My night... need some support please

[piri]

Yeah! I know it A LOT to read, but I really need help and lots of support. Expecially if it is from one of those pro DJs (like Mr. Fingers My hero! ). So let's start from the beginning and then, straight to the point...

I remember those days, like in my highschool senior year's trip when I did not knew how to dance nor approach woman. I was just starting to bulid my game, and all I had was some new stuff I just read before I went to Loret d'el Mar in Spain.
There were chicks everywhere, but I just couldn't approach them. And my friends made fun of the way I danced. I also met this cute girl (only one in the whole trip) but I had nothing with her. Just a great conversation for an hour or two. Anyway, she had to approach ME.

Nowdays I just look back and see how lame I was.
I have my game almost 100% right and I'm able to date (and make out with) every girl I want. Lots of girls are dying for me. I even had a girl (about an 8 or so) desperatly asking me to kiss her and pulling my shirt against her to force me to kiss her (she was a little drunk thought, but she said she was desperate for me). I NEVER got rejected. Even some of my friends start to imitate the way I dress and the way I look. I have no problem talking to strangers and I owe it all to this great site, forum and all of you pro DJs.

Anyway, I have a great problem. A really BIG problem. That's wahy I don't classify my game with 100%.
I have a tremendous problem approaching girls I never met in the disco.
If some of my friends introduces me a girl and I'm interested in her, I use my game on her and I get sucessfull. But when it's ME approaching girl I act like that stupid little kid I was back in Loret d'el Mar.

I just dunno how to open them. And I chicken out. Like a coward.

Anyway, tonight I grabbed my balls and said to myself: "Piri! You're gonna approach a girl tonight! No excuses!".
So I went to a party (not a pivate party) and I started making little conversations and playing with everyone arround. I even talked to a professional dancer who was there to animate the party to ask him where diod he learned to dance. Talked a little to some girls to warm up too.
So then, the moment finally came. I had beed warming up for about an hour, and I decided to simply DO IT!
Once again I grabbed my balls and started checking for an easy target.
I found lots of them, but I always gave myself lame excuses not to do it cuz I was scared.
Finally I thought that that was it. Found a girl (bout a 2 or 3! REALLY ugly!) And she was alone! She was just starring at everyone in the corner.
So I went to talk to her, and in the last moment I just got scared and turned back! I was freakin'out!
Once again I decided to go back there and talk to her.
And this was it:

Piri: "Hey! Eeeeer... How you doin?"

Extremly Ugly Girl: "..."

P: "Eeeer... See, I just saw you sitting in there all alone and decided to come and talk to you to cheer you up!"

EUG: "..."

P: "Alright then. Looks like you're not in the mood. See ya arround."

<---------Out!

Anyway! I was happy cuz I discovered I did not really care about getting rejected this way! But I also felt really bad for 2 things:
-I still did not knew how to approach a girl ( now that I look back I should have been C&F).
-I opened conversation with an ugly girl (I date 7, 8, 9 and 10s), therefore destroying my value and confidence cuz I knew I was too scared to approach a 7, 8 9 or 10.

So I need help with this! I mean I REALLY need help.
How do I know exactly what to say (withou the "eeeeer...") when I approach a girl at the disco or somewhere else?
How do I get past my fears of opening strangers (girls) at the disco?
How do I approach girls that are not just sitting in the corner but are dancing with their friends or chatting with them or doing something else?

All the time I was at the party there were some girls looking at me. But I was too scared to approach them (cuz they were dancing with their friends or chatting). I did not knew what to say. Anyway I know that after a moment they thaught I was just another wuss and not a man of high value as I appeared to be (even if I am, but I was just not feeling like one that night, and that was reflected in my attitudes and behavior).

Please! I really want my game to be 100% and that night really affected my self-esteem (cuz I realized I didn't know how to approach girls, and now I'm scared I can't open girls in the street too).
It looks like I need an excuse to open them up, like if they are singing on the street or doing something unusual or that interests me (so I start playing with them or start being curious about what they are doing).
All I want is to be able to open girls (at the disco too) without needing that excuse.

Thanks a lot

Sorry for my bad writing. I'm Portuguese and I'm really sleepy! Just came back from tha party . Gonna sleep now...

 

[DonJuanForever]

If you are controlled by the environment( i.e. nervous when meeting new people, nervous being around people) you have not searched your soul and found YOU. Once you find yourself, there is no more nervousness. In reality, when you feel nervous meeting new people, its not the people that is making you that way, its your lack of comfort in yourself. Once you have found you, you will find that comfort and peace follows you at all times, and you can do whatever (c.f, romantic) whatever stuff you want in approaching women. "Nervousness is a lack of consciousness of one's own soul."

 

[makinwOmensmOuthdrOp]

Its just going to take practice. Keep approaching girls and it will come around.


Note: When i started off i went to another city and approached women, just so nobody there knew me, and i would endagner my "rep" that i used to care about. It works great, it might relieve some of that tension you have.

 

[piri]

First of all, thanks for reading all my post

So how do you suppose I find myself?

And that idea of gettin outta town is great, but I have no means to do it.
I just want to be able to have that "quick thinking" that gives me good ideas to open up wemen without an excuse.

 

[Stig]

I totally agree with DonJuanForever, confidence ultimately has to come from within and shouldn't be based on the circumstances. Just think about all that you have to offer women. If she is indifferent towards you like Extremly Ugly Girl, then maybe she's just having a bad night (or a bad life). If she's a HB and won't give you the time of day, maybe she just has no taste in men. Consider it time saved by not wasting it on them.

And makinwOmensmOuthdrOp is onto something. People are also a lot more uninhibited when they're out of town. That goes for men AND women. If you're more comfortable doing it in a place where people don't know you and vice versa, go out for a weekend once a month or so, someplace that's not too far and not too expensive. For me, it's Vegas, since I live in the L.A. area. I don't gamble a cent, but the clubs are rockin', and the tourist women tend to be friendlier than the club chicks over here.