My new attitude and how it's helped...

[silverwex]

Up til 3-4 months ago i was the classic AFC. But since then ive looked back on past relationships with girls and realised how wussy i was with them and how they messed me around. After that i said to myself 'That's it! Theres no way a girl is gonna mess me round again!'

I read on the tips forum a whil back about saying to yourself "I dont give a fvck!" and to live by that saying (or something like that!). Well i learned this myself and its been such a help! I now score with girls every weekend when i go out (ive been with 11 over the past 3 weekends!) and my attitude really draws people to me.

One friend of mine even commented "God! You've got soo ****y over the past while!" he meant this in a bad way but i took it as a compliment! HEs the type of fella thatd be looking for an LTR and he'd be looking to treat his girl with respect and be a total AFC with her (sorry man! The same fella called me a 'legend'!) But i treat women without too much respect and its got me places! I also speak my mind with em!

Even this weekend i ended up snogging/frenching a oneitis i had kinda been with 6 months ago... but get this:

SHE ASKED ME TO KISS HER!

Thats coz i was C+F with her and neg-hit on her over the past few weeks while other AFCs would be drooling over her and standing to her attention (shes a 9 easily). Its a change to what i used to be like (texting her all the time and being nice to her!)

So just to sum it up guys: Adopt the 'I DONT GIVE A FVCK!' attitude and see how it changes you for the better!

Cheers.

 

[DJjazzyJeff]

I'm glad you posted that, b/c some major stuff just happened last night and I felt like that for a minute.....now I know I need to carry on with that attitude and just worry about everything but girls.

 

[silverwex]

When you worry about them you dont get them! When you stop caring youll see a major change! Once you have that attitude for a while itll become engraved in your brain and youll stay that way!

The best way to get this attitude is to be messed around by a few oneitis' you have. Then youll get angry for a while and then youll emerge a better and stronger person! Its great! Thats sosuave and fellow DJ's!

 

[Knicknack]

Originally posted by silverwex
When you worry about them you dont get them! When you stop caring youll see a major change! Once you have that attitude for a while itll become engraved in your brain and youll stay that way!

The best way to get this attitude is to be messed around by a few oneitis' you have. Then youll get angry for a while and then youll emerge a better and stronger person! Its great! Thats sosuave and fellow DJ's!

you are damn right about how you "develop" this type of attitude. i'm so tired of the BS women do and don't think twice about it. my last oneitis is having the time of her life just days after ditching me. i was completely AFC with her. i'm tired of being fvcking nice to ladies thinking it will earn me points. i'm just going with a relaxed and "DONT GIVE A FVCK" attitude now. if they don't like my attitude FVCK THEM i don't want to date them anyway.

 

[Click Here]

I think some of you miss the point. If you honestly believe that no woman out there deserves any respect from you, your not going to get a quality woman. I don't think you owe anyone respect untill they prove to you they are worthy, there's a diff.

 

[Knicknack]

Originally posted by Click Here
I think some of you miss the point. If you honestly believe that no woman out there deserves any respect from you, your not going to get a quality woman. I don't think you owe anyone respect untill they prove to you they are worthy, there's a diff.

i agree. i'm not saying that i'm going to go around treating everyone with disrespect. i'm going to kill the nice guy BS and just say what i want when i want.

 

[Player_Supreme]

yeah! you go boi!

 

[silverwex]

Hey guys,

Im not saying become an emotional robot - just try not to care too much until a girl worthy of your time and respect comes along. But the girls that mess with ya - dont give them ANY respect.

Im having such a good time in regard to women at the moment! Lots of opportunities! Great stuff!

Anyone else have any stories on how theyve changed from being total AFC to DJ?

 

[One on One]

I have made a lot of changes in my life over the past year and I, too, have found a new mindset. I no longer stress over girls as much. I really believe that I am the one doing the choosing now. A girl has to prove herself worthy of my company and not the other way around.

I care less and less about approaches anymore. I don't care if I get rejected. It's important not to become an emotional robot, though. The key is just to relax and act natural. If something interests you, talk about it. If it isn't interesting to you, don't act like it is.

 

[Kodiac]

Yeah, as of before 3 months ago i NEVER approached any ladies. Well, not in a good way and NEVER had the gutts to walk up to the really hot ones.

Now - my attitude is the same "I don't give a fvck" and "I am the MAN" etc etc.. my whole outlook has changed since becoming a DJ and i still have much to learn, but im getting there

I am no longer afraid to flirt with the HOTTEST of ladies.
I now know how to hold and develop a deep conversation.
I no longer PERCEIVE myself to be SHY.

eg of how i have changed (most recent examples) ;

approached and flirted with HOTTEST girl in club, always get smiles and EC from her now. (but i have been 2 busy to re-approach)

flirted and c+f with HOT hair dresser (2 bad shes married)

hit on HOT check out chick (never had the guts to b4)

literally had HB7's boy friend dragging her off me at club

But, these are just SOME of the side - effects of my new ATTITUDE. The possibilities are endless! I am no longer in the dark

Life is good!

 

[Bonhomme]

This **** WORKS

Since I've turned 40, I've had more and better action with 20something gals than when I was 20something.