Ha Ha! Now I see why everyone was so interested in hearing about my crazy relationships as they were occuring. This was an entertaining read, and brought back memories of my most recent "ex" (which was like 5 years ago).
From everything I've read here, you're all insane, insecure, and obsessed with chaos and drama. But so was I, so whatever.
The common denominator, of course, is her. And I'm not saying this because she's a female, and I hate the wymminz. She managed to get everyone caught up in the drama she created. She broke up with her ex, after all the fighting and breaking up (mmmhmmm...), and still kept in contact with him - then brought you into it, and your relationship turned out the same way. D'oh. This is a repeated pattern, and what drama bishes do to everyone they get involved with. She lives for this ****.
Her being sexually abused as a youngin most certainly had a lot to do with it. The girls I dated like this all had daddy issues. They were all super sweet, fell in love super hard, seemed all perfect... but they were really insane and obsessed with drama and chaotic relationships. They also kept a lot of distance and shut away from others, blah blah.
These bishes ALWAYS manage to keep guys pining for them with their crazy antics. They also lie about all their "friends" and "exes" that they claim to hate / want nothing to do with - but keep talking to (and about). Of course, they end up dating them. But the guys enjoy and embrace it all the same. It's all chaos.
This isn't healthy, and I have no idea where you got the marriage material idea from. Just another crazy, immature, drama bish.