Women don't go by an honor system like guys, I've read it a million times on here. Last night was really the first time I experienced it though.
I have this friend who's an HB8.5. We have slept with each other and get along really well. I have never gotten serious with her because I have known her to be fickle with her feelings and she has told me about times she cheated on her bf's, and sometimes cheated on him with me. *RED FLAG#1*. She also hooks me up with her friends. I've known her for about 6 years and I considerded her a close and reliable friend until last night.
We hadn't seen each other lately cuz she was in a relationship, but had broken up recently and was ringing my phone off the hook to hang out. A concert was coming up, I had a few friends in mind to go, but "she hadn't seen me in so long" that I asked her to come along.
We are waiting in line for tickets and a guy she knows walks by. She's chatting him up, I don't care cuz I'm not interested in dating her so I talk to this babe in line next to me, no biggie. We get inside and find our seats, have a good time. Intermission comes and she tells me shes gonna go talk to him, that's cool cuz I go down and mingle with the babes.
I come back and the lights go out, the band comes on, she's nowhere to be seen. I begin to get mad. I go over to her and guy and tell her I'm going down to the floor. Screw that, I bring her to a concert cuz she wants to see me so bad and she goes off to set with someone else, I wouldn't even tolerate that from my guy buddies.
The concert ends and she finds me outside. She immediately could tell I was mad and tried to tell me that she was sorry, that she wasn't thinking, she didn't think I was mad. Asking me if I was pissed at her. I don't say a word, she just keeps apoloigizing and telling me I have a right to be mad, she would be too if someone did that to her (hmm, and she said she wasn't thinking?).
It wasn't until I made her realize that I could have taken anybody else tonight, any dates or friends, but I decided to take her cuz she wanted to see me "so bad" just to be blown off like that (not literally) that she started to cry cuz I called her out on her sh!t. Telling me how much she cares about me, how good of friends we are and that she was a d!cik for doing that. I draw this out for two hours, she asks me if I hate her. "NO I don't hate you, if I did I would have left your ass there, but I'm not going to take you anywhere with me again" was my answer. She gets quiet and tears up. She tried to get cute and use her looks to soften me up, I didn't budge, it's funny how much a woman crumbles when you take away what power they have when it comes to that and actually call them out on things like you would a man.
It goes on like this, she has nothing left to say, no excuses because she knows what she did was sh!tty and how I handled it by staying mad and not letting her get away with it left her no room to convince herself that there was nothing wrong with what she did. She asks me how she could make it up to me (I know what your thinking but I hold out to see what all I can get). I make it clear that if she really cares about me then she will make this up to me, and until she does I don't want to talk to her. Turns out she's getting an apartment with two other friends and she is going to invite me over one night when they all get drunk. I also make her pay me for the concert ticket.
Lessons learned
-Women don't value friendship like guys do, no honor or loyalty.
-Stand your ground with a woman, no matter how what don't give in to them.
-Unless your getting sex from a woman friend or hooking up with her friends there is no other use for them.
-Women will convince themselves that they did nothing wrong if it's possible in anyway, "I didn't do anything wrong cuz I'm pretty"
-You get major respect if they do do something wrong and call them out on it and don't cave in, cuz once they see that their looks and charms won't work and they know they are in the wrong they cave.
I have this friend who's an HB8.5. We have slept with each other and get along really well. I have never gotten serious with her because I have known her to be fickle with her feelings and she has told me about times she cheated on her bf's, and sometimes cheated on him with me. *RED FLAG#1*. She also hooks me up with her friends. I've known her for about 6 years and I considerded her a close and reliable friend until last night.
We hadn't seen each other lately cuz she was in a relationship, but had broken up recently and was ringing my phone off the hook to hang out. A concert was coming up, I had a few friends in mind to go, but "she hadn't seen me in so long" that I asked her to come along.
We are waiting in line for tickets and a guy she knows walks by. She's chatting him up, I don't care cuz I'm not interested in dating her so I talk to this babe in line next to me, no biggie. We get inside and find our seats, have a good time. Intermission comes and she tells me shes gonna go talk to him, that's cool cuz I go down and mingle with the babes.
I come back and the lights go out, the band comes on, she's nowhere to be seen. I begin to get mad. I go over to her and guy and tell her I'm going down to the floor. Screw that, I bring her to a concert cuz she wants to see me so bad and she goes off to set with someone else, I wouldn't even tolerate that from my guy buddies.
The concert ends and she finds me outside. She immediately could tell I was mad and tried to tell me that she was sorry, that she wasn't thinking, she didn't think I was mad. Asking me if I was pissed at her. I don't say a word, she just keeps apoloigizing and telling me I have a right to be mad, she would be too if someone did that to her (hmm, and she said she wasn't thinking?).
It wasn't until I made her realize that I could have taken anybody else tonight, any dates or friends, but I decided to take her cuz she wanted to see me "so bad" just to be blown off like that (not literally) that she started to cry cuz I called her out on her sh!t. Telling me how much she cares about me, how good of friends we are and that she was a d!cik for doing that. I draw this out for two hours, she asks me if I hate her. "NO I don't hate you, if I did I would have left your ass there, but I'm not going to take you anywhere with me again" was my answer. She gets quiet and tears up. She tried to get cute and use her looks to soften me up, I didn't budge, it's funny how much a woman crumbles when you take away what power they have when it comes to that and actually call them out on things like you would a man.
It goes on like this, she has nothing left to say, no excuses because she knows what she did was sh!tty and how I handled it by staying mad and not letting her get away with it left her no room to convince herself that there was nothing wrong with what she did. She asks me how she could make it up to me (I know what your thinking but I hold out to see what all I can get). I make it clear that if she really cares about me then she will make this up to me, and until she does I don't want to talk to her. Turns out she's getting an apartment with two other friends and she is going to invite me over one night when they all get drunk. I also make her pay me for the concert ticket.
Lessons learned
-Women don't value friendship like guys do, no honor or loyalty.
-Stand your ground with a woman, no matter how what don't give in to them.
-Unless your getting sex from a woman friend or hooking up with her friends there is no other use for them.
-Women will convince themselves that they did nothing wrong if it's possible in anyway, "I didn't do anything wrong cuz I'm pretty"
-You get major respect if they do do something wrong and call them out on it and don't cave in, cuz once they see that their looks and charms won't work and they know they are in the wrong they cave.
