Its a long story, but some of you will have stories like this and can take some lessons from this. Its quite long, but i think its worth reading.
Here is the full story. We met in college, i was in 2nd year and she was freshman. In the traditional college year start parties we started talking, my eyes stared at her the first time i saw her, and she liked me too i could tell.. I used to call her the freshman of my dreams.. She used to move away from all the freshman group and come next to me talking to me all along the path, neither of bothering what the rest of the other ppl were thinking.. One time we were going for a walk and she told me something about the guy she was dating.. My heart just stoped, i could not believe she could be that inocent not telling me, but soon after she said she was not dating anymore, only dated a guy 1 month but he was paranoinc. And after 1 month of these parties and me taking her home, or going for walks, we kissed and started dating.
Joana was very inocent that time, only had a few weeks relationships (her longer was 1 month), and she was even kinda embarassed of kissing me inside college. When we were alone she would be much more affective. After 2 months dating i told her i would like very much doing sex with her, she was virgin, and had not tought about doing it so soon.. But sometimes we were alone at her place or mine, and we were beginning to know eachother bodies. 1 piece each time, and after a few days of starting to get excited, we actually did it. She was so inocent she didnt even knew it would bleed the 1st time.
Our sex life was going really well, lots of times, always exciting and we were having fun.. But out of our sex life, sometimes she would be agressive to me, get upset for no special reason and start yelling and stuff..
I still didnt tell you guys one important part.. At that time i was still not ok from my previous relationship. I dated my ex 1 year, and started dating this Joana about 6 months after my ex broke up with me. My ex went back to a guy she had loved before, but never dated, and today she is still with him. And after 1 year of being with Joana, i still had strong feelings for my ex, and if she signed me, i would probably go back to her..
Its not that i didnt like Joana, but altough we had great moments like sometimes going somewhere and the sex, we would also have big discussions for no reason at all, just her character is so temper.. So sometimes when we were both at college, since nothing fun to do there i would rather be with my friends playing computer games.. And she got pissed off because of that.. I mean.. she wouldnt give me no room at all for me to be with my friends.. Everyday i had to go with her to the bar eat because she didnt like the regular food, so i could not go with both her and my friends, and every free time i had she wanted me to spend with her.. It was getting kinda obcessive, and since we had so much time together in a boring place like college, a lot of discussions ocured.
As usual, when you start dating someone, a lot of girls that didnt give a **** about you before now try to make a move. One italian girl was after me, and after i had a big discussion with Joana and she told me she would not come to see me when she had promissed, i just got mad and phoned my italian friend.. And she came right over to my place.. We had a 1 day adventure..
The next day i told Joana about it, and she came to talk to me to set it up.. I told her all the truth, and when i looked in her eyes i started crying, i didnt want to hurt her.. Altough hurt, she hold me and told me it was ok, and she loved me and wanted to continue to be girlfriend..
My italian friend, altought not knowing me very well (we met on the internet) wanted to be my girlfriend.. Dunno how she felt so involved with me, she said she was inlove with me. When i told her i would stay with my girlfriend she had a hard time.. but i never lied her it was only 1 day.. And at that time i had some doubts if i wouldnt be better with her, because she was an incredibly hot, beautifull and sweet girl.
Summer came, and Joana spent the whole summer away from me.. I was always trying to do something with her, going to the beach, going on camping, but she always had to wait to know her father plans, or bla bla, and eventually she only went on vacation for 1 week of the 1 month vacation, and we didnt do nothing.. Not even going to the beach, only 2 or 3 times we were together, making sex and going for a walk near the sea.. I really could not be happy with that..
Also, she started arguing with me for nothing.. like politics of football, she gave her opinion, and if i gave mine and disagreed, she would insult me, and i mean really insult me and hurt me..
One time we had a big arguing on the phone, and i said i wanted to break up.. She was very mad at the phone before, and got even madder after i said it, insulted me with things i will never forget. The next day, when she realized she was really mean to me and deserved that i didnt want her again, she asked me sorry, and said she wanted to be with me.. I told her i would give her other chance but needed some time for myself..
I could really use 2 weeks or so of being alone since i was kinda tired of the routine, but she insisted in calling everyday when i was not ready yet, not because of any other girl, i just needed that time.. And after a week or so we started again, i didnt feel 100% yet, but i gave the chance cause i cared about her.. This was 1 year after we started or so..
We kept breaking up like that, either me, either her for small arguments. Sex was always incredibly hot, that was the main reason she would get me to go back to her, because i really missed it with her..
