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My first "Field Report"

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Well here it goes, I called in sick for work yesterday and had nothing better to do so I decided to "try" and PU some quality chicks. But before I went out chick hunting a needed a confidence boost so I pounded back 3 heinekens, not drunk; just a little tipsy.

First off I headed to a shopping center or as you USA guys say the "mall" and browsed around looking for sufficent "talent".

First off I noticed a petite blonde girl sitting on a bench outside blockbuster video by herself, looks about 17yrs old, a definite HB8. I walked passed her, we locked eyes, I smiled and she gave me a warm smile back. The beer gave me balls so as I was walking past her I said "hello" with a smile. She seemed receptive and replied "hello" back. Was getting good EC and smiles so I asked her "Is it cool if I sit here?" She's like "am, yeah ok"(she seemed a little nervous now) I asked the standard questions and introduced myself and she introduced herself and said her names Natalie. The conversation ratio was good, I'd say 60/40 (her being the 60) anyway I didn't touch her or anything like that, didn't wanna come on TOO strong. At the end of the convo I asked her if she wants to grab a drink sometime..... her response: "oh, am, I have a boyfriend already"(she says this while looking down and blushing like a fvcking tomato, "BULL****!" I thought to myself) So I just go "ok, not a problem, seeya later then.."

So I go to a bar and buy myself one more beer after that knock back. I pound it back and walk out to go on the prowl again. I walk by another beautiful blonde, about 18yrs old; a HB9 easily. We lock eyes and I wink at her(trying something different here) and she gives me a look like I'm fvcking Norman Bates from Psycho. Biatch! I just continue on my merry way...

I walk outta the mall and see a HB8 waiting at the bus stop by herself. A sexy aged 16ish brunette. I walk up, make EC and smile. She smiles back and replies with a "hi" So I ask her where she's headed too and she goes "um, why?" I reply with "jesus girl, just making small talk here, no need to be all suspicious on me" got a nervous laughter from her outta that. The she tells me where she's going.
"ok cool" I reply. We make small talk for like 10-15mins til her bus comes and I say;
"we should catch up sometime, wanna exchange phone #'s?"
"well I would, but I don't think my boyfriend would like that" she says.
I smile and say "well I won't tell him if you don't"
She gives me a dissapproving look and says "no I better not. I gotta go now, bye"
Sh!t, fvcken hell, rejected bad I think to myself.

Ego is getting battered big time here so I'm only up for 1 more attempt, this time I'm going for something a little more average. I go into macdonalds and order something to eat and I spot a HB7 sitting by herself, eating. We lock eyes and she smiles and quickly looks away. I walk to the table right beside her and plonk my azz down. Where about 2 feet apart. I catch her turning her head and looking at me and and then quickly looking back.
"Hi, how you doing?" I say, all smiles...
"sorry?" she says, think she was surprised that some stranger just started talking to her.
"I said, HOW ARE YOU DO-ING" raising my voice and talking a little slower.
"Oh I'm good thanks, just having lunch with my friend" she says.
"Oh? a friend hey, where is he?" I said.
"Oh no it's not a he, SHE's just in the bathroom."
We make the standard chit chat until her friend, a stunning HB9, comes outta the bathroom. She must have been constipated in their or something coz when she came out I was sitting at their 4 seat table and her friend was giving me a look of pure malice and discontent.

She looked like Kelly of Beverly Hills 90210 except 4x the snob. Anyway the HB7 introduced me to her and and HB9 didn't even acknowledge me, a real super ice cold b!tch. Anyway I continued talking with HB7 for like another 20mins or so. Good EC going on, good convo ratio, the works. She was also getting touchy, leaning forward and touching my arm and hands while smiling and looking into my eyes.

Then HB9 says "We better get going now Shannon(HB7)" so I close and said I enjoyed chatting to her. Before I even ask her for her number HB7 says "we should get together sometime, I'll give you my phone #"
"sure thing" I say. HB9 gives me the I-THINK-YOU'RE-SCUM look the while HB7 jots down her digits on my hand.

That's all folks... Massive post, sorry. I've learnt I few things from my first cold PU attempts, like it's easy to spot chicks that bullsh!t about having bf's and 7's are much easier to get, but you all knew that anyway.. hehe

Part success, part failure, I really wanted to close with some HB8+ but no luck. Only have one very keen HB7 in the wings waiting for my call...

