An. article below about Hollywood women dating non-Hollywood men
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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14204113/JANA-HOCKING-celebs-dating-ugly-men.html
It got me thinking about the Lana Del Reys, the Selena Gomezes, and the Ariana Grandes of this world, who are constantly belittled for their choice in men.
Men who don't live up to the handsome Hollywood type we've grown accustomed to seeing our celebrities marry. Think Brad and Angelina, George and Amal, Ryan and Blake. All ridiculously good-looking. But why do we assume they've made better mating decisions?
Having dated on both sides of the fence, I've discovered that often the most handsome ones have personalities based solely on just that - being hot. They haven't had to work hard on their personalities, and it shows.
I remember going out with a former AussieBum model who bored me to tears. God, he was pretty though. Could I see a life growing old with him? Nope. How dull. Give me a man with depth, humour and wisdom any day over a chiselled jawline.
Men like this have learned to lean into what really counts - the art of conversation, emotional connection and being reliable. I can't count the number of times a man with 'model vibes' left me questioning my worth or feeling insecure, whereas the so-called 'average Joe' left me feeling absolutely adored.
So why do we glorify superficial standards when love, at its core, thrives on the unseen qualities?
Take Adam Driver, for instance. The man isn't winning any 'prettiest face' contests, but slap him in a black cape as Star Wars' Kylo Ren, and suddenly we're all swooning over his deep voice and commanding presence.
It's a vibe, not a face. So much so that even Burberry stuck him shirtless on a horse to sell one of their fragrances. That man made big bucks for his sexy vibe - and men, that's worth bottling!
And don't even get me started on what has become known as 'pretty fatigue'.
There's an invisible stress when you date someone everyone else finds perfect. Am I matching his energy? Is he noticing that wrinkle I just found? I swear, it's refreshing to date a guy who's more interested in the footy score than his own reflection in the mirror.
I have a strict rule: If they spend more time getting ready to go out than I do, they are not for me. Red flag, red flag.
There's something about a man with an imperfect face who still carries himself like a king. It's confidence, not cheekbones, that'll have you whipping your clothes off in a lusty flurry.
My lockdown bubble buddy had a wonky nose from his younger years playing footy, and I actually grew to love it. It was part of his charm, and I found it adorable.
So maybe next time your friends raise an eyebrow at your unconventional crush, remind them that real love isn't skin deep.
After all, it's the guy who brings you sushi and martinis when you're on your last leg that ends up stealing your heart - not the guy flexing his abs on Instagram.
I'm personally chuffed for Selena's engagement. I've found myself lost down many a Benny Blanco Insta reel hole, and that man is hilarious. Oh, and a good cook! Oh, and ridiculously creative. I would say she's hit the jackpot.
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My thoughts:
Lana Del Ray -> 39 years old. Wants kids.
Selena Gomez -> 32 years old. Cannot have kids.
Adriana Grande -> 31 years old. Boyfriend cheating on wife with her.
Her argument is weak. These women she is talking about have no leverage. Once a woman gets past 30, the look of the man is much less important because the woman needs offspring. On top of that, no powerful man is going to want to date a marry a 30+ year old woman. He likely wants 20 something and hot. If a woman is hot ,she goes early. Jessica Alba -> married at 27. Margot Robbie -> married at 26. Blake Lively -> married at 25. Scarlett Johansson -> married at 23.
It's the same old adage: Have babies with Alphas in 20s when her leverage is high, settle for babies with Betas in 30s when her leverage is low. So honey, you have a point if the women is in her 30s and has some baggage. But if she in her 20s and fresh and hot, your point collapses.
On another note: why would a guy marry Selena if she can't have kids? I don't get that.
Your thoughts?
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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14204113/JANA-HOCKING-celebs-dating-ugly-men.html
It got me thinking about the Lana Del Reys, the Selena Gomezes, and the Ariana Grandes of this world, who are constantly belittled for their choice in men.
Men who don't live up to the handsome Hollywood type we've grown accustomed to seeing our celebrities marry. Think Brad and Angelina, George and Amal, Ryan and Blake. All ridiculously good-looking. But why do we assume they've made better mating decisions?
Having dated on both sides of the fence, I've discovered that often the most handsome ones have personalities based solely on just that - being hot. They haven't had to work hard on their personalities, and it shows.
I remember going out with a former AussieBum model who bored me to tears. God, he was pretty though. Could I see a life growing old with him? Nope. How dull. Give me a man with depth, humour and wisdom any day over a chiselled jawline.
Men like this have learned to lean into what really counts - the art of conversation, emotional connection and being reliable. I can't count the number of times a man with 'model vibes' left me questioning my worth or feeling insecure, whereas the so-called 'average Joe' left me feeling absolutely adored.
So why do we glorify superficial standards when love, at its core, thrives on the unseen qualities?
Take Adam Driver, for instance. The man isn't winning any 'prettiest face' contests, but slap him in a black cape as Star Wars' Kylo Ren, and suddenly we're all swooning over his deep voice and commanding presence.
It's a vibe, not a face. So much so that even Burberry stuck him shirtless on a horse to sell one of their fragrances. That man made big bucks for his sexy vibe - and men, that's worth bottling!
And don't even get me started on what has become known as 'pretty fatigue'.
There's an invisible stress when you date someone everyone else finds perfect. Am I matching his energy? Is he noticing that wrinkle I just found? I swear, it's refreshing to date a guy who's more interested in the footy score than his own reflection in the mirror.
I have a strict rule: If they spend more time getting ready to go out than I do, they are not for me. Red flag, red flag.
There's something about a man with an imperfect face who still carries himself like a king. It's confidence, not cheekbones, that'll have you whipping your clothes off in a lusty flurry.
My lockdown bubble buddy had a wonky nose from his younger years playing footy, and I actually grew to love it. It was part of his charm, and I found it adorable.
So maybe next time your friends raise an eyebrow at your unconventional crush, remind them that real love isn't skin deep.
After all, it's the guy who brings you sushi and martinis when you're on your last leg that ends up stealing your heart - not the guy flexing his abs on Instagram.
I'm personally chuffed for Selena's engagement. I've found myself lost down many a Benny Blanco Insta reel hole, and that man is hilarious. Oh, and a good cook! Oh, and ridiculously creative. I would say she's hit the jackpot.
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My thoughts:
Lana Del Ray -> 39 years old. Wants kids.
Selena Gomez -> 32 years old. Cannot have kids.
Adriana Grande -> 31 years old. Boyfriend cheating on wife with her.
Her argument is weak. These women she is talking about have no leverage. Once a woman gets past 30, the look of the man is much less important because the woman needs offspring. On top of that, no powerful man is going to want to date a marry a 30+ year old woman. He likely wants 20 something and hot. If a woman is hot ,she goes early. Jessica Alba -> married at 27. Margot Robbie -> married at 26. Blake Lively -> married at 25. Scarlett Johansson -> married at 23.
It's the same old adage: Have babies with Alphas in 20s when her leverage is high, settle for babies with Betas in 30s when her leverage is low. So honey, you have a point if the women is in her 30s and has some baggage. But if she in her 20s and fresh and hot, your point collapses.
On another note: why would a guy marry Selena if she can't have kids? I don't get that.
Your thoughts?
