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Ok, guys, I just saw a post in the "Anything Else" forum that had a picture of a girl who looks exactly like the one that I was going after who just got engaged. I mean, this girl showed high IL and I am going to keep her as a friend. Some serious social proof. Now you know why you don't just next every girl that you don't get with. Here's the pic:

http://www.fhmus.com/images/girls/vida/3big.jpg
 

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Nice!

Dude, I don't know how you could be "just friends" with a chick like that. I don't think about bending my friends over a table :p But hey, good for you.
 

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Believe me, it isn't easy when we both showed interest in each other. If she didn't have a BF, I'm sure we would have gone out, but this guy she was with was a 4 year LTR, so there was a little too much history there to just throw away.

But yeah, she was so hot, it was ridiculous. She was one of those rare girls that you meet very few times in your life. Anyways, I'm ok with being just friends because she's a girl you just want to have in your life regardless of the type of relationship. It's also easier to see it that way since she's engaged, although I'm sure her AFC BF probably won't see it that way, they never do.
 

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You're a stronger man than I. I don't think I could stop thinking about her in that context so it would just drive me crazy. I wouldn't be able to sit back and enjoy the friendship. So does she have any sisters? :cool:
 

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It certainly isn't EASY, but I find solace in the fact that I know a few other girls like her (although she had the most compatible personality to mine). She does have a sister, who is cute, but is like the complete opposite of her, and she's bipolar, with a tongue spike, but same body, which is uncanny.

You need to keep girls like this around as social proof, no matter what, and I can't stress this enough, so don't just next these girls, even if you will have a hard time seeing them as friends. It's too bad, you're going to have to, or else you give up a huge edge. I guess that's how I reason it out.

I mean, would you guys be able to just stop seeing a girl like this, even if it was just as friends? I wouldn't.
 
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At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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yeah, a good one to keep around as a friend, cuz when you go around with her other girls will be like, "damn, this guy get the real good ones, what does she have that I don't", social proof for sure, plus i am sure she has friends;)
 

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Yeah, girls are like that, and the whole difficult part of this is that girls are not going to get jealous of a girl that they are clearly better looking than. That's why in order for social proof to work well, you need a hot girl, otherwise you'll be attracting all these UGs if any.
 

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Are you referring to my post? The link works, if that's what you're worried about.
 

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Becker, are you really friends with this girl? Like do you hang out and talk on the phone regularly? What does her bf think of all this?

If he's really AFC you might just get a piece if you're lucky. I'm not sure if being her *friend* is going to help that though. Make sure she knows about your other prospects.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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Well, basically we sat next to each other in class when we were in school, we've gone to lunch, I've been to her house and have met her family, etc. We're NOT best friends, and I'll go a week or so without seeing her now that we're out of school (she lives about 30 mins from me). She's the girl I've talked about in all my posts where I've talked about the hot girl with a BF that I've been sort of going after. She also chose to sit with me, and we've done our share of flirting.

However, she had a lot of integrity because she was involved with her now-fiance, who, if you saw him, you'd flip at how ugly the guy is. It's amazing, even she said herself that he wasn't that good looking, and now she's going to marry him. Who knows, I've known a lot of hot girls who were engaged, and the next thing I know, they called it off. Who knows, this girl is very into weddings, so I doubt this one will be called off.

We talk on the phone, e-mail, etc., but I haven't been in touch with her as much after she told me she got engaged, since she's also working for her dad right now, so she's busy during the week. I've also met her BF ONCE (just said hi and shook his hand) in the 3 years I've known her. She also knows of my prospects because girls have hit on me in front of her before, and she always rolls her eyes or tries to squeeze in some attention.

Anyways, like I said, she's definitely like the hottest girl I've been around, just a physical masterpiece and she's also very intelligent, so I'm going to definitely keep her in my life no matter what. We'll see what happens, if anything, but I'm going to keep in touch with her in the meantime. I know girls that are just as hot as her (her sister, and her friends just to name a few) but, they just aren't her. Like I said earlier, girls like her come around only a few times in your life. Oh well.
 

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She isn't all that. I could be friends with her. I personally like my girls with a little more meat on them (especially in the trunk).
 

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If I had a friend like this I would keep her too. You can't let perfectly good social proof go to waste.

One question though... how will she be social proof considering she is getting married? She is gonna be with her man all the time!
 

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Juan_Man, to me, that is quite possibly the most perfect a$$ I've seen, are you kidding me? heh heh, I guess to each his own. I will tell you right now, the girl I know has an a$$ that looks exactly like that. Better face too, which is tough to believe.

Anyways, as for the social proof, I have been around hot married women before, and they're not always with their man, and once married, the excitement tends to die down and they tend to want to hang with single guys because they seek that excitement in their lives. We'll see, because I don't even know when she'll be getting married. May be a year from now, or never, who knows. Just because you're engaged doesn't mean you can't break it off, and I've seen it happen with girls too, especially once they realize that the road ends there and the guy they're with isn't really all that they want.

Either way, I won't complain.
 
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