Nearing 25- anything to look forward to?

[sambwoy]

I'll be 25 in April. I think I have been hit by a quarter-life crisis bug, not just with women (never had a girlfriend at any rate), but also jobs. It is making me depressed and desperate.

Anything to look forward to?

Secondly, why does society always fuss about age?

 

[bullethead]

well, if you are at the bottom the only way is up. Don't worry hang in there and work hard. And love yourself first and everyone (including girls) will fall for you.

 

[AAAgent]

same here man. My quarter century is coming up in April as well.

Life might suck sometimes but it sucks for everyone sometimes. It's always been my interpretation that life is fair. I believe in yin & yang (balance). No one person is born to suck at everything in their life and no one person is born to be the best at everything in life. Everyone person has their downfalls. One person may suffer more than another but also has received more in life.

Since you can't be perfect and can't choose what skills you were born naturally with, work with what you have. What are your strengths? figure those out and cultivate them day after day until you are confident in your strengths to the point where you have no doubt of your abilities. What are your weakness's? Work on improving those everyday so when push comes to shove and you need to rely on one of your weakness's your life doesn't collapse.

My Strengths

Persistent, creative, willing to learn and accept failure, very social in small groups & above average height/looks for my ethnicity.

Some people may not be good at anything but perhaps their skills is in learning many skills well and not being great at a single thing. Never doubt your worth in this world because when you do, you lose all self worth. It's important to believe in yourself, believe that any woman you deem worthy would be lucky to have an amazing person like you, company, team, etc.

But in order to sometimes to find your worth you need to see what skills you possess and don't say you don't have any because that's bvllsh1t. The only people that end up worthless are ones that let themselves be worthless. I'm your age, and though i feel i have gotten older i still feel young and energetic.

When i went through the worst time of my life i said to myself this one phrase "It only gets worse before it gets better." and i continued to work on bettering my life day after day while horrible things happened to me. The first time something good happened, i ignored it as a fluke and kept on trucking working on projects, reading, etc. all to make myself more valuable. Eventually more good things started to happen consistently and the bad things that did happen started to become the fluke. My life is normal and everyday i still work on making my life even better than it is now, making myself a better person than yesterday, and ultimately making myself a more valuable person in anyones eyes.


Fall seven times, Stand up eight.

-AAA

 

[Bible_Belt]

You're still a kid. 25 is the new 19.

 

[L B]

Doesn't really change much. Stay healthy and age is just a random number.

The only thing is are you happy? If not, then do something about it.

If you're going to believe in the quarter life crisis, then use it to you advantage by using it as a new chapter in your life where you become more productive.

 

[st_99]

You're still a kid. 25 is the new 19.

true, and as far as women... lol, you're just getting started. It only gets better for men, especially in your 30's.

I remember in my mid 20's broke up from my LTR and thought the best days of my dating, sex life where over. hahahah, what a joke!

Young guys can be so naive.

 

[Serg897]

Im turning 25 in May also. Started 2012 in a rut since a girl I was very enamored with dropped me recently like yesterdays garbage, and I'm still thinking about her too much. Im not in a happy mood right now, slightly depressed. I can only try to keep reassuring myself...this too shall pass.

 

[Mike32ct]

Do the comb over and buy that corvette lol.

In all seriousness, 25 is a GREAT age. Actually, a great time to be a man is like 27 to 33.

You can do ANYTHING you want. Even if it doesn't work out, you are young enough to try and try again.

I mean this sincerely. Get EXCITED and think about what you want.

 

[Boilermaker]

25 is one of the crappiest ages of all time. You are struggling to be somebody, pay is bad, you get bashed and pushed around all the time by your boss (if you have one), you are still looked down upon as a student, hard to attract decent women because you are too young, responsibilities start to kick in and sh!t goes downward and money upward.

good luck el duda

 

[sodbuster]

SH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!T, I WISH I was 25. Life is finally what you make it..parents and professors are out of the loop, 19 year old women think you are wise,you have a job and money while their friends are broke azz college students. Invest now and set yourself up for a great life[monetarily,mentally,physically]

 

[Jitterbug]

Every mid-20s I know is harping on about this so-called quarterlife crisis. How did this become trendy?

