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Thanks guys for all your answers. Congrats to those that actually nailed the reason why this was happening , she was sexually abused in her past. This use to be a difficult matter for her, but fixed, and now it has grown to a difficult matter for her in sexual intercourse... Im very worried about this. Okay she may not be as severe as most, but i dont know. She does get very horny very often like anyone else, she uses her shower head often to make her come. I guess shes pretty normal as i always thought she was, because she always enjoyed when i gave her head especially tounging her **** which i did the night that i explained, and i almost got her to come. But when it came to actually having sex. At first i just thought she cried because it hurt the first time, second time, all these didnt last very long, probably about 20 seconds to 1 minute, well second time she cried, she always told me to stop and I did. Although i felt bad like i wasnt doing a great job for her, i just didnt understand what was going on.. She cried because she felt bad that she lost her virginity that she promised herself that she would give to her husband? Yeah well that made sense to me, cus it was true. But the 3rd time we actually attempted to have sex it happened again, and 4th again.. I didnt understand what was going on, till the night which i explained , where we acutally had the entire nights to ourselves, she cried the hardest. She explained how her past of getting sexually abused and how she couldnt stop thinking of it and how it makes he feel really bad... Which is really weird to me. Because she wasnt raped at all, she was still a virgin. She enjoys everything A LOT, except for sex. It made no sense to me but now i realized why. But still dont understand exactly why she enjoys other things but not this, even when she wasnt raped either. Well my plan was to be very patient, keep attempting, until she finally fully becomes comfortable and enjoys a new experience and not let her past affect it. But then she told me she didnt want to have anymore sex until marrage. She completely regrets losing it because she really was planning to give it to her husband, although the first time she said we wouldnt do it anymore, we always ended up doing it again. Well now i think she really meant it. Im fine with that though, because the way i see it why would i want to do something that makes her feel this way? Well anyways, im really worried because she said "maybe shes just one of those girls that dont enjoy sex" and was really afraid of me dumping her cus of it and all that. I told her i would stay with her no matter what. But the thing that worrys me is, whats going to happen later on in life when the time actually comes? I have no idea how to handle this, i dont want her to feel this way about it, i dont want to go through the trouble later on, i want to help her right now, but i have no idea how.. I actually thought keep attempting it would do good and it would help her be able to relax more and enjoy it eventually after a while, but i guess that wont happen since we wont be doing it in the first place. So does anyone have any ideas how i can help her out with this?? Besides sexual theropy, that can come later i suppose, but i dont know if it should eb that drastic if it wasnt rape? MAybe i just need to get off that subject of sex how ever long it takes, and let it happen again naturally? Although its pretty hard to avoid it if we ever spend the night together, I just dont know what to do about this and cure this.. Forget about it and wait till later on and be patient? which to me seems like a bad idea, but if i did try to help her i wouldnt know how to... I want to help her, i dont want her to think that all i care about is sex, which is why im willing to lay off as long as it takes, but i dont know if thats a bad idea cus then we would have to deal with it later on. So does any one have any ideas what ican do about this?? thanks for the advices so far guys
Or you just need more experience...who knows. But get a book or something anyway.
