My Gf always thinks im lying to her

[DasaniWater]

Hey guys, well i dont know what the deal is, or if this pretty normal.. but anyways, my gf always constantly thinks im lying to her, when im not. Maybe at first when i went out with her, i was lying, but as i fell in love with her, i havnt lied to her since then, because i want her to really trust me. It turns out its not as easy as that though. Basically everything i tell her, she thinks im lying to her. I have to tell her about a billion times, and she still doesnt believe me. she constantly bashes me and it really stresses me the FCK out, when i dont have any other idea to tell her because i told her the complete truth. I have no idea why she does this. She always always says "You like that girl dont you" or "i know you're cheating on me".. OK after a month or so of this sht, its pretty much where i just become a mute and have nothing to say.. because ive gotten tired of it. Basically telling her I love her and i would never lie to her (which i havnt) isnt enough, adn i dont know what else is to convince her. She always thinks im hiding something from her, because she says she "doesnt know much about me", when ive told her everything. I even told her a secrete which ive never told anyone else in my ENTIRE life, and was planning to keep it that way, so she would trust me, but i dont think it worked. Also, she always thinks im mad at her, or im jelous of things when she talks to a guy, and im REALLY not. But she seems to think so. Does anyone know what i should do about this or why shes doing this?? And another thing, for some reason she still plays hard to get, or i dont know if thats what u would call it, maybe even messed up. She says that im nicer to her when shes mean to me, and when shes nice to me im mean. So she tells me to go away out of no where, and says it's for my own good... I dont think so. Shes very Hypocritcal. I cant hug a girl, but she hugs 20 guys. Things like that. I told her to go away once, when she told me like multiple times in a week, and I was basically just tired of it, and enough of kissing her a55 and trying to make thnigs better, so I told her it and we got into a huge fight and it just went bad... Oh and every time i apply one of the DJ techniques or whatever, she tells me Ive changed, or something has gotten into me, and she doesnt like it at all..... maybe shes just the controlling type? She says she doesnt like ****y guys, because they end up thinking they're too good. I dont know just so many things. its weird, i think its because shes ADD. Say i call her 20 times in a day, but she never picks up her cell phone, and its always this way, so one day i dont call her at all, and she checks her phone at night because she just lives it somewhere else, she gets mad because i didnt call. Makes no sense.. Well does anyone know how i can show her the light?? have her stop acting this way, i dont know what the deal is.. Oh and another thing, she seems to show more affection to me only when im not in the mood because she pi55ed me off in some way... i dont know if theres really a question in this but could someone please explain whats going on? i feel like she's always playing games with my head..

 

[thederekeffect1]

You know, women are always breaking up with men for the same things that she is doing to you right now. I'm not usually a guy who suggests breaking up, but if you're getting tired of it - Then, maybe that's what you have to do. Explain to her why you're breaking up with her too. Tell her that you're tired of her calling you a liar and that you have tried everything to prove to her that you're not. At which point she'll probably accuse you of having someone else, and you'll just respond with "that's what I mean, right there".

 

[DasaniWater]

Ahh, she actually broke up with me once, because this stupid cvnt that use to like me a year ago, messaged her on her myspace saying all these things that werent even true. She claled me up crying saying shes breaking up with me, and it took me the entire day convincing her. I still get crap about it a mont later after i told her the truth of it. I broke up with her once but then i didnt mean it cus i was just really mad.. Because she was always complaining to me or talking to me about how her Ex was still talking to her and all this crap, and her ex had his friend call her one day saying things like "hes taking you to court" some nonsense. I told her not to believe it because theyre just these immature games they have but she always feels worried about it and i told her not to. But anyways, the next day i talked to this guy who called her, i was talking to him for about 5 minutes and my gf basically got mad at me for that, and he thought i was going to kick his a55 but i wasnt. And it just made me mad, that she was defending him, it made no sense. Then after one night of getting her telling me and complaining to me for about 30 minutes of me cheating on her and me lying to her and telling me to explain all these things to her and i already did, and her not believing me, it really stressed me out so i broke up with her. But then she started crying and i really couldnt and i told ehr i didnt mean it.. i guess its just typical drama.. she tells me to forget about the things that happend in the past, but its not that simple when she keeps doing it...

 

[KinkyMan]

"So she tells me to go away out of no where, and says it's for my own good... I dont think so."

Why? It seems to me that you like her twisted ways. Make up your mind.

p.s. break up your writing, it's called "whitespace"

 

[thederekeffect1]

Sounds like you had a rough relationship with her. If things haven't gotten better yet, they're probably not going to.

 

[Wyldfire]

Your girlfriend has a serious jealousy problem. It's not going to get better. For whatever reason she feels inadequate and is extremely insecure. You can't fix that. You should probably end it. Normally, if I see even a glimpse of hope for a relationship I will give advice to help resolve the problems. However, when someone is so jealous and insecure that they are constantly accusing you of cheating and is not able to trust you, the relationship is dead in the water before it even gets started. You should get out of this one. If you don't have trust you can't have a healthy relationship.

 

[DasaniWater]

Why do people reply as a55holes?!?! Well much appreciated to those who were nice about it.

 

[JonJack]

DasaniWater,
You've got to start knowing what it is you want out of this relationship and stop being so confused and fickle. Especially since your girl is clearly confused and fickle too.

Here's the stupid part about your relationship. The two of you get into arguments over certain issues. These issues are clearly important, otherwise it wouldn't have been brought up. You two slog it out and it doesn't seem as if any resolution is found. It's like the two of you are arguing because that's what your relationship is based on. It's as if you're together because both of you want to be in an argumentative relationship.

You come on here clearly distressed with what's going on in your relationship. It is understandable that you're probably confused as to what to do. This is why you have to start thinking about what it is that you want out of this relationship. What sort of relationship do you want to be in? If you're not getting it with this girl of yours, then don't bother about your relationship too much. Because you know it's not the ideal one and if an ideal girl would to come along, you'll definitely move over to her. So this particular one is just a momentary relationship. If it's getting a bit too annoying for you to handle, then break it off. If you're gonna be happier sticking with her for the mean time, then don't bother about it so much. Take things easy. Don't stress over it.

It's really disappointing to see so many people compromising their selves for the sake of staying in a relationship. If you're gonna stay in a relationship, do so without any complaints. If you're gonna start complaining about it, you better be extremely certain as to the reasons you're in this 'crappy' relationship. Apply this to your partner too. If your partner is complaining about the relationship, you've got to ask yourself why the hell do they want to continue it then. Why bother when you are clearly not what they would like in a partner? Why would you even bother when you're not what they want in a partner? Why continue this relationship when the two of you clearly want someone else? Is it a legitimate reason to stay together because there isn't anyone better at the moment? If you knew all this about yourself and your partner, would you still want to be together?

 

[Bloke]

Why do people reply as a55holes?!?! Well much appreciated to those who were nice about it.

What's the point in beating about the bush.

Bottom line: It's a deadend relationship. I think you relise this too but like this girl too much to admit it.