Jack of Hearts
New Member
This is my introduction of sorts to this forum but also brings up a issue I have. I am 20 years old and I've learned a lot from this site and its really helped me to become a better person. My problem though is that I have very little to no experience with women. I feel much more confident but I never get the chance to use what I have learned. To further explain this is my story.
Throughout most of my life I was fat. I was angry because I was the nice guy that never got what I deserved even though I was kind and generous. My high school experience is best descried as boring. I wasn't made fun of really but I wasn't Mr. Popular either. I was pretty much just ignored. I had crushes on some girls but they weren't even anything serious and I didn't even try to persue them. But during my senior year I actually fell in love for the first time. The girl was actually older then me(She was my friend's sister, and was 21 at the time) I had known her for awhile and I always thought she was pretty. She still is a solid 9 to this day. But that year I ended up hanging out with her more and I really ended up liking her. I was a stupid AFC around her and it was just terrible the way I acted. But those feelings I had for her plus that fact that I was angry that most of my friends were gone that summer because of college drove me to lose weight. I lost 50 pounds in 6 months and it was the best thing I ever did. Luckily for me I realized that I did it for the wrong reasons. I should have lost the weight for myself and not for her which was good when she rejected me(which is a whole different story onto itself) But I made a vow to myself that if I ever felt that way about a woman ever again that I would learn and not make the same stupid mistakes that I did with that girl. Which is what drove me to this site and others like it. But my problems now are these.
All of my friends are bad with women. Most of them have never had a girlfriend just like me and never even hang out with women. My friends are all great guys and they deserve the women of their dreams but for their own reasons they just unlucky when it comes to girls. What's even worse is that most of them are in college and they still have no luck. I decided not to go to college for my own reasons and to work on improving myself and saving money but the side effect of that is that I have no way to meet women through mutual friends. And I know you are going to tell me to cold approach but its not the way I want to start things out because I litterally have no dating experience with women. I've only kissed a girl once and that didn't happen until I was 19 and we were both drinking and she was a friend of mine.
I try to give my friends the advice that I have learned from this site and other places but they either don't believe its true or they think that it could be true but don't believe me due to my lack of "results". I guess when it come down to it I am going to have to be the one that takes the plunge and starts out his gaming career by doing all cold approaches due to the fact that I basically skipped out on the early high school dating experiences but are there any ways to deal with that or make it easier starting out? I'm also interested in what anyone has to say about my story so far and just any general tips to help me out. Don't be afraid to speak your mind, I can take it and thank you for taking the time to read this. Feel free to ask me any questions to explain things more.
Throughout most of my life I was fat. I was angry because I was the nice guy that never got what I deserved even though I was kind and generous. My high school experience is best descried as boring. I wasn't made fun of really but I wasn't Mr. Popular either. I was pretty much just ignored. I had crushes on some girls but they weren't even anything serious and I didn't even try to persue them. But during my senior year I actually fell in love for the first time. The girl was actually older then me(She was my friend's sister, and was 21 at the time) I had known her for awhile and I always thought she was pretty. She still is a solid 9 to this day. But that year I ended up hanging out with her more and I really ended up liking her. I was a stupid AFC around her and it was just terrible the way I acted. But those feelings I had for her plus that fact that I was angry that most of my friends were gone that summer because of college drove me to lose weight. I lost 50 pounds in 6 months and it was the best thing I ever did. Luckily for me I realized that I did it for the wrong reasons. I should have lost the weight for myself and not for her which was good when she rejected me(which is a whole different story onto itself) But I made a vow to myself that if I ever felt that way about a woman ever again that I would learn and not make the same stupid mistakes that I did with that girl. Which is what drove me to this site and others like it. But my problems now are these.
All of my friends are bad with women. Most of them have never had a girlfriend just like me and never even hang out with women. My friends are all great guys and they deserve the women of their dreams but for their own reasons they just unlucky when it comes to girls. What's even worse is that most of them are in college and they still have no luck. I decided not to go to college for my own reasons and to work on improving myself and saving money but the side effect of that is that I have no way to meet women through mutual friends. And I know you are going to tell me to cold approach but its not the way I want to start things out because I litterally have no dating experience with women. I've only kissed a girl once and that didn't happen until I was 19 and we were both drinking and she was a friend of mine.
I try to give my friends the advice that I have learned from this site and other places but they either don't believe its true or they think that it could be true but don't believe me due to my lack of "results". I guess when it come down to it I am going to have to be the one that takes the plunge and starts out his gaming career by doing all cold approaches due to the fact that I basically skipped out on the early high school dating experiences but are there any ways to deal with that or make it easier starting out? I'm also interested in what anyone has to say about my story so far and just any general tips to help me out. Don't be afraid to speak your mind, I can take it and thank you for taking the time to read this. Feel free to ask me any questions to explain things more.
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