My thoughts about errection problems

[SW15]

90%+ of erection problems for men under 40 are psychological. Yes, being healthy, working out (especially cardio), no smoking, diet, and moderate drinking all help, but far and away the number one issue is performance anxiety.

Chicks watch porn these days too so, like it or not, they do expect you to perform. Just the way it is. If you can't get a hard d*ick, she'll find someone who can, especially if she’s hot.

The 2nd part can make performance anxiety worse. Condoms are not the best either but necessary in many cases.

 

[Romanemp22]

90%+ of erection problems for men under 40 are psychological. Yes, being healthy, working out (especially cardio), no smoking, diet, and moderate drinking all help, but far and away the number one issue is performance anxiety.

It does help if you're into the girl, but if you've been out drinking and it's a ONS or girl you just met or stared dating, PA is fairly common. Nowadays, there's no reason not to have some Viagra/Sildenafil (generic) on hand. I pop 10mg every time a bang a casual chick which is 100% these days. It's all I need. Any more and I get side effects and it affects my ears (have tinnitus). 10mg works like a charm for a few hours.

Chicks watch porn these days too so, like it or not, they do expect you to perform. Just the way it is. If you can't get a hard d*ick, she'll find someone who can, especially if she’s hot.

I would say small dosage of viagra will not have effect if you're bigger guy, that would be to low, 50 mg will be fine. I'm 6'3 tall and have 221lbs and 15mg didn't do anything for me some time ago.

 

[logicallefty]

Pheromones man. You have to both find her attractive and also respond to her pheromones. There have been women who look good to me but her pheromones killed my b0ner. Kinda like my sister would.

 

[Bigpapa]

It was trying to pinpoint that being into the girl helps you out with the performance , otherwise you will not feel like banging her in the first place , which will decrease your performance by a lot

banging women only because it is cool , does not equate with good or great sex .On the contrary , most of the times you do not feel like banging the woman and you will just have in your head after penetrating her a couple of times “ I just want to *** fast and leave “

 

[TheNewStyle123]

to be super frank , after a while with a girl , I feel much better when I masturbate than when I sleep with her ... and sex just feels like a chore

dunno why this happens ... maybe because I do not feel fulfilled from an emotional point of view or something

and I have been with seriously hot girls , but more or less I end up in the same situation eventually

I know the feeling brother hahaha

 

[TheNewStyle123]

Yeah theres a lot of different reasons. Here's what works for me.

1. 1 beer or less.

2. Heavy lifting and sprints to build muscle and force the body to create more testosterone.

3. Living a calm life without a drama and a lot of stress. Stress kills erections and libido. Cut out the news. Dont get in firefights with people online. For finances, I'm big into cash and carry. No debt means not a lot of financial stress. Her massages if you can afford it. Maybe hot bath if you cant. Sounds gay, but this calms your parasympathetic system and you are just more relaxed.

4. Clean diet and very little or no caffeine.

5. Cut out porn. Replace that habit with reading. Porn wrecks a man's mind. Dont masturbate. My take is you should be getting enough sex that you dont need to rub one out. If you are in a drought, use that pent up sexual energy to accomplish something big.

6. I also keep Viagara on hand. On first lays when I want to make sure theres no issues, I'll just pop a pill. It's just an insurance that I'll be ready to rock.

7. Keep raising SMV so you are dating better looking women. When good looking women are excited to be with you, male sexual problems tend to vanish.

Very well put man!

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

So recently I started having some problems with my erection , and initially I was a little bit worried

then I realized that when this happens it is mainly because I do not like the girl enough to f8ck her

so the erection problem is mainly in the guy head ... after your share of women , you basically know what you like and what you do not like , and is very difficult to make something that you already know that you do not like pleasurable

I thought that I had this issue so I started imagining that I am having sex with someone else and my errection was horse worthy . In the moment I was opening my eyes or heard her moaning , my penis would die slightly soon after little by little

in this case was a good looking black woman, first I had and basically realized early one that I do not like her . The body type of black women is very different then a white one

Theres also an excercise called jelqing. It makes your penis grow. Mine was kind of deformed b4 I used it. But it's good now. Makes it way more healthy. But only keep a 70 percent erection when doing this excercise or it can cause huge problems I read. Might b jelking used it like 15 years ago. The size increase is permanent

 

[Bible_Belt]

There are so many good posts in this thread that the competition for the best one is quite stiff.

 

[Lookatu]

It is not about this , it is about that if I do not really like the girl , I have this issues

the problem is that I started becoming very picky in this regards , which kinda affects my performance with girls that I am meh about , even though they are good looking for whatever

i Guess that what happens in mind is that I see this as a chore , doing something that I am Meh about it

It's called sexual compatibility. It doesn't matter how hot a girl is, some just aren't sexually compatible with you. Once you find one that you're sexually compatible with, you'll enjoy it and it will not seem like a chore. I've had the same thing happen before too.

