I'll try to keep this brief. There's a condensed version before, marked by asterisks, but PLEASE read the whole story.
A few weeks ago I had plans to go out with three of my best friends: Josh, Paul, and Dave. We were going to go to a party. I called Josh at some point in the afternoon to finalize our plans, and he told me that his mom was going out and if he wanted to go anywhere that night it had to be now. I told him to come on over.
Well, he came. I gave him dinner, I gave him deodorant, I let him use my computer, I cleaned up after him after he left, and I was generally a good friend and a good host. We made plans to go out with Paul and Dave, but there was a snag.
While Josh was talking to Paul (Dave was driving) I heard them having an argument about space in the car. Apparently Josh's girlfriend was going to come with us. Earlier in the day she had cancelled plans with us for some reason, but they told me that she had changed her mind. They said that Dave's car was broken in the center and could only hold four people - and, since I was the last person to get in on the party situation, Josh told me (well, asked me) to find another ride.
I was understandably pissed. But, I understood there was no changing the situation since I had another ride lined up, so I called up some more friends.
Yesterday I found out that they had completely lied to me. Paul, who I had been cool with that morning and who I had a great time with at the party, had been in a ****ty mood and decided he didn't want to see me. Josh, being the little pvssy whipped b1tch that he is, went along with Paul and lied to me about his girlfriend coming so I wouldn't go with them.
I had confronted them about their suspicious story a couple of times and both Paul and Josh had lied to me. When I just told Paul to stop being an azzhole and tell me the truth, he did. He apologized profusely and said he felt bad, and I just walked off. He IMed me later apologizing again and saying he just gets into moods, and he didn't know why he was mad at me and he felt like an ass later when he saw me at the party.
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I'm fine with Paul and I'm fine with Dave. I don't quite know how to react to Josh.
Here's how I see the situation. Paul messed up and feels awful about it, and genuinely cares about me. Josh, on the other hand:
Invited himself over to my house.
Ate my food.
Used my computer.
Used my deodorant.
Ate more of my good.
Left his dishes around my room.
Drank my alcohol.
And then ditched me when our other friend was clearly being an ass for no reason and lied to me about it for weeks.
Right now, I'd gladly fight this guy. I feel like he stabbed me in the back for no good reason, and then lied to me about it.
I'm wondering how long it's appropriate to be mad at him. Just typing htis has gotten me pissed off at him all over again. Most of you will say "don't be their friend." Well, I have dozens of friends. However I hang out with these guys, who are part of my group, just about every weekend. I have most classes with them, I eat lunch with them, and for one thing I've been friends with Josh for 4 years and Paul for two.
Deep down, I care about these guys a lot and they care about me.
I let him know this morning how I think he's an *******. He kept trying to talk to me throughout the day but I was too pissed off to. That's all. Thanks for the advice in advance.
A few weeks ago I had plans to go out with three of my best friends: Josh, Paul, and Dave. We were going to go to a party. I called Josh at some point in the afternoon to finalize our plans, and he told me that his mom was going out and if he wanted to go anywhere that night it had to be now. I told him to come on over.
Well, he came. I gave him dinner, I gave him deodorant, I let him use my computer, I cleaned up after him after he left, and I was generally a good friend and a good host. We made plans to go out with Paul and Dave, but there was a snag.
While Josh was talking to Paul (Dave was driving) I heard them having an argument about space in the car. Apparently Josh's girlfriend was going to come with us. Earlier in the day she had cancelled plans with us for some reason, but they told me that she had changed her mind. They said that Dave's car was broken in the center and could only hold four people - and, since I was the last person to get in on the party situation, Josh told me (well, asked me) to find another ride.
I was understandably pissed. But, I understood there was no changing the situation since I had another ride lined up, so I called up some more friends.
Yesterday I found out that they had completely lied to me. Paul, who I had been cool with that morning and who I had a great time with at the party, had been in a ****ty mood and decided he didn't want to see me. Josh, being the little pvssy whipped b1tch that he is, went along with Paul and lied to me about his girlfriend coming so I wouldn't go with them.
I had confronted them about their suspicious story a couple of times and both Paul and Josh had lied to me. When I just told Paul to stop being an azzhole and tell me the truth, he did. He apologized profusely and said he felt bad, and I just walked off. He IMed me later apologizing again and saying he just gets into moods, and he didn't know why he was mad at me and he felt like an ass later when he saw me at the party.
********************** SHORT VERSION **********************
I'm fine with Paul and I'm fine with Dave. I don't quite know how to react to Josh.
Here's how I see the situation. Paul messed up and feels awful about it, and genuinely cares about me. Josh, on the other hand:
Invited himself over to my house.
Ate my food.
Used my computer.
Used my deodorant.
Ate more of my good.
Left his dishes around my room.
Drank my alcohol.
And then ditched me when our other friend was clearly being an ass for no reason and lied to me about it for weeks.
Right now, I'd gladly fight this guy. I feel like he stabbed me in the back for no good reason, and then lied to me about it.
I'm wondering how long it's appropriate to be mad at him. Just typing htis has gotten me pissed off at him all over again. Most of you will say "don't be their friend." Well, I have dozens of friends. However I hang out with these guys, who are part of my group, just about every weekend. I have most classes with them, I eat lunch with them, and for one thing I've been friends with Josh for 4 years and Paul for two.
Deep down, I care about these guys a lot and they care about me.
I let him know this morning how I think he's an *******. He kept trying to talk to me throughout the day but I was too pissed off to. That's all. Thanks for the advice in advance.