P.S. Important question here, is winking at chicks just as good as smiling at them, what do you guys think?
 

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If you mean winking as inn with the eyes it's a big nono if you ask me. Cheesyyyy..... So don't do it.

if a girl says she has a BF looks down and blushes it's a greater chance for that being the truth than vice verca.... People tend to look away when they tell the truth or get embarassed.... Embarassement like that often comes from the fact that they feel they led you on...
 

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sweet FR

I had a good read, good to see you used your balls and got out there. Nice work getting the girl at McDonalds too!

hey you should of cut her HB9 friend down to size, neg-hit her....maybe you could of said ''where did you come from?'' when she came back, she says ''toilet'', and then you can say 'oh really, cos i have been sitting here with HB7 for a while, you must of been in there a long time -are you ok?'' not really a textbook neg-hit, but not too bad I think.

anyway good stuff!
 

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Nice work Hash, if more people sacked up and did the kind of things you're doing, there'd by so much more useful information floating around...Just remember its a numbers game...
 

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1) Girls aren't bytches just because they don't talk to random strangers in public. It's one thing to be friendly, but it's kinda odd and unnatural to walk up next to a girl at the video store just to hit on her. A few girls will be ok with it, the others will be creeped out. Don't blame them.

2) Drinking doesn't give you confidence. The buzz is just that, a buzz. If it 'gave' you confidence, you wouldn't have felt like an ass when you got rejected. Also, why do you feel you need to drink to make a conversation with somebody?

3) Good job with the McDonald's girl. Don't let the HB9 bother you. She may have been jealous beacause SHE usually gets the attention when she's out. Also, again, it's not often that you see a random stranger hitting on a girl at a McDonald's.
 
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People tend to look away when they tell the truth or get embarassed....
Really? I could have sworn that I've read when people lie, they don't look you in the eye... anyway, Yeah I'll stay away from the winking Kineti[C]harm.

Hehe yeah you're right TTAG, I was thinking of putting that Mcdonalds HB9 in her place but unfortunately I didn't have SUCH BIG balls, oh well, next time I will....;)

Thanks DankNuggs, I thought I would've got flamed alot for what I did wrong in these cold approaches.... That's right it is a numbers game. If people are just going to sit at home b!tching and moaning about how you can't get chicks when you don't even try it's pretty futile, as NIKE says "just do it"!

You will get rejected alot when you're out their trying, but that's the price you gotta pay if you ever want some punani...:D
 

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It's wrong...

When people stress to be believable (that is they are lying) they concentrate on eyecontact because that's what they think shows honesty... People that are not lying tend to flake with their eyes, upinto the head etc to retrieve information.
 
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It's one thing to be friendly, but it's kinda odd and unnatural to walk up next to a girl at the video store just to hit on her. A few girls will be ok with it, the others will be creeped out. Don't blame them.
Fair enough. So blitz are you saying it's the WRONG way to approach or just "odd and unnatural"?

Drinking doesn't give you confidence. The buzz is just that, a buzz. If it 'gave' you confidence, you wouldn't have felt like an ass when you got rejected.
Not true. It did give me "some" confidence, it just didn't give me the "total" confidence boost.

Also, why do you feel you need to drink to make a conversation with somebody?
I don't. My main downfall is when I try and PU it's not easy for me, and having a couple of drinks eases my nerves somewhat.

Don't let the HB9 bother you. She may have been jealous beacause SHE usually gets the attention when she's out
That's what I thought too. Since most likely she's the one that would probably always get hit on, not her friend.
 

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That sh1t was long az hell . I only read the first girl's part.
Anyways you should have pressed the issue and either gotten a yes or a definite rejection.



P.S. No don't wink at them . This isn't the 80's.
 

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Don't drink when you PU. It screws you up and your wits are not what they should be.

You set off the defences a bit too much. Approach in a less sexual way, fluff talk, rapport and only then sexual come ons.

Talk about their interests after fluff.

Hey, how you're doing is dumb approach. Shows too much interest and is an equivalent to "hey, I like you, I wanna chat you up"

Do situational approaches. Comment, with an uninterested body language, about something in the environment to open. This approach doesn't raise shields.

