my girlfriend just asked me why does she always have to say "i love you" first.

[sebastian11]

what should i say? i dont really want to start saying it to her first but the fact that i dont seems to be annoying her quite a bit lol

 

[Special T]

Do you love her? If you do, why not say it once? Why does everything have to be about power and control in a relationship?

 

[sebastian11]

idk i mean i like her alot but years ago i was in a relationship where i was the one who was way too into the relationship and eventually she got bored and left me. i dont want that to happen again.

 

[bukowski_merit]

absolutely do not do it because she's asking you too...
that's supplicant...

"why don't you say you love me first ever?"
(a supplicant mans answer; first chance her gets) "I love you"

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you need to address her emotional need here...

what she's really wondering is if you really love her period...
she's finding a convenient way to ask this by turning it around as if it's about who says what first... it's not...

you just need to convey that you DO love her...

 

[sebastian11]

absolutely do not do it because she's asking you too...
that's supplicant...

"why don't you say you love me first ever?"
(a supplicant mans answer; first chance her gets) "I love you"

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you need to address her emotional need here...

what she's really wondering is if you really love her period...
she's finding a convenient way to ask this by turning it around as if it's about who says what first... it's not...

interesting, i didnt even think of it that way

 

[sebastian11]

Saying "i love you" to a girl just seems awkward and not fun.

i agree, "love you too" is my usual response, but really saying "i love you" is very uncomfortable.

 

[Nesbigg]

Usually in this case i will simply tell her 'bt you know i do' if she insist on the wordings i go off explaining to her how the words does nt convey my true feeling since i believe that this generation has abused those 3 cute words a great deal and she would go all 'yeah thats true'.
That gets me off the hook AT ALL TIMES!! Try it n see..