I'm in the Mood said:
What she did: reject his kiss attempt and continue to hug him.
What this means: "I like you but I can't have a relationship with you right now."
What you should do: Yes, by all means pursue other girls. Do NOT get involved with this one until she dumps her boyfriend. Everyone here is telling you to escalate, but I'm telling you NOT to escalate, because as long as she has this boyfriend she can fall back on, your chances are EXTREMELY low.
An alternative would be, when things start to escalate, tell her that you don't want to be just friends and won't do anything with her until she's single. Then you should probably leave to create some tension.
Good luck..
This is
THE BEST advice in the whole thread thus far...
+1 rep.
Now personally,I thought it was already over after just the first 2 or 3 sentences.
Man,I HATE IT when guys get involved and
DECEIVED like this. They get deceived by what appears to be IOIs.
It looks like what Horaholic said about a guy being a "surrogate boyfriend" applies here as well.
This girl is getting all of her emotional needs met by the OP...
the need to feel desired/wanted by a man
the need for emotional intimacy
She's getting basically all this from the OP,but her need/desire for sex is SOLELY RESERVED for her boyfriend/fiancee.
It's EASY TO TELL when a girl is playing you for emotional need because everything else will be there
minus sexuality.
That's why she turned her head when he tried to kiss her.
And all these other things...
"Thinking she the best girl YOU'VE CHOSEN to spend time with"
"Comes to your house and sits in your room between classes"
"Tickling matches"
"Kissing her on the cheek/forehead"
If all of that
was in addition to a sexual relationship,that would be good,REAL GOOD.
That would mean you two have a strong relationship. But all that without sexuality just screams "Friendzone" to me.
And this:
READY_2_ROCK said:
She wrote back and told me that she is interested in me and hugging her and the kissing on the cheek and stuff is fine but she does not want to start anyhitng with someone while she is with someone else
So she told you it's ok to hug her and kiss her on the cheek,which are both signs of affection,
NOT sexuality or sexual attraction.
Basically what she said there that she's interested in getting
affection from you,not anything sexual.
Her fiancee handles the sexual part.
And her statement about taking things slow...
Translation:"I want to keep you on the hook for as long as I can. So the slower I can drag this thing out,the more attention and emotional affection I can get".
A romantic kiss is a sign of sexual intimacy. She wouldn't kiss you. She rejected you when you tried.
That means she rejected your attempt at sexual intimacy with her.
Personally,I'd just move on...unless you're content with tickle fights,cheek and forehead kisses,and such.