DonDraper7
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Ok guys this is my first post so its probably going to be long, bear with me for a while 
I will appreciate all feedback.
First a little info on me: I was always the good, nice guy. After i got my heart shatterd to ****ing pieces by this girl i started to reflect my past mistakes and i started to change onto a more ****y guy, confident, dominant guy. I found this forum and i already read some really good threads, you guys gave me such a confidence boost its unreal. I want to fully evolve into a DJ.
A while back in college i noticed this stunning blonde, a solid 9, and i noticed her looking at me but i was on my way to class so i did nothing. Then 2 days later she added me on facebook, we don't have any mutual friends so she really put in the work to find me. I then started messaging her and to cut it a bit shorter we ended up in a relationship.
She told me she had 3 LTR that lasted all by 1 year mark sence 3rd grade in high school (when we met it was 2nd year of college so she never really was single a lot eh). That meant she had much more experience than me seeing as i never really had an LTR (just a couple of short term ones) and she was much much more sexually experienced than me.
We fell in love really quick, she was the first one to say it and noted that she is usually a cold person who doesn't show emotions that quick and she admitted that she never fell in love this soon in anyone but i blew her off her feet and she couldn't believe we were so compatible. After that i fell head over heels for her, i mean she was different that all of my other ex'es (at least i thought so at the time) really she is super confident, honest, and a quality woman (i still mean that) . She said she isn't romantic at all, but she would love it with me, so goddamnit i was romantic, i did romantic **** i haven't done before, and she admited that with every move i made i made her feel in love with me even more...Sex was amazing and i learned a lot from her lol.
So i tried that everything goes perfect with her, i tried too hard to not scare her off with some bullcrap cause i could see us going for a long long time. One day when we went out i went super quite cause i was pissed over some private thing that didn't involve her and i failed to share that with her. She got angry cause i didn't tell that instantly. After that day she became colder, and i called her on it, she of course said its nothing. Days went by and summer came closer and then the bomb hit me. She didn't want to be with me for the summer but she DID want to be with me till our year at college ends and summer begins, i as dumb as i was accept that. I tried even harder do make her change her mind, but i failed. We broke up and her reason was that she wasn't single for 3 summers in a row, and she couldn't bear one more summer like that, she is young and just wants to be single for a while and enjoy life. I got the LJBF treatment with the exception we could have sex if we are both single. My heart was broken, i felt pain like i never felt it before, i though this is it she is "THE ONE", but she ****ing broke me. How can a girl change from "I've never been this much in love and happy before i adore you" to "I just want to be single for a while"?
Fast forward 2 weeks i see her at a party dancing with some dude who was kissing her neck, but when he went for the lips she pulled away every time. She saw me and just starred, and i was pissed, i was about to beat the livng **** of that dude, but my friend cooled me off. So i just went pass them not saying a ****ing "hi" to her, just cold bloded pass by me. We texted that night and i told her glad to see you happy with your new boyfriend, she went into defense mode and told he is just a buddy. Later i found out that dude has a long term gf lol. **** that ****
I went no contact after that, that was a little more than a month ago. In that time i realised all the mistakes i made in our relationship. I changed in that one month, i changed my hair style, i started going to the gym again, looking better than ever, and i realised i neet to get laid more, cause she was only my 2nd girl that i slept with, and that sucks cause i really am a good looking guy wih little experiance. So im looking to spin some plates, but in the last few days i had gotten this idea that i should contact my ex and see if she wants a FWB, she is super hot and sex is amazing. She may have had a couple of red flags: *emotion possibly being one, *as far as i understod from our conversations she had quite a few sexual partners, i didnt want to know the number, seeing as she was my 2nd and she was obviously very sexually open. That's one of the reasons i maybe want the FWB thing with her (and showing her my new side, thats my ego speaking). Of course i would still be pursuing other girls, and spining plates.