 

[Nutz]

25-35 is the best. Younger women don't get hung up on age nearly as often once you're older, you're not "old guy" at the club, and so long as you stay in shape you'll find your options just get better and better. 33-35 for men is like being the hot big tittied 19 year old blond in terms of how women respond, so long as you stay in shape and have tight game.

 

[3countriesPlan]

33-35? Lol looking forward to that.. I found out things really take off at about age 28.. when you are competing with people in their 40s you laugh cause they are all aged and when competing with 21 year olds you are about 10 times wiser and more skilled at the game than them.. 28-39, best time ever!

 

[Nutz]

If you haven't see this yet, watch it asap:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_yr2LDVObs

 

[Griever114]

I feel you brother. I just hit 26 and am trying to hack my way through a bryer patch of psycho b1tches. Since i left college i have lost my dad, 2 jobs (economy), a fee friends and been through hell. Just now i got a great job, lost some more weight and hopefully will have enough money for my own place by the end of the year.

Wouldnt hurt though if i had some sweet arm candy to "bump and grind" the time away .

 

[synergy1]

It is my belief that your 20s are about developing who you are as a person, and your future security. Get in shape, network, get smarter, start developing wealth, and enjoy your youth. At 25, you are just starting to figure this stuff out and looking back, I knew nothing at 25 and have grown so much since than. And on a side note, I am much much better with women at 31 than I was at 25; you'll start to notice more success as well if you stay single for the coming years.

Don't think of 25 as a crisis so much as the beginning of a journey. You haven't peaked yet. Keep working at it.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

Nutz posted a video with 10 solid pieces of advice - many of which are advocated in one form or another on this forum. The interesting advice was regarding debt. Don't finance the present at the expense of the future. Going for broke at 25 to try and impress people will only hurt you in your 30s, and won't help you at all. I followed this to a tee, and am now much better off than folks who decided it would be smart to take on a ton of debt. Those people are on the verge of depression as we speak.

 

[mrRuckus]

Every mid-20s I know is harping on about this so-called quarterlife crisis. How did this become trendy?

the greatest generation
the boomer rape the planet generation
the blahest generation
the whiniest generation

 

[sambwoy]

Every mid-20s I know is harping on about this so-called quarterlife crisis. How did this become trendy?

I only say because I looked it up on an encyclopedic website. I don't know where it originated. Obviously it has spun off from the 'midlife crisis'.

 

[sodbuster]

The flip side of the lousy economic conditions... IF you have your act together, you can stand out more than the posers. A 35 year old with a 100k job will be in BIG demand when compared to 21 year old guys flipping burgers. Money isn't important until you don't have any... when women are struggling financially, money will be more important than looks...survival trumps all

 

[Super Hero]

Some good tips here guys.
Here's my input

If you want more girls in your life, you need to talk to more girls everyday.

Start a new routine. A new game plan for talking to more and more girls.

This'll help you get used to hanging out with gorgeous honeys. That's how I
did it.

I made a few hot chick friends. I started getting blazed with them.
We all got more and more comfortable together, and we had fun.

Pretty soon I knew I had the skills to be a great friend to anyone.
I knew I could talk to a girl for HOURS without really saying much at
all!!

I just kept asking questions and following her cues.

Then, I started learning seduction, and fingering lots and lots of girls
on my bed at college.

I remember I brought this one girl home from a party (just met her),
and we went into my bedroom. She sat on my bed and immediately
started taking off her clothes.

I remember Marilyn Manson was playing. She was this cute goth chick.
Totally amazing ass for a goth girl. I covered her ass with my load.

I'll spare you the details. (lol)

Later that year, we had the "village *****s" show up with pornos and
dildos. I guess they had heard stories about our reckless, but awesome
lifestyle.

We rolled camera and VOILA! We made a porno!

These things can happen if you'll just start hanging with more women.

Girls LOVE sexual experiences. And lying is the most fun a girl can have
without taking off her pants.

Have a great day.