My sisters ex-husband hangs out at her home

Jack12345

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Without her interest in it.

They divorced for about a year right now, and any time he comes and just stays there and sometime for a night leaning on the sofa.

I do like him but there is a reason they divorced he lost their money on gaming and made her bankruptcy and also he has a very noisy and debatable temperament which influences her and their children psych. He easily can manipulate me because he knows I never had father or brother and him on the other side grew up in a family with older brother and very dominant father therefore we are getting along well.

On one hand I know it is good for the children that there is a father because I never had one and I know the results, on the other it feels like he tries to establish his dominance towards this issue and I know that if this not will be treated carefully right now there will be no good in the future because he may become very aggressive if you take this dominance from him.

His family not goes easy on him, they are also very noisy and already had enough of him, he always changing works (also during their marriage times), overweight and wont let it go and try to establish normal life.

Do I even need to interrupt this?
 
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Prison is for people who fail at society.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Here's a happy medium.

Instead of interference, be the alternate strong male example. As an Uncle, you can offer contrast to their father's behavior and this will provide these children with an additional impression.

Like yourself, I also didn't grow up with the best role models. I'm also an Uncle as well.

Best of luck.
 
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