n00b help/advice

[vlct]

Hey guys,

First time poster here so bare with me.
Well i'm 19 years old and i'm in a really bad patch when it comes to women. When I was younger it was a lot easier for me to speak to them for some reason or other, now i cant approach anyone anymore. I go to nightclubs every week trying to improve on speaking to girls and what not but nothing has changed.
Could someone give me advice when it comes to talking/meeting girls in a nightclub? Being the only real time i see them during the week.
If you can point me in the direction of some stuff that would be great!
Thanks.

 

[909pua]

dont make it your goal just to talk to women in the street or in the nightclub. Talk to all kinds of females in the street, club, store, movies, etc etc, wherever they exist whether they are fat, skinny, tall, short, dark, light, ugly or fat, this way you build up your self confidence.

This it the mistake many people make, they only talk to GOOD looking women.

 

[JJ109]

don't make girls your primary object, make YOURSELF the primary object.

what I mean by that is, improve yourself, love yourself. Do things that is interesting to you, set goals and have fun with your life. As soon as you start doing that, girls will soon be attracted to you. It's not about looks, money, or power, it's how you carry yourself.

 

[909pua]

don't make girls your primary object, make YOURSELF the primary object.

what I mean by that is, improve yourself, love yourself. Do things that is interesting to you, set goals and have fun with your life. As soon as you start doing that, girls will soon be attracted to you. It's not about looks, money, or power, it's how you carry yourself.

Amen to that! He is totally right

 

[vlct]

Thanks for the replies so far.
I've tried to "improve myself" in feeling better about myself in going to the gym on a regular occasion which has seen good results physically and also mentally where i feel a lot more confident with myself, but I think the problem with myself is that I'm far to paranoid about what a girl will think of me talking to them, and I have realised I'm too afraid of rejection.
No mean to sound arrogant, but when I'm in a nightclub a lot of girls look and smile and dance next to me and everything, but for some reason I just don't have the courage to dance with them, let alone talk to them.
Does anyone know what I can do to give me more success??
Thanks