My good friend who's female moved in with 2 hot roommates. Advice Please.

[jackhamma]

My home girl just recently moved into a new 3 bedroom apartment with two really attractive roommates. One girl is asian, and the other latina. Both who are 25.

When she first moved in last week she wanted to have me over for dinner to meet her roommates and I went over, and we all ended up having a blast. Both girls were flirting with me, and my home girl told me later that night they were digging me, but didn't know which one I was into.

Long story short the asian has a new boyfriend of 3 weeks but I can tell by just talking to her she isn't really into the guy at all. So I decided to pursue the latina that night since she was single and I knew into me.

Ended up sleeping over that night in the latinas bed (did not bang) but fooled around a bit, she actually seems like a good girl because she would not give it up that night which is fine.

So I have been texting the latina with small flirty chit chat and she keeps making jokes about me having a crush on the asian girl lol. I am into the latina, but more so the asian, but since I already hooked up with the latina I don't want to look like a player or screw up and be left with nothing.


My home girl invited me over tonight to smoke hookah. I am not sure how to handle it when my best friend lives with these girls and I just show up.

How should I play it when I am over there? I am actively texting the latina, would it be weird to just show up to hang with my friend?

One of the best advantages is keeping that mystery of what am I doing, but when I am over the pad with my home girl and the other 2 girls are there...I have never been in a situation like this, please help me out guys!

 

[marmel75]

Dude...you did not "hookup"...you basically didn't escalate enough and committed a cardinal sin of sleeping in a bed without banging a chick...never, ever do that again. Either she bangs or you leave.

Basically you came off looking wimpy

 

[djthiago1]

I'm with marmel on this one. You slept with a girl and didn't bang her, she's not a good girl because you didn't bang her, you just weren't man enough to do it. She SLEPT with YOU!

 

[MillionBillionaire]

How do you not just roll over and handle your business like a man.. next time remember she wants you to do this.. girls want to be dominated.. never forget this

 

[BetterCallSaul]

This seems to me to have the potential of a threesome somehow. Latina + asian, asian + homegirl...whatever. Let's see if we can at least help the guy out here.

First, I agree that you do not sleep with a girl without getting sex. Stop doing that BS immediately. Next, do not text the latina or asian chick. As in DO NOT!! Any and all communications should go through home girl because you've already have previous communication with her before you met them. Let those 2 always have to ask home girl "what's jackhamma doing? Is he coming over again soon", etc. It gets their mind running like all good advice here on SS. Lastly, don't be too available. Yes we know you'd probably bang all of them one right after another in the same night or all at the same time (hell I'd most likely be trying to do the same thing), but you've got to maintain frame here.

 

[dasein]

Have been in this exact situation a few times and messed it badly one time with a solid 9 who was digging me and rich as in Rockefeller rich to boot. Hindsight showed me what I did wrong. Learn from my mistakes.

Don't ever hang out in there for long with it just you, never never all night. You will end up as furniture, no mystery. You might get laid eventually, but it will likely be a pain unless the girls are complete freaks. If they are, anything works. Take or meet your homegirl out of there, have another girl she doesn't know with you. Then you will get laid easily when you next end up in bed with one of the other two. One of the other girls may even ask you out once it becomes apparent that you are a busy man with options. You want them to have to break into your circle, not you into theirs. Your homegirl is in automatically, but the other two have to earn it. Just because a girl thinks you're cute or whatever only means your work is half done. Put another girl in her face to make things easy on yourself and never again end up as a cuddle b-tch. Don't give them what they want when they want it, you have to sweat them some to make things easy on yourself. Good luck.