Need advice on friend at work, please

[anatomiczero]

I've done MANY things wrong in the past with this girl, here's some background, I started working there when I was 16 and she was 18 (she's a manager, mcdonalds) Now I'm almost 19 and she's 20. The things I have done wrong iclude:

-Buying her little things and being upset when she wouldn't accept them (she doesn't like it, but she lets our other friend do it)
-Saying very corny pick up lines (purposly though so she'd laugh, we were joking)
-Saying she was beautiful like a broken record
-Sometimes i'd touch her like putting my hand on her shoulder or something, she usually backed away, but not all the time
-Tried to get her to tell me her feelings but she wouldn't
-Asked her to the movies or anywhere many times but she wouldn't unlessit was with another person too

I hate to say this, but basically I've been clingy? don't know the right word to use. We are both friends and we have a guy friend. Us 3 have hung out a lot in the past, but she seems to talk to him more and touch him more.

Realizing what i'm typing i'm starting to sound pretty bad, but I want help so I'll continue.

My feelings are that I really like her and want to hook up with her, but she won't say if she's interested in me that way or not, she won't talk about her feelings. Today I didn't flirt with her one bit, i'm trying not to put myself out for her to reject. So should I continue and try to be with her or find someone else. and how do I stop the feelings I have for her? It's hard, i'm confused and don't know what to do.

 

[Walden]

Both FTOW and keep Djing her. If you don't get the girl you get better game.

 

[becker]

It sounds to me like just low IL. See, here's the thing, if she was interested in you, then doing all that stuff that you did (provided it wasn't overly pathetic) would not have ruined your chances. However, if you do that stuff and she's not interested in you already, it looks pathetic in her eyes because you can't take a hint.

That's the problem here. When you choose to pursue a girl who is clearly not attracted to you, you will have to put up with this sort of crap. I'd say move on to another girl until this girl begins to show some interest in you at least. Perhaps she may realize later that you're not as clingy or needy as you might have seemed before. It's dangerous to move too fast with a girl who isn't attracted to you initially, because part of the game in my opinion here is that if she's not attracted to you, then build it up slowly.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Maaaaannnnn....Dont mess with work girls...You can get put in the friendship zone cause you cant kino girls and you cant say certian things cause of sexual harrasment...So dont bother...

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by anatomiczero
I've done MANY things wrong in the past with this girl, here's some background, I started working there when I was 16 and she was 18 (she's a manager, mcdonalds) Now I'm almost 19 and she's 20. The things I have done wrong iclude:

-Buying her little things and being upset when she wouldn't accept them (she doesn't like it, but she lets our other friend do it)
-Saying very corny pick up lines (purposly though so she'd laugh, we were joking)
-Saying she was beautiful like a broken record
-Sometimes i'd touch her like putting my hand on her shoulder or something, she usually backed away, but not all the time
-Tried to get her to tell me her feelings but she wouldn't
-Asked her to the movies or anywhere many times but she wouldn't unlessit was with another person too

I hate to say this, but basically I've been clingy? don't know the right word to use. We are both friends and we have a guy friend. Us 3 have hung out a lot in the past, but she seems to talk to him more and touch him more.

Realizing what i'm typing i'm starting to sound pretty bad, but I want help so I'll continue.

My feelings are that I really like her and want to hook up with her, but she won't say if she's interested in me that way or not, she won't talk about her feelings. Today I didn't flirt with her one bit, i'm trying not to put myself out for her to reject. So should I continue and try to be with her or find someone else. and how do I stop the feelings I have for her? It's hard, i'm confused and don't know what to do.

UHHH..Dood you've got a MAJOR case of ONE-ITIS!!! I don't know why you think something is going to magically happen suddenly? If she was even slightly interested in you, she would have given you a sign by now!! Move on, your embrassing yourself.


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