Need Advice for Tonight!

[italostud]

Hey guys. Got this HB8's number at the gym last tuesday. I've waited until today(sunday) to call her. I'll probably call her around 7 or 8. Now I was thinking of calling her up and asking her "what are you doing tonight/right now" and asking her to come with me to get drinks/coffee or something. Is this generally a good approach(totally spontaneous), or should I try to set something up for later on in the upcoming week. Thanks boys

 

[IrReSiStIbLe]

Nah buddy,
I say call her today and ask her out for coffee... i reckon its too early to ask her out for tonight... i say get to know her, and on the second date, take her out to a bar/pub/nightclub... goodluck breh

P.S.
Dont even think about setting up something for the upcoming week...! chicks are the moodiest creatures on earth... she'll definately cancel it by the end of the week... trust me.. im telling u from experience...

 

[Santos]

I normally ask a girl on a date one/two days in advance. That gives her less time to cancel on you, and if she's free there's less of a chance of something else coming up and her not making it. Normally I just go for coffee during the day (weekend normally) or sometimes in the evening. Short and sweet. Get an idea of what she's like.

EDIT: Try the spontanueos approach if you like. If this girl digs you it won't be hard to set up a date. By being spontaneous it looks like you're very busy and have squeezed her into your "busy schedule".

 

[Pimp-sicle]

ItaloStud: Bro you seem like your planning this out like a workout routine. Don't be "too organized" call her up, fluff talk for a couple of minutes, get a get-together and get off the phone. Simple as 1-2-3


PIMP

 

[iqqi]

i think it is a great idea, as long as you aren't EXPECTING her to say yes. in other words, have a plan B for yourself so that you don't care too much if she can't make it.

 

[italostud]

Ok guys, here's what happened.

Called her up around 7. Made small talk for like a minute, then she goes "is this your home #?" I forgot to block my #(doh). I said yes, then she goes "can I call you back tomorrow, we're just heading out right now, blah blah ok, I'll call you tomorrow"

The only thing I think I could have done differently would have been to say "Nah that's ok, I'll try to call you later on in the week"
Did I give her too much power? Lol

 

[iqqi]

no, stop trippin. you give her too much power only if you give her too much power. (care too much about what she is doing/thinking/acting) for no good reason. relax. maybe she'll call you like she said she would.

and maybe she won't. even that is not a big deal.

 

[Gold Heart]

always try to set up your dates on the same day or at MOST - the next day so you decrease the chances of her cancelling.

 

[Santos]

Originally posted by iqqi
no, stop trippin. you give her too much power only if you give her too much power. (care too much about what she is doing/thinking/acting) for no good reason. relax. maybe she'll call you like she said she would.

and maybe she won't. even that is not a big deal.

I agree, the power a woman has over you is equivalent to the effect she has on you emotionally. If you sit there worrying about her calling, then she has power ove you. If she likes you she should get hold of you, if not, wait a few days and call again.

 

[GirlCrazy]

I agree, the power a woman has over you is equivalent to the effect she has on you emotionally.

Very well put. And if a woman you just met last week has any emotional effect on you, then you're doing something wrong. More men need to understand this concept.