What are your thoughts on this? I could really use some good advice, and im sorry for this long ass post i wanted to share as much as possible so that you could understand
I will appreciate all feedback.First a little info on me: I was always the good, nice guy. After i got my heart shatterd to ****ing pieces by this girl i started to reflect my past mistakes and i started to change onto a more ****y guy, confident, dominant guy. I found this forum and i already read some really good threads, you guys gave me such a confidence boost its unreal. I want to fully evolve into a DJ.
A while back in college i noticed this stunning blonde, a solid 9, and i noticed her looking at me but i was on my way to class so i did nothing. Then 2 days later she added me on facebook, we don't have any mutual friends so she really put in the work to find me. I then started messaging her and to cut it a bit shorter we ended up in a relationship.
She told me she had 3 LTR that lasted all by 1 year mark sence 3rd grade in high school (when we met it was 2nd year of college so she never really was single a lot eh). That meant she had much more experience than me seeing as i never really had an LTR (just a couple of short term ones) and she was much much more sexually experienced than me.
We fell in love really quick, she was the first one to say it and noted that she is usually a cold person who doesn't show emotions that quick and she admitted that she never fell in love this soon in anyone but i blew her off her feet and she couldn't believe we were so compatible. After that i fell head over heels for her, i mean she was different that all of my other ex'es (at least i thought so at the time) really she is super confident, honest, and a quality woman (i still mean that) . She said she isn't romantic at all, but she would love it with me, so goddamnit i was romantic, i did romantic **** i haven't done before, and she admited that with every move i made i made her feel in love with me even more...Sex was amazing and i learned a lot from her lol.
So i tried that everything goes perfect with her, i tried too hard to not scare her off with some bullcrap cause i could see us going for a long long time. One day when we went out i went super quite cause i was pissed over some private thing that didn't involve her and i failed to share that with her. She got angry cause i didn't tell that instantly. After that day she became colder, and i called her on it, she of course said its nothing. Days went by and summer came closer and then the bomb hit me. She didn't want to be with me for the summer but she DID want to be with me till our year at college ends and summer begins, i as dumb as i was accept that. I tried even harder do make her change her mind, but i failed. We broke up and her reason was that she wasn't single for 3 summers in a row, and she couldn't bear one more summer like that, she is young and just wants to be single for a while and enjoy life. I got the LJBF treatment with the exception we could have sex if we are both single. My heart was broken, i felt pain like i never felt it before, i though this is it she is "THE ONE", but she ****ing broke me. How can a girl change from "I've never been this much in love and happy before i adore you" to "I just want to be single for a while"?
Fast forward 2 weeks i see her at a party dancing with some dude who was kissing her neck, but when he went for the lips she pulled away every time. She saw me and just starred, and i was pissed, i was about to beat the livng **** of that dude, but my friend cooled me off. So i just went pass them not saying a ****ing "hi" to her, just cold bloded pass by me. We texted that night and i told her glad to see you happy with your new boyfriend, she went into defense mode and told he is just a buddy. Later i found out that dude has a long term gf lol. **** that ****
I went no contact after that, that was a little more than a month ago. In that time i realised all the mistakes i made in our relationship. I changed in that one month, i changed my hair style, i started going to the gym again, looking better than ever, and i realised i neet to get laid more, cause she was only my 2nd girl that i slept with, and that sucks cause i really am a good looking guy wih little experiance. So im looking to spin some plates, but in the last few days i had gotten this idea that i should contact my ex and see if she wants a FWB, she is super hot and sex is amazing. She may have had a couple of red flags: *emotion possibly being one, *as far as i understod from our conversations she had quite a few sexual partners, i didnt want to know the number, seeing as she was my 2nd and she was obviously very sexually open. That's one of the reasons i maybe want the FWB thing with her (and showing her my new side, thats my ego speaking). Of course i would still be pursuing other girls, and spining plates.
What are your thoughts on this? I could really use some good advice, and im sorry for this long ass post i wanted to share as much as possible so that you could understand
