To give a little background on the situation...
I dated this woman several years ago for about a year. We got along fine. We never argued but due to some overwhelming drama going on within her family I had to break off our relationship because the drama was affecting our relationship. We remained friends even though sometimes we would find ourselves naked when she came over to visit but we understood that we were no longer in a committed relationship.
Well, we lost touch when I moved out of state three years ago and we have not heard from each other since until now (I didn't return many of her phone calls before I left)... I know.
Last week I found her old address and decided to write her to see how she was doing. She emailed me back saying that she is now married and has a husband who is very abusive, mentally, physically, and emotionally. She was very happy to hear from me and told be that it was ironic that I would contact her right when she was deciding if she should go through with a divorce or not ( considering her past family drama it didn't surprise me that she was still "deciding"). She told me that she plans to call me before the week ends and wanted my input on her situation.
Well, I usually do not stick my nose into any of my friends or family relationships. I believe someone looking outside can never fully understand what is going on inside of a relationship. The person you support will always depict themselves as being the good one and you just can never know the intricate details of a complex relationship to judge it and tell someone what they should do.
On the other hand, abuse is good for no relationships but I hesitate to put myself in a position where it looks like I am the ex boyfriend trying to get someone to leave their husband. But I do want to be a good friend to her especially since I feel kind of guilty for never returning her phone calls or contacting her before I moved out of the state. And we did get along well in the past.
She has sent me a couple of emails and she mentioned that she wished we had stayed together but I realize that she just needs some support right now and need someone to lean on. I know that we all do at some point in our lives.
Well, I just would like some suggestions on how to handle this so I can play around with them and come up with a good plan. Again, I feel uncomfortable giving marital advice to an ex who may still have attractions for me but I do want to be a good friend and make up for ignoring her in the past.
No offense, but I am only seeking advice from DJs mid 20's and above. It is not that anyone younger than this can't give mature advice but we know how some of these young bucks think around here and I am just not in the mood for that right now. So to increase my odds of getting mature sound input, I would like the older DJs to respond only.
I dated this woman several years ago for about a year. We got along fine. We never argued but due to some overwhelming drama going on within her family I had to break off our relationship because the drama was affecting our relationship. We remained friends even though sometimes we would find ourselves naked when she came over to visit but we understood that we were no longer in a committed relationship.
Well, we lost touch when I moved out of state three years ago and we have not heard from each other since until now (I didn't return many of her phone calls before I left)... I know.
Last week I found her old address and decided to write her to see how she was doing. She emailed me back saying that she is now married and has a husband who is very abusive, mentally, physically, and emotionally. She was very happy to hear from me and told be that it was ironic that I would contact her right when she was deciding if she should go through with a divorce or not ( considering her past family drama it didn't surprise me that she was still "deciding"). She told me that she plans to call me before the week ends and wanted my input on her situation.
Well, I usually do not stick my nose into any of my friends or family relationships. I believe someone looking outside can never fully understand what is going on inside of a relationship. The person you support will always depict themselves as being the good one and you just can never know the intricate details of a complex relationship to judge it and tell someone what they should do.
On the other hand, abuse is good for no relationships but I hesitate to put myself in a position where it looks like I am the ex boyfriend trying to get someone to leave their husband. But I do want to be a good friend to her especially since I feel kind of guilty for never returning her phone calls or contacting her before I moved out of the state. And we did get along well in the past.
She has sent me a couple of emails and she mentioned that she wished we had stayed together but I realize that she just needs some support right now and need someone to lean on. I know that we all do at some point in our lives.
Well, I just would like some suggestions on how to handle this so I can play around with them and come up with a good plan. Again, I feel uncomfortable giving marital advice to an ex who may still have attractions for me but I do want to be a good friend and make up for ignoring her in the past.
No offense, but I am only seeking advice from DJs mid 20's and above. It is not that anyone younger than this can't give mature advice but we know how some of these young bucks think around here and I am just not in the mood for that right now. So to increase my odds of getting mature sound input, I would like the older DJs to respond only.