After 2 years i told myself i would never want to be her boyfriend again, i was so tired of this relation.. But she wanted me, and i was giving her no hope.. After 2 weeks she started going out with a guy, but everyday or 2 she would phone me to talk to me, and saying she was getting somewhat involved and if i didnt want her anymore she would try with this new guy. They had kissed then.. I felt very jealous and i took her back.. (we are now 2 years after we started)
And i think after a few months we started again a change ocured. I ignored all the things she would to do me sometimes, and I started being the best of boyfriends (not that i was a bad one before!), really caring and loving, and she was loving it too, i would go anytime to see her, make her surprises, etc..
Sex was everytime better and better, specially when we could make it at night, we would do it 7 or 8 times a night...
June 2003 (2,5 years of being together), some changes ocured. She was never the kind of girl to use makeup and some kind of clothes and she started using them. I liked it then, she was looking more and more beautifull.. And she installed internet and messenger. I think that proved to be very bad for our relationship, since a lot of guys who never had the guts to talk to her personally now had an easy tool to harass her..
I went for a 1 week camping with friends and i invited her. She said she would got but never did. I got pissed off because after last summer not being any time with me, now not even now she would..
At weekends i would come home because during week i would stay in a house near her because of college, and weekends was the only time i came home. My friends saw her in a bar next to her house one weekend. All this time she never had told me she used to go out at night at weekends, and it proved that almost every friday she had been going out.. I got really pissed off on this.. I know because of something i will tell next that she never was with other guy in these weekends, but it was still something that pissed me off a lot, she had lied about not going out.. When i confronted her with this she said that yes sometimes she used to go out with her friends and hadn't told me..
Dunno if this was before or after me camping. We had agreed that we could do something like having an adventure with other person if we would tell the other that we were interested, not going to bed of course, just kissing and having fun. So one time she came on messenger and told me that in the bar she used to go one guy started talking to her, and suddenly grabed her and kissed her, and they were kissing for 15m before she went home.. I felt so bad.. She hadnt told me like we agreed that she wanted something like that and since things were not going well between us, she ignoring me a lot my afections and that stuff.. So i asked more about it, she said he kissed her and she corresponded.. When i said i was pissed of because she made that when things were not very ok between us, she said it was just a few kisses, and she went home right after without his phone or something, embarassed..
Sometimes we were at my place and her phone kept ringing, she said it was her father or bla bla and didnt never answered, and im not dumb, along with her becoming away from me all that ringing and messenger talking.. It was obvious someone was after her and she was hiding it.. But since we were together i tought it was just some harassment and we would prevail.
Here is the full story. We met in college, i was in 2nd year and she was freshman. In the traditional college year start parties we started talking, my eyes stared at her the first time i saw her, and she liked me too i could tell.. I used to call her the freshman of my dreams.. She used to move away from all the freshman group and come next to me talking to me all along the path, neither of bothering what the rest of the other ppl were thinking.. One time we were going for a walk and she told me something about the guy she was dating.. My heart just stoped, i could not believe she could be that inocent not telling me, but soon after she said she was not dating anymore, only dated a guy 1 month but he was paranoinc. And after 1 month of these parties and me taking her home, or going for walks, we kissed and started dating.
Joana was very inocent that time, only had a few weeks relationships (her longer was 1 month), and she was even kinda embarassed of kissing me inside college. When we were alone she would be much more affective. After 2 months dating i told her i would like very much doing sex with her, she was virgin, and had not tought about doing it so soon.. But sometimes we were alone at her place or mine, and we were beginning to know eachother bodies. 1 piece each time, and after a few days of starting to get excited, we actually did it. She was so inocent she didnt even knew it would bleed the 1st time.
Our sex life was going really well, lots of times, always exciting and we were having fun.. But out of our sex life, sometimes she would be agressive to me, get upset for no special reason and start yelling and stuff..
I still didnt tell you guys one important part.. At that time i was still not ok from my previous relationship. I dated my ex 1 year, and started dating this Joana about 6 months after my ex broke up with me. My ex went back to a guy she had loved before, but never dated, and today she is still with him. And after 1 year of being with Joana, i still had strong feelings for my ex, and if she signed me, i would probably go back to her..
Its not that i didnt like Joana, but altough we had great moments like sometimes going somewhere and the sex, we would also have big discussions for no reason at all, just her character is so temper.. So sometimes when we were both at college, since nothing fun to do there i would rather be with my friends playing computer games.. And she got pissed off because of that.. I mean.. she wouldnt give me no room at all for me to be with my friends.. Everyday i had to go with her to the bar eat because she didnt like the regular food, so i could not go with both her and my friends, and every free time i had she wanted me to spend with her.. It was getting kinda obcessive, and since we had so much time together in a boring place like college, a lot of discussions ocured.