Again, DO NOT DRINK
 

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well done mate, good to see another Australian trying cold shopping centre approaches. Are you in Melbourne?

Bad luck about the b1tchy HB9 but next time you'll easily be able to handle it. Also, I hope you didn't have beer on your breath. If you must drink beer, wash it down with something sweet.
 

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Originally posted by Ice Cold
Hey, how you're doing is dumb approach. Shows too much interest and is an equivalent to "hey, I like you, I wanna chat you up"

Do situational approaches. Comment, with an uninterested body language, about something in the environment to open. This approach doesn't raise shields.
That's B$.

Hi is the best opener there is. How are you doing is an easy and universal follow on. People open up well and it starts a two way conversation.

But just like any opener you have to be confident and congruent in applying it.

Situational openers are great too, and they can appear less of an "approach", more just a comment.

You shouldn't be afraid to show interest. At what point do you let her know you have interest, when you have your d1ck inside her?

If you start talking to a random girl she KNOWS what you are doing anyway. They assume it. Arrogant, but true. That's why infatuated AFCs blow themselves out, the chick knows they like them but that they have no confidence to show their interest.
 

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good thing you didn't just give up after the 3rd reject.
 

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Originally posted by JJMcLure
That's B$.

Hi is the best opener there is. How are you doing is an easy and universal follow on. People open up well and it starts a two way conversation.

But just like any opener you have to be confident and congruent in applying it.

Situational openers are great too, and they can appear less of an "approach", more just a comment.

You shouldn't be afraid to show interest. At what point do you let her know you have interest, when you have your d1ck inside her?

If you start talking to a random girl she KNOWS what you are doing anyway. They assume it. Arrogant, but true. That's why infatuated AFCs blow themselves out, the chick knows they like them but that they have no confidence to show their interest.
No THIS is BS!

If you roll up on a girl all sexual its sets off her defenses. You want to start off with polite conversation and then gradually turn the heat up.

Otherwise you can come of a little creepy
 

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Originally posted by Don Ronny
No THIS is BS!

If you roll up on a girl all sexual its sets off her defenses. You want to start off with polite conversation and then gradually turn the heat up.

Otherwise you can come of a little creepy
Showing interest and "rolling up all sexual" :rolleyes: are not the same thing.

If you think the only way to show interest is to "roll up all sexual", it's no wonder chicks think you're a creep.
 

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Originally posted by JJMcLure
Showing interest and "rolling up all sexual" :rolleyes: are not the same thing.

If you think the only way to show interest is to "roll up all sexual", it's no wonder chicks think you're a creep.
Dude YOU are the one who said

Originally posted by JJMcLure
At what point do you let her know you have interest, when you have your d1ck inside her?
That is SEXUAL interest no?

A girl knows you are interested just by merit of the fact that you are approaching her. No need to telegraph your desire to jump her bones just yet. Be civil, polite and friendly to get your foot in the door otherwise her defenses get triggered.

Thats all I am sayin. If she is receptive to your vibe, THEN you can turn up the heat a little and reward her with more of your "interest" (and maybe some d1ck later on as well) :cool:
 

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Originally posted by JJMcLure
That's B$.
I'm all ears.

Hi is the best opener there is. How are you doing is an easy and universal follow on. People open up well and it starts a two way conversation.
On the street? In a subway? When she's sober and isn't open to contact? I'd like to see you starting a "two way conversation" with just a simpple "hi, how are you doing?"

This works at a party or some social event, when you have some common interests. Not in public places.

But just like any opener you have to be confident and congruent in applying it.
Duh

Situational openers are great too, and they can appear less of an "approach", more just a comment.

You shouldn't be afraid to show interest.
I am not afraid. It's more productive to show interest after at least a few minutes of small talk. If you just show sexual interest to random people on the street, you come off as a sexually depraved young man. If that's the image you want to create, go ahead

If you start talking to a random girl she KNOWS what you are doing anyway. They assume it. Arrogant, but true. That's why infatuated AFCs blow themselves out, the chick knows they like them but that they have no confidence to show their interest.
Not always and it's a gross generalization, which doesn't benefit your argument.
 
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