my fiance dumped me!!!!

[CONDE FRANCO]

I am really surprised about this, I feel melancholic and feel a hole in my stomach. I made her cry a lot, I played heavy jokes at her (like telling her I did not love her,which it is true). I feel sad, I called her tonight because I had like 2 weeks without calling her (she lives away from me) and she told me she did not love me any more, I felt really flabergasted to hear that, because she was telling me all the time she loved me, she made me poems, I meant a lot to her. But she had enough of my ****e, and she said that I made her suffered too much. I cant believe she behaved so indiffernt to me.


well I think this is the best for us, because I did not love her, I just got used to her. I cannot believe she dumped me first, she was as you guys like to say: a big afc. 3 years gentlemen, and now is over. God gives me the will power to look ahead.

 

[HuuBinh]

some guy probably used the boyfriend destroyer on her.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Haha, the boyfriend destroyer! When someone is indifferent, that's when it hurts the most, because they don't care. When they argue and express their hate, you know they still care.

Congratulations, and get ready to practice everything you've learned.

 

[CONDE FRANCO]

thanks, well, what can i say, I hope she finds the true love of her life, because I wasn't.

 

[Dee-Zy]

WTF? U have a hole in your stomach - but did I read it right? She was your fiance, u have been with her for 3 years but you don't love her???

 

[CONDE FRANCO]

yes, we were going to marry 6 months from now, I was not in love with her, or probably I was I do not know. It feels bad knowing she is not with me.

 

[OddTech]

If you didn't love her, why did you engage? I don't understand.

 

[Quick]

She found someone else. It's as simple as that. With you guys living apart, there was always that danger. When a girl goes from all that love crap to being indifferent it's because someone else is giving them the excitement and and they feel secure enough in the new relationship to finally drop you. When all of the details come to light, you'll find out that those details hurt more than the actual loss of her.

Lots of people get engaged that don't really feel love for each other. They're comfortable, been with the person for a few years, and see no reason not to get married. It's not until someone else comes into these people's lives that they start to question whether they're doing the right thing. Unfortunately, that often happens after they already got married.

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

This is an odd post...

I mean, dude. No wonder she dumped you first, you were being a moron. I can't tell if you're happy you're not together, unhappy, if you think it's funny, or if you are upset just because she dumped you first.

I don't see any relevance in this post.


-- Zero-

 

[Reto]

It kind of makes sense. I think...

He was comfortable with her, but wasn't in love with her. Too afraid to be alone, so stayed "with" her. Got engaged so he'd never have to be alone.

Now it's a bag full of mixed emotions. He was dumped, rejection, which sux. But there's some relief now that it's over. Scary because there is a future with out her. (Or maybe that's relief...)

 

[CONDE FRANCO]

yes, am full of mix emotions, I am surprise to hear that indiffernt voice, when a few weeks before she used to tell me she loved me every second, surprise to hear her apology for dumping me. I did behave like a moron, she suffered a lot with me, now she got the courage to untangle from me. yep, probably this post does not make sense, because am still very subjective.

 

[KiInCollege]

It's good that you recognize you're emotional right now. Who among us has never said something they didn't regret during a fight? I know I have.

I once told a LTR girl I didn't want to see her again. After we seperated the next day she called me back apologizing, and I realized and replied, "Hey, I shouldn't have said I didn't want to see you again. I didn't mean that...I'm sorry, too."

The point I want to make is 3+ years is a long time. Whether your ex found someone else or not, you should consider at least trying to get back what you had, when the both of you aren't caught up in emotions. Women just want to be right sometimes - you can't reason with them when they're emotional. So give it some time.

If there is another guy involved, my advice is the same. When people meet a new attractive stranger, they're interested in the mystery and they don't know the bad qualities about them, they just see the good at first. In this case, give her some time to realize what she's doing, and find some other women to preoccupy your time with.

If after some time you both logically decide to part, then do so.