As usual, when you start dating someone, a lot of girls that didnt give a **** about you before now try to make a move. One italian girl was after me, and after i had a big discussion with Joana and she told me she would not come to see me when she had promissed, i just got mad and phoned my italian friend.. And she came right over to my place.. We had a 1 day adventure..
The next day i told Joana about it, and she came to talk to me to set it up.. I told her all the truth, and when i looked in her eyes i started crying, i didnt want to hurt her.. Altough hurt, she hold me and told me it was ok, and she loved me and wanted to continue to be girlfriend..
My italian friend, altought not knowing me very well (we met on the internet) wanted to be my girlfriend.. Dunno how she felt so involved with me, she said she was inlove with me. When i told her i would stay with my girlfriend she had a hard time.. but i never lied her it was only 1 day.. And at that time i had some doubts if i wouldnt be better with her, because she was an incredibly hot, beautifull and sweet girl.
Summer came, and Joana spent the whole summer away from me.. I was always trying to do something with her, going to the beach, going on camping, but she always had to wait to know her father plans, or bla bla, and eventually she only went on vacation for 1 week of the 1 month vacation, and we didnt do nothing.. Not even going to the beach, only 2 or 3 times we were together, making sex and going for a walk near the sea.. I really could not be happy with that..
Also, she started arguing with me for nothing.. like politics of football, she gave her opinion, and if i gave mine and disagreed, she would insult me, and i mean really insult me and hurt me..
One time we had a big arguing on the phone, and i said i wanted to break up.. She was very mad at the phone before, and got even madder after i said it, insulted me with things i will never forget. The next day, when she realized she was really mean to me and deserved that i didnt want her again, she asked me sorry, and said she wanted to be with me.. I told her i would give her other chance but needed some time for myself..
I could really use 2 weeks or so of being alone since i was kinda tired of the routine, but she insisted in calling everyday when i was not ready yet, not because of any other girl, i just needed that time.. And after a week or so we started again, i didnt feel 100% yet, but i gave the chance cause i cared about her.. This was 1 year after we started or so..
We kept breaking up like that, either me, either her for small arguments. Sex was always incredibly hot, that was the main reason she would get me to go back to her, because i really missed it with her..
After 2 years i told myself i would never want to be her boyfriend again, i was so tired of this relation.. But she wanted me, and i was giving her no hope.. After 2 weeks she started going out with a guy, but everyday or 2 she would phone me to talk to me, and saying she was getting somewhat involved and if i didnt want her anymore she would try with this new guy. They had kissed then.. I felt very jealous and i took her back.. (we are now 2 years after we started)
And i think after a few months we started again a change ocured. I ignored all the things she would to do me sometimes, and I started being the best of boyfriends (not that i was a bad one before!), really caring and loving, and she was loving it too, i would go anytime to see her, make her surprises, etc..
Sex was everytime better and better, specially when we could make it at night, we would do it 7 or 8 times a night...
June 2003 (2,5 years of being together), some changes ocured. She was never the kind of girl to use makeup and some kind of clothes and she started using them. I liked it then, she was looking more and more beautifull.. And she installed internet and messenger. I think that proved to be very bad for our relationship, since a lot of guys who never had the guts to talk to her personally now had an easy tool to harass her..
I went for a 1 week camping with friends and i invited her. She said she would got but never did. I got pissed off because after last summer not being any time with me, now not even now she would..
At weekends i would come home because during week i would stay in a house near her because of college, and weekends was the only time i came home. My friends saw her in a bar next to her house one weekend. All this time she never had told me she used to go out at night at weekends, and it proved that almost every friday she had been going out.. I got really pissed off on this.. I know because of something i will tell next that she never was with other guy in these weekends, but it was still something that pissed me off a lot, she had lied about not going out.. When i confronted her with this she said that yes sometimes she used to go out with her friends and hadn't told me..
Dunno if this was before or after me camping. We had agreed that we could do something like having an adventure with other person if we would tell the other that we were interested, not going to bed of course, just kissing and having fun. So one time she came on messenger and told me that in the bar she used to go one guy started talking to her, and suddenly grabed her and kissed her, and they were kissing for 15m before she went home.. I felt so bad.. She hadnt told me like we agreed that she wanted something like that and since things were not going well between us, she ignoring me a lot my afections and that stuff.. So i asked more about it, she said he kissed her and she corresponded.. When i said i was pissed of because she made that when things were not very ok between us, she said it was just a few kisses, and she went home right after without his phone or something, embarassed..
Sometimes we were at my place and her phone kept ringing, she said it was her father or bla bla and didnt never answered, and im not dumb, along with her becoming away from me all that ringing and messenger talking.. It was obvious someone was after her and she was hiding it.. But since we were together i tought it was just some harassment and we would prevail.