my girlfriend and her guy best friend

[illmatic1005]

Heres the story. When i started going out with my GF, she had a guy best friend. They went out 2 times, but for two days each and they dont consider it going out and neither do i. They did hook up once or twice(before we went out). But thats the past.

My girlfriend and I had a few fights. I said they flirt too much and are too close(in every way). She insisted they were merely best friends and that he is like a brother to her. And thay they are not flirting, thats just how they always ated around each other. And i trust them both so much.

Sometimes, however, I am a little concerned. On my GF's myspace, she has a baby picture and another regular picture of this boy. She has a picture of me and a a picture of me and her together on it too. I gave her a baby picture of me once, but she never put it on myspace like she did to this guy - and i know that sounds immature to think, but i remember once someone told me "if she has a baby picture of u, it means she likes u'. Thats the only reason i was concerned.

Not to mention, one day all day my gf was singing a love song. she kept signing "when was the day i fell in love with you"..she sang it to this guy best friend once while he was holding her hand dragging her somewhere.

They also play around alot, and when i try to do it with my GF she gets mad. He makes fun of her(many times mean) she laughs or says i hate u with a smile. I make fun of her(not mean at all). she gets mad and walks away. I told her about that and she said "relationships are more complicated than friendships thats why'

Dont get me wrong, she does kiss me and hug me and stay next to me most of the times . Some thing seem out of whack tho.

 

[Maxtro]

Few questions:

How old are you? How old is she?

Have you had sex with her? Do you think she has had sex with the guy friend?

 

[Jokerlsk]

In all honesty, you are over analyzing this. If you can't trust her dump her. Jealousy is an AFC type mindset

 

[KontrollerX]

Why did you choose a chick with a guy friend to be your girlfriend if you know its going to bother you?

BTW, if they've hooked up in the past and are still acting this close rest assured he is fvcking her occassionally behind your back.

This whole situation is an outright disrespect of you and you are putting up with it.

Why in the hell would you do that?

Bottom line is you should either just suck all of this up and take it if this is what you want or you should put your foot down and tell her to cut ties with this bozo or you walk.

If she makes some angry excuse about she can have friends blah blah blah you know what she's right...she can have "friends" she just can't have you as well if she's going to have guy friends. You then walk with the knowledge you are better off finding someone who values you over their "guy friends".

 

[illmatic1005]

No..i trust them both VERYY much. This guy is also a very good friend of mine. I trust them soo much..


Sometimes i just dont get why she acts the way she does sumtimes around him and not to me ..sometimes not all the time

 

[Supremo]

Dude I know how it is. I used to (and sometimes still do) get jealous of my GF around other dudes.

But that's a total CHODE mindset and just gotta steer your mind from it. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

If she's bangin your bro behind your back, then its something YOU are, or aren't doing, that's making her not feel satisfied with you.

Just be a cool guy, and everything will be fine.

 

[ProDJ26]

My friend have you ever heard of the 48 Laws of Power?

Law #2Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies

Be wary of friends for they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will become more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact you have more to fear from friends than enemies. If you have no enemies find a way to make them.

First you have to realize that there is no thing as a woman with a best male friend. He is always going to be on of three things: an emotional tampon that she runs to for all her problems, a gay friend or a potential fvck buddy on the side.You've said it yourself that they've hooked up in the past.

I understand that the past is past but in this case it isnt. You've got ALL of the warning flags in front of you.  He makes fun of her and she laughs but when you do it she gets mad? THAT's BS right there. As for the myspace thing I can understand why your upset with pictures of him on her page but doesnt that make you a little insecure?Im not going to tell you what move to make because as a man you should make your own decisions but I would immediately move on. Too me that's very disrespectful of my woman holding another mans hand. Im mean WTF?!I understand that women have male friends sometimes but thats taking it to another level.Drop this girl and find another. By no means should you continue to take this disrespectful ****.

Stay with her if you wish but realize that if she cared she wouldnt be flirting with ex or so called male friend all the time. Its gonna get worse if you stay, DROP THIS HOE NOW!!!!I was in your shoes before, and believe me it's very hard to believe members of a virtual website who you don't even know in person. i understand that this guy is your boy or so you say. But you have to ask yourself, "If he really was your boy why would he flirt with your girl?" Again it's tough to believe members of this site but it's the truth and were only trying to help you. It's gonna be hard dropping her but you'll feel so much better and won't have to live with the regret of knowing what would of happened if you listened. Or you can stay with her and be like me (I'm now in law trouble with my ex because I didn't listen to the constant warnings of this site)

In all honesty, you are over analyzing this. If you can't trust her dump her. Jealousy is an AFC type mindset as asomebody said.

Just my two cents

 

[KontrollerX]

Good follow up post ProDJ.

And I'll say this in every successful relationship I've ever seen that stood the test of time and was a genuinely happy fulfilling relationship for both parties be it among my friends or relatives at no time or point was a male or female orbiter who previously hooked up with one of my friends or relatives kept around as a "friend".

Thats just a disaster waiting to happen and I really could care less who disagrees on this board about it.

Chicks with guy friends are bad news and to entertain them with a relationship you are setting yourself up for failure.

 

[illmatic1005]

another thing:

Once i was on facebook and a girl poked me and my gf got all mad and said..a poke is flirting on facebook. So i didnt poke her back...

then, her guy best friend pokes her and she pokes back..i told her wtf and she said..dont worry were not flirting it just means hi

WHAT??

 

[Bryce556]

3some??? just an option maybe

 

[mpimpin]

another thing:

Once i was on facebook and a girl poked me and my gf got all mad and said..a poke is flirting on facebook. So i didnt poke her back...

then, her guy best friend pokes her and she pokes back..i told her wtf and she said..dont worry were not flirting it just means hi

WHAT??

You better lay down the law. This is no good. Tell her whats up. If she wants to be with you she'll pay more attention and think before she pulls this kind of $hit. If not Fvck her.

 

[Supremo]

You better lay down the law. This is no good. Tell her whats up. If she wants to be with you she'll pay more attention and think before she pulls this kind of $hit. If not **** her.

Agreed. This chick obviously thinks she wears the pants in the relationship. I am not one to say "you can't hang out with him" or set restrictions on ANY girl... but if she's being a hypocrite then its totally fine to call her out on it.

She sounds like a trick.