My Sarging Workbook - Sargeholic Hunts His HB9

[Sargeholic]

Time to throw off the shackles of being a KJ for the entire summer and almost 25 years of approach anxiety.

I have zero game in the field. None. Zip, zero, zilch. For a guy who has a career score of 10, out of only about 9 single months since I was 17, I have absolutely no clue how to do a successful approach live in field. My success stories have either been setups, drunkenness, online, or UGs. I am WBAFC in the first 5 minutes of interaction with a HB, after which I become a AFC for about 10 minutes, then I get comfortable and become very good. These first 15 minutes, especially the first 5, are my sticking point.

I actually consider myself a very strong DJ in the online world. A few years ago, I got a 3.5 year LTR with a solid HB8 off the Web and damn near married her. I used quite a bit of material from the community on my meeting with her and did very well. Since our breakup in June, I have gotten 5 total f-closes, one of which was a friend of a friend who was a 7, became a good FB, but she moved away. I have also gotten 4 f-closes from online sarging, out of only about 20 emails total. Problem is, none of these women are all that great. (though none were UGs either) They were all 6s that I just ran over with innately higher value (I would call myself an 8, realistically, and when you are 2+ points higher on "the scale", you can run some shoddy game and still win). Besides, once I get to Day 2 and past the opener, I tend to bat a higher average than Barry Bonds. These women had already been opened through IM game and all I had to do was be comfortable, have good BL, talk a little, venue change, and kill.

I have a pseudo harem of 3 women right now, though none are above a 6. Sex isn't the issue, its quality and the feelings I have for the person that are lacking. I want that elusive LTR with a 8+. To get this, I need to get super lucky like before (not a ton of decent HB8+ in my online world) or learn to do PU in regular situations.

I flat out have to force myself to learn PU live and in field. Buckle up gentlemen, and help me out. This is going to be one long, thick post by the time it is over and I find my elusive 9 for a LTR. I want to make this be the definitive anthology of an approaching WBAFC growing into a DJ in this aspect of the game. Now, here is my story...

 

[Flyer]

go get them

all the best

 

[Sargeholic]

MISSION: Achieve 10 "Hellos"
LOCATION: Mall
RESULT: Failed
LESSON LEARNED: That my approach anxiety is more tremendous than I ever imagined.

I sadly must report that my first mission was a failure. I went out to record 10 "Hellos" and only achieved two. This mission took about an hour of walking the mall and freezing up numerous times. I was actually in a cold sweat. I managed one on a HB7 where she responded to me, and one on a 6 who did not respond.

This is unacceptable, and I will be returning to the field this evening to redeem myself.

 

[DrBeard]

Try this out!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=83100

 

[Drewgie]

Originally posted by DrBeard
Try this out!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=83100

Or not!

 

[Sargeholic]

MISSION: Get a K or # close
LOCATION: Club
RESULT: Success
LESSON LEARNED: A busy club is a great place to sarge. Club game is very BL and EC oriented. Plow...some chicks are just not interested but there is a winner always around the corner.

Had a solid trip into the field tonight after a disastrous attempt at street game. I went to a club with a few friends, and was doing very poorly early on. I was in bad state and was holding up the wall. I had a couple drinks and splintered off from the group, and began dancing. Had a couple dances that went nowhere, then started opening groups verbally on the dance floor. Got much better rapport prior to the dancing this way. HBActress venue changed me twice around the club, kinoed me heavily, and we talked for about a half hour. She had to stay with her group that was leaving and I had to stay with mine, so I # and kiss closed her as she left. She said "I am sure you won't call me" a couple times...is this a sign of a flake or that I demonstrated high value?

Then, I moved on and # closed another girl, a nice little petite girl we will call HBDD, for designated driver. She was sober and was a kino maniac dancing but resisted attempts to kiss, saying "How many girls have you kissed already tonight..." She asserted that I was tall, dark, and handsome, and that she must be getting played. I told her to trust me, and I got her number but no true kiss close. This seems to be a sticking point for me.... every girl I do well in set with seems to think I am sexing half of the city...how do I respond to this?

Had a few other random dances but nothing to write home about. I am excited about HBActress, she is a solid 8 and seems not to be a vapid party girl. Hope she doesn't flake on me. I will call her Tuesday to set up a day 2.

FINAL SCORE: 2 # closes, one kiss close.

 

[animal crackers]

Awesome name man.

Good times keep the thread rolling.

If you say the 1st 5 min are the worst for you, get an opener that gives you something to talk about. Then you don't have to worry about what to say, and your approach anxiety will lessen.


But...sorry man, anxiety is ALWAYS going to be there at the start of a night, and you just have to push through it. At least, from my experiences.




animal crackers

 

[Sargeholic]

MISSION: Secure a Day 2
LOCATION: Phone
RESULT: Success
LESSON LEARNED: Not all club chicks are flakes! Have a short plan for phone game but don't stick to it too tight. C&F in good measure rules!

Called up the chick from the other night's FR and got no answer, but the machine had her name, so I know the number is real. I call back an hour and a half later and after a tiny bit of reminding her, she engages the conversation and really shows interest. She tells me all about the rest of her night, I tell her a funny (true) story about a very fat chick flashing me later that night. Gets a good response. I hinted back at conversational threads from that night and rebuilt buying temp. She then, after 10 mins, says "I have to go, I am in the car on the way to a work party"...I am like oh, crap, this sucks, but then she says "We should get together and hang out sometime" Bingo! I then ask her what her schedule looks like and shut up...she is super busy over the next week, which was congruent with what we talked about the night we met. Not really a blowoff, especially since she proposed the meet and then racked her brain for 5 minutes while in the car with her friend for a time. We committed to just do something sometime, so we will stay in touch and probably next weekend. Sounds solid to me.

FINAL SCORE: 1 *almost* scheduled Day2 with a HB8

 

[Sargeholic]

Holding in steady here...have had a very rough week with my car being broken into and a major work project due. Plan on sarging tomorrow night and following up on the HB from the previous FRs.

The journal will live on...