My game is gone

[osu13]

**** this really blows. For the longest time I have been a great guy getting tons of girls with ease. I have fun, I’m not an ass but I am sarcastic and like to tease girls often. I have always kinda wanted a girl friend but never have purposely looked. But haven’t we all.

I meet this girl about three weeks ago and she is absolutely incredible: smart, funny, beautiful…..every thing. She is dream girl. The first two weeks I was just playing it cool and we were calling and texting occasionally. The past weekend we went out to a party where I became to drunk haha waking up at her place the next day. I didn’t leave until late in the afternoon. It was great. The way she looks at me its like I know that she really likes me but I question why would she.

Where I am going wrong is that for some reason I’m afraid… I know what a puss. Everyone on this site always says don’t put her on a pedestal but damn I really like this girl. It sucks cause I am constantly worrying when she will call me or text me. I am trying to be somewhat distant but it sucks so badly.

I swear if this is what every girl feels like when I don’t call or text them I feel bad because I am making myself sick over this chick and im trying so hard not to. Don’t know what to do???? Every thread on here tells you how to get a girl in bed but do you do the same when trying to make her your gf????

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

You ain't lost your game. You just are getting stronger feelings 4 this girl than, any other girl you had. You never had this lust/love feeling yet and it is confusing you. If you are trying to make her your girlfriend. Just keep doing what has been working in the first place.

 

[sav]

**** this really blows. For the longest time I have been a great guy getting tons of girls with ease. I have fun, I’m not an ass but I am sarcastic and like to tease girls often. I have always kinda wanted a girl friend but never have purposely looked. But haven’t we all.

I meet this girl about three weeks ago and she is absolutely incredible: smart, funny, beautiful…..every thing. She is dream girl. The first two weeks I was just playing it cool and we were calling and texting occasionally. The past weekend we went out to a party where I became to drunk haha waking up at her place the next day. I didn’t leave until late in the afternoon. It was great. The way she looks at me its like I know that she really likes me but I question why would she.

Where I am going wrong is that for some reason I’m afraid… I know what a puss. Everyone on this site always says don’t put her on a pedestal but damn I really like this girl. It sucks cause I am constantly worrying when she will call me or text me. I am trying to be somewhat distant but it sucks so badly.

I swear if this is what every girl feels like when I don’t call or text them I feel bad because I am making myself sick over this chick and im trying so hard not to. Don’t know what to do???? Every thread on here tells you how to get a girl in bed but do you do the same when trying to make her your gf????

game goes out the window when u start having strong feelings... its very and i mean VERY important that you dont lose sight of what attracted her to you in the first place... as soon as you become needy / clingy.. she's out... you gotta find a balance in this initial stage.

 

[Dongfu]

I swear if this is what every girl feels like when I don’t call or text them I feel bad because I am making myself sick over this chick and im trying so hard not to.

This is somewhat profound because this is what we do to women, and we practically ruin their lives getting them to chase us. The interesting thing is, women wont have it any other way. It is what is natural for them. What is natural feeling for us is to be pursued and in control. When we become the desperate chaser, our whole identity falls apart. See my thread titled "AFCness is a disease which can re-surface at any moment." I am going through something similar, but I will never fall completely into the trap. I only have my foot stuck. Find a way to shift this around or drop it.

 

[osu13]

game goes out the window when u start having strong feelings... its very and i mean VERY important that you dont lose sight of what attracted her to you in the first place... as soon as you become needy / clingy.. she's out... you gotta find a balance in this initial stage.

This is very good. Thanks a lot but wow i need to figure out why she is attracted to me. Im a good looking guy but every guy she dated is probably good looking. I think its because I dont bow down to her like most other guys. Im trying to continue doing this. I dunno but at some point I want to show her attention what not

 

[SickAgain]

You might fvck everything up. You've only known this chick for 3 weeks. Slow down, try meeting other girls. There was an old post about the "scarcity mentality", try reading that thread. It basically says that you think all because you click with a girl that there's none other that you will click with. This isn't true. Try meeting other chicks while keeping this one around and let her choose where she wants to take it. And don't worry why she's attracted to you, it doesn't really matter.

Keep in mind the best mentality with girls is that if they leave you can't give two sh!ts, or you could be setting yourself up for disaster in the future.

 

[Vendetta081789]

You DON'T need to figure out why she is attracted to you. A true DJ knows that women WILL be attracted to him, for no reasons needed. What you are going through is something that MANY men have suffered. When a man becomes the cat in the relationship, it's over. I have done it, EVEN knowing what I was doing. Sometimes your AFCness resurfaces uncontrollably. You really should take a gander at Dongfu's thread. As sav stated:

its very and i mean VERY important that you dont lose sight of what attracted her to you in the first place...

Hold onto that piece of advice, it will help you for the rest of your life..