it a little hard to breathe. you should have let her head out with her mates without acting like an obsessive freak. i mean if you know what kind of person she is, and you trust her, then there's no reason to flood her phone with unnecessary ****. and don't bug her for answers. just leave it be. maybe act a little cold towards her. go out and do something with your mates. leave her alone to let her sort out her thoughts. give her the gift of missing you. and please, do not flood her phone. for now no more L bombs. -grin. all the best mate..

 

[jakeyboy]

the reason you're behaving like this is because you have nothing to occupy yourself with. maybe absorb yourself in something. it will help you focus on something else instead of centering your attention on her. and i don't think it's the L word that scared her off though. unless you used it excessively. it's more of the way you're sticking to her like a leech. considering that you guys live together as well. so give her time to do her own thing yeah? cheers.

 

[Plasticjesus666]

Hey guys thanks alot. I really do appreciate all the advice you are giving me helps alot im gonna get to reading the djbible anythingelse you guys have to say is more than welcome

 

[jakeyboy]

so what's your gameplan for now mate?

 

[Driven2Succeed]

think jakeyboy hit it on the head..

sorry, glad to hear u weren't first to drop the huge bomb..thats a good thing..just give her some space but at the same time let her know ur still there for her and u care.. basically stay busy and give her less time.. at first she will be caught offguard and u will struggle to not give in, but in the end u both will be a lot happier..

 

[IsiMan84]

Well the other day she took of to kick it with some friends and I blew up her phone like no other.

Strike one.

I than called her homies phone a few times.

Strike two.

Left a bunch of messages which i convinved her to delelte without listening to today.

Foul tip?

Anyways this moring i woke up and asked her why things have been differnt between us latley

I'm no rocket scientist but I'm going to say the previous 3 quotes had a part in it.

I said well are you leaving me

This translates to me as "I am giving you the control to decide where our relationship goes"

I asked once again

Pressing the issue...

pulled her aside afterwards and said that I love her and will give her space and know that i have been coming on really strong latley she gave me i also said that if she does leave me im not going to go all crazy becasue i would really like to stay friends with her if we do end up breaking up.

This is strike three and getting hit by pitch at the same time. I have a hard time seeing her believe this based on what happened earlier.

You're not 'completely' screwed but I'd say you're in quite a bit over your head. I can definitely tell you to lay off the calling a little bit; you're going to look like the crazy guy down the street if you keep that up. You just need to not talk to her until she tries to contact you. Do not talk to her AT ALL. Just go and do the things you would normally do when you're not around her. In other words, go live your life. You had your life before you met her, and you still have it now.

 

[Plasticjesus666]

Well just for now give her space read the bible i mean I do sleep next to her so wont be completly withdrawin. BUt i did go kick it with my friends today. I just plan on given her kisses everyonce in a while ect encourage her to go kick it with her friends and above all esle try not be so clingy i did aplogize for being so obessive latley on the way to the store tonight. Other than that im just gonna hopef or the best.

 

[Plasticjesus666]

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You're not 'completely' screwed but I'd say you're in quite a bit over your head. I can definitely tell you to lay off the calling a little bit; you're going to look like the crazy guy down the street if you keep that up. You just need to not talk to her until she tries to contact you. Do not talk to her AT ALL. Just go and do the things you would normally do when you're not around her. In other words, go live your life. You had your life before you met her, and you still have it now.

You did get teh par taht we live together right? Anyways man i really do apprecaite what you had to say and your right i ****ed up big last night.

 

[Plasticjesus666]

This whole situation is stressful for me sigh. Patience is what i need though huh?

 

[Plasticjesus666]

Today she seems less distant but still like even to get a kiss i have to approach her should i even stop doing that?