Hi,
There has been a lot said on complimenting a womans beauty. Some say hold back and do not make it obvious you admire her looks, and i would have to agree with this to some extend, but i peronally believe if you are experienced, truly confident, and know how to deliver well then you can mention it whenever you want.
Words are important. Some on here say "what you say doesnt matter" and i see where they are coming from and why they believe that, but i think they are making a grave mistake. Word selection is crucial. You do not have to go out and read a dictionary to improve how you deliver things. You can compliment a womans beauty without lowering your value, looking needy, annoying her etc if you know how to deliver it in conversation. Implication is KING here. Let me give a good example.
An AFC or someone ineperienced might say this to a beautiful woman they have just approached :
'You are so beautiful. wow. I have never seen someone as beautiful as you"
Maybe not that exact sentence, but you understand my point, and we all know thats the wrong way to go about it. Now im not coming up with a canned line for you to use or anything, because there are virtually a million ways to say anything, but i want to give an example. Someone confident and a little more experienced might instead drop the "you are so beautiful" lines and say something like this:
"I cannot imagine why you did not get the job as a hostess, with your energy and looks id have figured you were a sure thing"
Now that sound corny, and no, i would never say exactly THAT. But the point it conveys is a stronger one. Notice how looks came last, in the middle of the sentence, and was only mentioned once. It came and go. It wasnt dwelled upon. I didnt tell her 60 times like an AFC would. One time, and it was fleeting. Also notice i never even SAID her looks were good, i just said "her looks." Now we all know what was meant, and so does she, but it never actually being said but IMPLIED makes it so much stronger. This can be done in a myriad of ways.
_-Febreze.
There has been a lot said on complimenting a womans beauty. Some say hold back and do not make it obvious you admire her looks, and i would have to agree with this to some extend, but i peronally believe if you are experienced, truly confident, and know how to deliver well then you can mention it whenever you want.
Words are important. Some on here say "what you say doesnt matter" and i see where they are coming from and why they believe that, but i think they are making a grave mistake. Word selection is crucial. You do not have to go out and read a dictionary to improve how you deliver things. You can compliment a womans beauty without lowering your value, looking needy, annoying her etc if you know how to deliver it in conversation. Implication is KING here. Let me give a good example.
An AFC or someone ineperienced might say this to a beautiful woman they have just approached :
'You are so beautiful. wow. I have never seen someone as beautiful as you"
Maybe not that exact sentence, but you understand my point, and we all know thats the wrong way to go about it. Now im not coming up with a canned line for you to use or anything, because there are virtually a million ways to say anything, but i want to give an example. Someone confident and a little more experienced might instead drop the "you are so beautiful" lines and say something like this:
"I cannot imagine why you did not get the job as a hostess, with your energy and looks id have figured you were a sure thing"
Now that sound corny, and no, i would never say exactly THAT. But the point it conveys is a stronger one. Notice how looks came last, in the middle of the sentence, and was only mentioned once. It came and go. It wasnt dwelled upon. I didnt tell her 60 times like an AFC would. One time, and it was fleeting. Also notice i never even SAID her looks were good, i just said "her looks." Now we all know what was meant, and so does she, but it never actually being said but IMPLIED makes it so much stronger. This can be done in a myriad of ways.
_-Febreze.
