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nice_guyeh

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so i met this girl a few months back, met up, and saw her a few times, then didn't for a while. we still talked and such but didn't see each other for a month or more.
so week ago ish,we went out for food and then to the lake after.
it was fun, i had a real good time. both laughed a lot, good eye contact.lots of goofin' and playful jokes/body hitting i guess you could say. she said she had a really fun time and we set up another day to get together.
few days ago we met up again and hung out for like 4-5 hours. it was fun, lots of laughing and goofin again. i think shes cool as ****, amazing lol, shes fun to be around. but she seems like shes hiding something. im positive shes single right now, guranteed maybe a month or 2 before i met her she had a long relationship, i know she used to maybe still does think about him, and thinks about the past relationship. at points when hanging with her she seems like shes not there, and then BAM,were laughing, having fun,eye contact and w.e

tell me whatcha thinkkkk,shes brilliant and im kinda not knowing what to do right now.
thanks
 

Iceberg

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Sounds like you're in the classic situation of getting all crazy about some girl who you haven't even touched yet.

"cool as sh**" "amazing" "brilliant"

She's a girl, dude. Just a girl. I've dated a lot of girls. Probably a lot more than you. And I wouldn't speak so highly of all the great girls I've dated as you're talking about some girl you barely know.

My point is, calm down. Stop hanging out with her on non-dates. Kiss her. Touch her. Make it clear that you're a man, she's a woman, and you're interested in her. Otherwise you're just going to end up having what you already have...a friend who happens to be a girl.
 

sexysuave

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Exactly what Iceberg said, you have to DO something with her lol.

Dont' just keep hanging out as "friends", make moves on her!

Do you risk a chance of her not liking that and not wanting you, sure! But at least you're doing something! Trust me, it's FAR BETTER to try screwing her (well, do try making out first lol ;) ) and not getting it, then nothing doing anything and her ONLY liking you as a friend and you being so infatuated with her. That is just a horrible situation.

So be a man and make a move on her, and be casual about it, don't make a big damn deal, just kiss her and continue talking about what you were talking about, like nothing happened, then kiss her some more, than keep talking or caressing her or whatever is giong on, and then kiss her some more, but never talk about what you're doing, dont' TELL her anything as far as liking her or any of that stuff, SHOW her, NEVER tell, always SHOW by making a move on her.

Hell, you'd be shocked how many girls I've had after I've made some moves on them and what not, done some light making out, and then have them say that despite ALL THAT , we will NEVER sleep together, NEVER EVER EVER!! :crackup: (this still cracks me up, it's nuts)

Then a few days later (or maybe even that same night), those same girls I was pounding away on while they were moaning and groaning and saying YES YES YES.. ahaha, this still makes me laugh. So yeah, be a man and make a move on her no matter what, the longer you wait, the worse it is.

the VERY NEXT TIME you're with this girl, just sweep her of her feet and go in and kiss her, and dont' say sh*t, just act like nothing happened, and then kiss her again in a few minutes, and act as if nothing happened, and keep proceeding.. be confident and dont' give a damn and you'll be shocked!!

And let us know what happens.
 

Packers2010

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girls screw guys by putting them in the friend-zone. guys screw girls the old fashioned way.

just a question of who screws who first. you can screw a girl and still have a good time. but once your in that friend- zone. your going to be getting screwed. not as fun as screwing a girl now is it?

think about it.
 

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think im stuck in this friend zone
fml lol
got way to jacked up about this girl. you guys were def right. much to learn......
 

nice_guyeh

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no time man. i think she nexted me
shoulda grew a pair and did something a while ago. feels like a punch in the throat but its good haha, on the hunt again!
 

Tiguere

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damn dude 5 hour dates???? what the hell were you doing? its obvious why she nexted you.
 

nice_guyeh

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^ yea really eh. lol ok moaybe not 5 hr,but def chilled for a while. just hanging out dude. going for a vcay soon,maybe see whats up when i get back
 

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