My ONEitis

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About two years ago I met one really cute girl. It was at a party with my friends and she was the only girl there. Until then I was a real definition of AFC, only thing that mattered in my life was my faculty and games. Within a day I become her stalker and she become my ONEitis, and I wanned to improve my apperance so in just a couple of days I bought new clothes and was just counting the days until I meet her again. Back then I was a real mess, so during first year there was no move on my side as didn't have anything to offer. During year 2016 I did a lot on my apperance both physicaly and socialy, and in the end of year I showed some interest in her, at that time I didn't feel any resistance from her and she was quite interested in what I do and my social circle, but it was more like lets hang out together with friends. On one night out due to some other personal issues I blowed up a chance. During next month I become really desperate and needy, and we all know the result of this. Since around new year 2017 I started paying a lot of attention to things like SoSuave, Corey Wayne, PUAs and recently MGTOW. Since around new year I started with no contact rule and it actually worked. She reached out to me month later and we went out to some event, but again with one male friend that also likes her, but doesnt understand thing about women. Now we exchange couple of messages about once a month, it is always flirty, short and fun. This year there were couple of coffees with mutual friends, where we would get so touchy that friends started wondering. She is mirroring my body language, if I cross my arms, she will cross them within a minute. When I'm comftably quiet, she always initiates the converastion, asks about my life. I'm hiking for quite some time, and now all of the sudden she goes hiking too. I started learning a new language, within a month she does the same and talks about moving to that country. Then brings up family and children thinking into conversation because taxes are lower if you have family. Still I have no intention directly reaching out to her, neither trying to make plans with her after countless bluffs.

I have to mention that mean time I had multiple girlfriends/hookups with other girls and I am doing great at those as I have nothing to lose. In all this relationships women become really hooked up and do probably more than 90% of pursuing.

Little stupid of me to be so crazy about girl that I never even kissed. My every attempt to ever get to some alone time didn't work out, so I just gave up pushing. Couple of times she started the chat, and we decide to meet and all of the sudden she cancels the plans. Looks to me like she is seeking for a validation. One red flag about her is that she has too many guy friends and I for a fact know that many are chasing her. That looks like a insecure woman to me, but I can't help myself.

 

[ManlyMichael]

Well she for sure is letting you know she thinking about you, and since she copying you she has a respect for you, but really you want to never pursue girls, KEEP USING THEM, they only want you when you don't want them. Because every girl inside knows how weak she is compared to every man, and she also knows when a man knows it too. Most men don't really know how much weaker girls are, they know in a sense but not to the extent that they should. But when a man does know it, it shows and girls hate it mentally but there body stay dripping wet and horny for that same guy and she CANT EVER control herself, at that point, the guy is in control if he knows what he is doing. That last part is the hard part, few men can control themselves on that last part. They let the power go too quickly and let her get the prize. That would be because guys think it's good to get as much sex as they can, which has never been true.

So how much weaker are they? How do you get a feel for it? One way to understand this is when you get honestly angry and yell at them. Girls tell me how scared they get because they can feel my voice in there body, THATS HOW WEAK THEY ARE. Even your voice can hurt them and not just mentally. Or if you slam something THEY HATE IT, because they fear it and see the difference and now they hate you mentally and desire you physically. Physical attraction is very easy, all you have to do to really hook a girl in is make sure your responsible financially and you understand how to attract her. Just let your strength be felt without touching her, she IS THAT WEAK

 

[JohnChops]

She texts you once a month, flirty, to make sure she still has you on her hook for ego validation. I'd ignore her 100% for at least a year until your feelings for her settle.

If you keep going to her once a month, she's just recreating the oneitis in you, to keep you hooked. She does not want to date you. She does not want to have sex with you. Hell she probably doesn't even want to be your friend, stop feeeding her ego and you shalll see

 

[Meektrop]

You got to be a lil more aggressive next time u see her. Grab her ass, touch her tits see what happens if you can get a kiss all the better. I'm not saying fvck but alreast show her that's your intentention if she ain't about it that let it be

 

[lizardking82]

Good, dude. Got it out of your system now? You talked it with the guys here. Should make you feel better.

Now, oneitis is never good at any level, no matter who you have it for. It often leads to overpursuing, dreaming and unless you're a poet and can make her *** with world class poetries or you're a singer and you're gonna make a song that makes her go bat**** crazy together with her girlfriends, than you come off as needy.

You went out with her and one male friend? Man, this chick is a player, but not because she much of a player, but because you're bad at playing. From now, keep this frame in mind: "I do not contact her first. If she does, I exchange a couple of quick messages and proceed to invite her on a date ALONE WITH ME, with me having already a fixed date, time and place in mind. If she wants to chit chat, I do not grant her that cause I am not a homosexual and I am not her gay friend".

Done.

 

[music player]

Well, I don't think she is a real player. I've canceled my attendance on multiple meetings with mutual friends in last minute and as she has the power over the rest of group, they all agree to meet when it suits me. Actually I do it on purpose, just to get her validation

However I don't get why she never agreed for some alone time, but I know she often hangs out alone with other male friends (mostly beta guys always sending chezzy messages with a lot of smiles). Thats the thing that kind of turns me off about her, male friends, too many male friends. I mean she has some female friends, but as I see it there is too much of male friends around her. Most of group photos on facebook always have less than 20% of girls in there. Is that a red flag?

Since I started no contact with her, even when we exchange couple of messages here and then, I always end the conversation, meaning that her message is last left with no my answer. Keeping my pride up. However she never really starts with message like "How are you?" that would make it easier to go for a date, but often some funny pics or links to topics we talked about. And when we are rescheduling group meetings.

No contact with her became like when you stop fapping, stop drinking alcohol, stop consuming sugar, just counting the days. Its easier for me to sunstain without all mentioned, then with her. Posting this helps just like watching no fap motivational videos on youtube.

 

[lizardking82]

Well, I don't think she is a real player. I've canceled my attendance on multiple meetings with mutual friends in last minute and as she has the power over the rest of group, they all agree to meet when it suits me. Actually I do it on purpose, just to get her validation

However I don't get why she never agreed for some alone time, but I know she often hangs out alone with other male friends (mostly beta guys always sending chezzy messages with a lot of smiles). Thats the thing that kind of turns me off about her, male friends, too many male friends. I mean she has some female friends, but as I see it there is too much of male friends around her. Most of group photos on facebook always have less than 20% of girls in there. Is that a red flag?

Since I started no contact with her, even when we exchange couple of messages here and then, I always end the conversation, meaning that her message is last left with no my answer. Keeping my pride up. However she never really starts with message like "How are you?" that would make it easier to go for a date, but often some funny pics or links to topics we talked about. And when we are rescheduling group meetings.

No contact with her became like when you stop fapping, stop drinking alcohol, stop consuming sugar, just counting the days. Its easier for me to sunstain without all mentioned, then with her. Posting this helps just like watching no fap motivational videos on youtube.

You write too much about her. Make it simple: if and when she writes, keep it short and invite to go out on date. If the answer is anything but a straight yes, say "I gotta run, got some stuff to do" and go NC again. That's how simple it sounds and is. Do you have the testicles to do it?