My Experiences with Choosing Signals Part 2

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

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Yeah man, the next 3 experiences I will share is meant to prove 3 points...

1. Some women who gives you choosing signals, you may not even be attracted to them.

That is why you should NEVER rely solely on choosing signals in order to get laid.

2. Even though you may not have initially been attracted to the woman who gave you choosing signals, the fact that she is giving you choosing signals is what MAKES her attractive to you.

3. Back on the subject of cold approaching; sometimes, when you approach a woman and spit game to her, that in itself may be enough for her to become attracted to you, even if she wasn't before.

Now, I will share cases where women have chosen me, and in each case neither woman was on my radar, at ALL.

And also, each case, the women approached me first...

It goes a little something like this..

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Case 1: I was working at the Macy's Distribution Center. I worked in a specific department of about 30-40 employees, and had already been working there for a few months. My department had quite a few women, and their attractiveness all varied on the spectrum scale.

I had long since worked out which strategy was to be used for each of my intended targets; some the ignoring strategy, some I was waiting on right time to ask if single...and some were not worthy of my time or energy.

Now, there was one particular woman (lets call her Laura).

Laura was a white brunette with thick hips. She had an average face, and medium sized chest..but a sweet and pleasant personality (as I would come to find out). She was in her mid-late 40's, too.

Laura worked in the quality control (QC) department, which was a separate group/department from mines.

However, their main working area overlapped with my department, and on an average day we (my department) would have to pass QC's working area as we went about or daily jobs.

I had already analyzed Laura a longggg time ago, and based on my assessment, found her unworthy of my time...and I really did NOT have anything to say to her, nor any reason to...because even though our jobs always had the potential to overlap (my department would have to ride our Picker machines through their area over the course of the day), me and her never crossed paths so I never had a reason to talk to her...nor did I have a desire to do so.

So, she was pretty much invisible to me.

Now, one day, when I rode past her area, she waved at me. I waved back and kept riding. This would happen every day and every time I would ride pass her area, she would be looking at me, smiling.

I honestly did not think anything of it, considering my focus was always on trying to plot and plan my way towards my actual targets...not just within my own department, but the various other departments and women throughout the entire huge ass warehouse.

But then I began to notice that as I rode by her area, she began to speak to me, asking me stuff like how is my day going. I would respond to her accordingly, but it was usually just the typical chitty chatty stuff.

Then, in the mornings, she would start to seek me out as I prepared my machine. She would come over to me, saying good morning.

Then, those good mornings began to be accompanied by long, warm hugs.

One day, about an hour after lunch, I parked my machine and went to go take a piss. When I was returning back to my machine, I passed Laura's area. She approached me..

Her: Did you get the note?

Me: What note?

Her: The note I left on your machine, silly.

Me: Oh naww, I aint even see it.

Her *smiling*: Look for it, it is in there.

Me: Aight, let me see what you dun left me.

I went back to my machine to look for the note. The note said..

"Hope you are having a great day. Laura "

The note was short, sweet, and innocent.

So after I read the note, I looked at Laura who was a short distance away, and she was standing there, smiling from ear to ear.

I approached her and gave her a nice big hug...because she made me feel VERY special.

Now, here is the point...Laura went from not being on my radar, even to the slightest degree; to now all of a sudden I became infatuated with her. I was beginning to break my masculine frame as the days/weeks went by and me and her were on this...course.

I caught myself from breaking frame completely, and began to purposely distant myself from Laura. She obviously noticed this...and once again (like many times before), she sought me out (she found out where I had been parking my machine, which was away from her)...she approached me with a hurtful look on her face.

Her: Have you been avoiding me???

Me: Yeah, I'm just trying to wean myself off you.

Her: Boy you better come over here and give me a hug and quit all of that nonsense.

I hugged her and melted.

SMH.

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Now, in closing, I want to make a few points..

1. Laura was not even ON MY RADAR...at all. But after she began choosing me, I couldn't get her off my mind

Her choosing signals were text-book progressive; from the waves and smiles (body language), to placing herself in my vicinity and speaking (verbal), to the hugs (physical).

2. No, me and Laura never had sex. Could we have? Sure. Why didn't we? Because..

A. She was in a relationship and I try not to cross those boundaries.

B. I never viewed her as a sexual object (although I asked to suck her titties lol)...and we bonded so much on a friendship level over the next few months that it is hard to even imagine myself in her puzzy. This was the first time I ever put a woman in the friendship zone.

C. Plus, I have a "Nick Cannon" mentality when it comes to puzzy (think about it for a sec lol), and she based on her personal situations, she would not be a good candidate.

But, I have no doubt that if I wanted it...I could have gotten it.

I cannot stress this enough; when a woman chooses you in the way that she choose me, it is truly remarkable. As I think back to how she looked at me, with so much admiration...she could get lost in MY gaze.

She chose me..and I wasn't even THINKING ABOUT HER.

P.S..I was gonna add the other two cases to this thread, but this thread went longer than anticipated.

 

[Slowhandluke]

So you got seduced by a Don Juan. Congratulations. This is how a lot of girls should feel like when seduced by a man. Nothing incell. Just common decency.

 

[Velasco]

average face. in her mid-late 40's, too

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[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Good for you for maintaining boundaries and exercising integrity.

Yup. You must stand for something.

Too many single women out there to try and push up on one who belongs to someone else.

Although I wouldn't blame ya if you had chosen to have sex, SHE was the one in a relationship and SHE was the one flirting with you and sending strong 'choosing signals.'

Facts!!! But it is also nice knowing that, had I wanted to, there is a strong possibility that I could have.

As a man, it is nice to be in a position where you can turn down sex.

It is a position that some men are never in.

WTF was she doing coming on to you, sending choosing signals- sweet notes, hugs, etc. - when she had a boyfriend?

She had revealed to me that although her and her guy were hanging in there, there were problems, nevertheless.

Validation? Attention? That's pretty crappy behavior, I feel badly for her boyfriend who probably doesn't know any of this. Wow.

And that exposes a bigger issue...how loyal are most women?

There is this thing going on nowadays with "work husbands", and "work wives"....it is more predominate than most of us would like to admit...and I do not condone it one bit.

The concept is becoming more accepted as the norm, and I aint wit it.

I'm wondering how you responded after she told you she was in a relationship?

It didn't bother me...I did not want to take it there with her anyway...so it was all good.

That said, I get your point. Women are the same and posted it earlier.

When an attractive man approaches me and talks to me, which indicates his attraction and interest in me, sometimes that alone can evoke feelings of attraction and interest in him!

Exactly!!!! Which is why men should approach women!!!

Here is an example; lets say, you were going to the grocery store to grab come eggs and milk.

While you are waiting in the checkout line, you notice the candy rack (candy bars, skittles, etc).

Then you think to yourself..

"Well, I could use some skittles"

or..

"Damn, these snickers are two for one dollar. I will grab come of these, too".

The point: When you went to the store, you had no plans to buy candy. The candy wasn't even on your mind, until the candy was presented to you and then you realized that candy isn't such a bad idea right now.

Those candy racks are placed there for that purpose, to draw waiting customers in!!

The same thing when a man approaches you. You probably weren't even thinking about him before he approached you...and now he made his presence known to you, and now you are intrigued.

If he ignores me, there is no opportunity for that to happen.

Spoken like a true woman lol.

Good story though.

Gracious. If you keep on replying to my posts, I might have to get at you, too.

Matter fact, PM me.