My Thoughts on DJ-ing

pleadingthefifth

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Hey guys! I'm a first time poster but I'm not new to the forum. I have read around1/3 to a 1/2 of the DJ bible. Just a summary of the things that I've learned and implemented and the effect that it's had.

Confidence
Keep your chin up: Literally the easiest thing that you can do. You look important, you feel important and your perceived value goes way up. As a high school student I just pick a spot all the way down the hall where the wall meets the ceiling and look there when you're walking. Confidence shoots right up, ladies give you looks and everyone respects you because you respect yourself.

Walk Like You Mean It: My minister used to say, "Walk slowly, look holy" and this completely applies to real life especially highschool. When you're walking walk slowly (unless you have to be somewhere really soon, in which case manage your time better). When you walk slowly not only are you are letting the world come to you but you are also in charge of your own world. This is your realm, don't let anyone push you around. If people are walking the other way let them walk around you, it displays social wealth and makes others respect you.

Interaction with Others
Don't Be Afraid of Physical Contact: Physical contact builds relationships. Fact. Whether it be handshakes, hugs, kisses or simple hand brushes. Your personality can only take you so far. BE FLUENT IN BODY LANGUAGE. This was one of the hardest lessons for me to learn and I'm still working on it. I've found that there are a two simple rules that I follow that work for me.
1. Maintain Your Position
2. Take New Ground
You need to assert your position of social status by not giving it up to anyone because you are at the top of the social food chain. By also "intruding" on others you show that you aren't afraid of contact.

Personality: Don't be afraid to say something that might offend someone. People don't listen to that one guy who never says anything important. You need to have substance when you speak. Use buzz words to catch people's attention. If you aren't excited about what you're talking about then why should other people. It cannot be understated how big of an effect it can have if you smile when you talk. Smiling creates charisma that cannot be duplicated otherwise.

Be Cultured: Being cultured, in my opinion, involves many aspects. The first is being respectful of others cultures. Not everyone is going to have the same beliefs or values as you, the least you can do is be tolerant and accepting towards others. You don't have to be friends with everyone but being openly ignorant can lose you friends and ladies quickly.
My next point about being cultured would be to keep up with pop culture, not like the Kardashians but keeping in touch with sports and popular T.V. shows can make you someone that other people want to talk to. I try and soak in as much information as I can. I follow football, baseball, basketball, and soccer as well as watching a few comedies periodically on tv.
My last point would be hang around with other groups of people. You never know what you can learn from another culture. Our world is a global community, so embrace that and use it to your advantage.

Conclusion
I am by no means an expert but this is just what I have learned as a senior in high school. All of these rules are based off of the principle that you need to have your own life before you can attract women.
I hope you guys took something out of this and if you did comment below. For those of you just reading at this point, keep working at improving yourself. And remember this, INVEST IN YOURSELF BECAUSE YOUR POTENTIAL IS UNLIMITED
 

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Bottom line being: all of this is great for increasing confidence when starting out, but none of these quick fixes, although they can facilitate, cannot replace real self-improvement.

Personally I find that keeping up with pop culture matters nothing the more charismatic you get. I'd rather invest all that time into actual improvement.
 

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Obviously these tactics are not all that I implemented but these were the few that I felt had a major difference in transforming myself from a boardline socially awkward kid into someone who has the confidence to do anything I please.

And although they may seem like quick fixes, these have a snowball effect that can go towards making yourself into a better you.

Everyone needs a starting point and these are not the only things you should have in your arsenal. These rules helped me develop into the person that I am today so I wanted to share. If I went wrong somewhere please feel free to show me where.
 

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pleadingthefifth said:
And although they may seem like quick fixes, these have a snowball effect that can go towards making yourself into a better you.

Everyone needs a starting point and these are not the only things you should have in your arsenal. These rules helped me develop into the person that I am today so I wanted to share. If I went wrong somewhere please feel free to show me where.
I wasnt at any point dismissing your post. I very much agree with what you say here.
 
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