My Phone Skills are Terrible

[One on One]

Called up the girl I've been working on a while ago. It wasn't the worst convo ever, but it was bad. We only spoke for two minutes and it felt kinda awkward. Basically I asked her some **** questions just to buy time and then asked if she was up for going clubbing this weekend. Here's a rundown:

I call her cell and she's shopping downtown (first time I realize why a cell might not be the best thing). As an AFC, I probably would have said something like, "oh is this a bad time to call." Now, I at least didn't disqualify myself and I decided to talk with her for a little bit, but I did feel weird talking to a girl while she's at a store and trying to have a convo.

She asked what I was doing and I wasn't really doing anything. I just told her I was about to go to class in a bit. What should one say in the situation that they aren't doing anything? I don't want to be boring to her.

I asked her about her trip and some question about how we find out our grade in class. There was no depth to the conversation at all and it felt weird. It all boiled down to the fact I don't know if you are supposed to talk to someone when they are at a store?? I just don't know.

Anyways, I got around to asking if she was going clubbing this weekend. This was the first time I noticed some excitement in her voice and she said she would be. I told her then I was too and I'd call her later on in the week and let her know. After that, I should have ended the convo, but I kinda let it go awkwardly for a minute before saying goodbye.

So, unfortunately I came off as slightly timid and it wasn't a great convo. I'm very DJ with her in person, but I suck on the phone. I have had a good phone convo with her before, but the last few have not been good and I don't prefer to talk on the phone. Can anybody help me with my phone problem?

Another thing that happened that was positive was that I think she was trying to make things easy for me. When I was telling her a brief story or whatever, she was appearing interested even though I don't think it was very interesting haha. I know that is a good sign (kinda like laughing at stupid jokes). Also I mentioned how she seemed enthused when I mentioned clubbing, possibly she was waiting for me to get around to asking her out. I don't know. I'll see her soon and I know I'm still game, but this phone thing is bugging me.

 

[Eternal]

Practice makes perfect. Make more calls to different people. Learn to tie things in. When she said "shopping," instant topics...What store, what's she looking at, is she with anyone. Roll with the topic. Or, you could have just said "I see that you're busy, I'll call you later," and then call her 3 days later or something. You did good with the "going to class soon" since it shows that you are doing something. If you really aren't doing anything, just use a "about to go out for the night." If she asks where, just say "store" or "just out." Now at the end, just say "ok, I got to run. But I'll see you on *day* at *time*, now what's your address so I can pick you up?" Do that because it shows that you are taking action. You are TELLING her that you are meeting her. That takes balls. Good luck.

 

[spanky]

I'm very DJ with her in person, but I suck on the phone. I have had a good phone convo with her before, but the last few have not been good and I don't prefer to talk on the phone. Can anybody help me with my phone problem?

Well, it shouldn't be too much of a problem anyway since you don''t want to stay on the phone too long anyway, right? Just make your date and get off. I would do this especially if the person is not at home chilling.
Do a couple of minutes of whatever you want to talk about, make the date, bail out.

If case you insist on staying on the phone just do the same thing you do when you are with her in person. It should be easier since she can't read your body language .

 

[suavedave]

Hey man, no hard feelings. I didn't read this. I felt the same way yesterday. I called a chick up and just after a few minutes she was like distant... and then it was natural to just say good bye. Probably a good thing, I thought I saw a ring on her finger. but it was weird, as I was hanging up she says "Nice to hear your voice." WTF. Doesn't seem consistent with wanting to hang up a few minutes after a first phone call.

C'est la vie.

 

[One on One]

She's now apologizing to me on AIM for sounding terse on the phone. I'm so in!! hhahahah.