 

[SW15]

I remember a story a friend of mine told me about that you may find interesting. He said when he was in college he had this opportunity to have a gang bang with him as the only guy and a bunch of girls, I think he said there were 3 of them. He told me that he had this feeling something was off and in the moment he wasn't able to get it up. He then said that shortly after that he found out they all had herpes and a host of other nasty STDs.

I had a one time fling with this woman shortly before covid, there was some making out and she gave me a bj but something told me not to perform oral on her or have full blown sex with her.

It's possible you just aren't really feeling it with a particular woman and you just aren't up for it, no pun intended. Despite what you may have read or seen in movies, not all men are so raging and horny that they are literally desperate to the point of sticking their penis into any hole that is available to them. There are some men like this, I can think of a few I've met over the years, but they are outliers.

1 man and 3 women is not a gang bang. A gang bang is 3+ men and 1 woman. 1 man and 3 women is group sex with no specific word for it. That's a lucky guy in a situation with no herpes or other STDs.

I'd be upset if I wasn't getting hard with 3 women but if you have a feeling something is messed up, it's understandable why he didn't get hard.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

I thought that I had this issue so I started imagining that I am having sex with someone else and my errection was horse worthy . In the moment I was opening my eyes or heard her moaning , my penis would die slightly soon after little by little

Ye, if your second brain tells you no, (Aka your di'ckhead) then you should prolly listen to it. lol
(Usually your second brain will get you into trouble and you should not listen to it and just ignore it. But in this case it is a situation were you actually should.)

You cannot force real desire.

 

[RickTheToad]

Are you taking any substances? Maybe you have a lot of stress on your mind/life? Is she that ugly? Post a pic and the forum can decide. Blur the face; if need be.

 

[Bigpapa]

Are you taking any substances? Maybe you have a lot of stress on your mind/life? Is she that ugly? Post a pic and the forum can decide. Blur the face; if need be.

No mate , she was average , good for a bang . But I was just not in the mood , because I did not feel no chemistry ...

My mindset was , I already put a lot of work and that it will be stupid not to bang her ... but apparently I think it also has to do with the motivation . I think that I am passed that momentum where I would bang a girl just because I can

 

[Visionist]

I am overweight and have low T, but even I can maintain a boner without chemical help if the girl is seriously into me, submissive, gagging for me.

Otherwise I tend to stick to positions where I can use my full body weight to maintain the rhythm, and I always have sex standing up. For some reason being on my feet gives me the energy to pound a girl incessantly even if we aren't all that compatible.

 

[TheNewStyle123]

I am overweight and have low T, but even I can maintain a boner without chemical help if the girl is seriously into me, submissive, gagging for me.

Otherwise I tend to stick to positions where I can use my full body weight to maintain the rhythm, and I always have sex standing up. For some reason being on my feet gives me the energy to pound a girl incessantly even if we aren't all that compatible.

I'm the same way man. Definitely position dependent. If I feel like I am losing an erection from a condom doggystyle works 99% of the time and usually does the trick. I agree about using full body weight too. I don't really prefer a girl riding me unless she is really good. Some just have no rhythm..

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It is not about this , it is about that if I do not really like the girl , I have this issues

the problem is that I started becoming very picky in this regards , which kinda affects my performance with girls that I am meh about , even though they are good looking for whatever

i Guess that what happens in mind is that I see this as a chore , doing something that I am Meh about it

Your not the only one. I've heard guys who used to be able to fvck anything with a pvssy start having d1ck issues as they became overly picky.

 

[RickTheToad]

No mate , she was average , good for a bang . But I was just not in the mood , because I did not feel no chemistry ...

My mindset was , I already put a lot of work and that it will be stupid not to bang her ... but apparently I think it also has to do with the motivation . I think that I am passed that momentum where I would bang a girl just because I can

Usually, at least if the female is average attractiveness, the penis should get erect. You really have little choice in the matter. When was the last time you've gotten your numbers checked?

 

[Bigpapa]

Usually, at least if the female is average attractiveness, the penis should get erect. You really have little choice in the matter. When was the last time you've gotten your numbers checked?

have not for a while , I will do this , just in case

what would you recommend to check ?

 

[Visionist]

Testosterone for one. Don't treat it as gospel the way many guys on here do though. I was having shots that sent my testosterone shooting to many times the maximum recommend limit for a couple of days at a time, but I didn't feel any more energetic, aggressive or horny during those days. It's a placebo IMO. Now I use cream and my testosterone is right at the minimum recommended limit, and I feel the same.

 

[RickTheToad]

have not for a while , I will do this , just in case

what would you recommend to check ?

Check with your GP or urologist, but a good place to start would be to discuss with your GP or urologist and request the following:

Complete blood count (CBC) test
Liver and kidney function tests
Lipid profile test
Thyroid function test
Urinalysis
Blood hormone studies

If all of those are clear, discuss anything that makes your anxious or depressed. Additional tests can be ordered, but a urologist would be best to make those tests. If you masturbate, it may be worth laying off the knuckle shuffling for a few weeks so the tissues in your penis can heal. In addition, the tissue in your penis may had been damaged from rough or aggressive sex and then some time will help heal the damaged tissues.