cosmopolit
Don Juan
Hi guys,
It's been a long time since I visited the forums the last time, actually about 3 years. I was curious to see what has become of the DJ forums so I decided to post my story here, maybe it serves some of you as an inspiration.
So allow me to tell you a little bit about myself and where I'm coming from: I found out about the DJ forums in 2005 when I was still in my early twenties, however I did not register until a couple of years later and I've never been much of an active poster but I followed the discussions with lots of interest. If I remember correctly, in 2007 or 2008 Mistic invited me to Senor Fingers "exclusive" forum where I signed up and made a handful of posts. Then I stopped visiting the forums until today. Unfortunately I just found out, that the URL doesn't work anymore..if anyone knows if this place or a forum similar like this still exists, send me a PM please as I am curious to know what these guys are up to today.
In order to get back to my story: I found out about the PUA stuff in 2005 and it seemed to be the holy grail back then. It did work but unfortunately it just helped me to pull mostly superficial chicks with inferiority complexes from the clubs. Luckily I found out about the DJ forums just a couple of weeks later and forgot about the whole PUA tactics and philosophy, which I did not agree with anyway as I was never comfortable with pretending to be someone else or using strategy and tactics to make girls like me. So I read all of the famous old school guys' posts as well as the bible, which turned out to be just the beginning of my journey to transcendency
So what happened in all these years and how did I change? I finished my masters, travelled several times for several months to Asia and Latin America and read a huge load of books (about buddhism, taoism, meditation techniques, philosophical stuff and classical literature) while trying my best to apply the knowledge I got from my readings. And I was amazed that all the knowledge, everything which is here on the forums, has been said already hundreds if not thousands of years ago...
As I continued on my path, everything around me just began to come to me naturally. I met the coolest and most inspirational people on my travels, an awesome and gorgeous woman who accompanied me for more than three years of my life and I found many new interests and hobbies.
Also my relation to women changed completely. While I was mostly afraid to approach women in the past, today I am the one who pulls the strings. My time is precious and although I have more than enough opportunities to get laid, I nowadays prefer to spent my free time rather on my hobbies and on myself than on dating or ****ing women. I am working during the day and training at night. Mind that I've spent the last months and still are in the country of the most beautiful women of the world (The one with the green, blue and yellow flag).
If someone would have told me this 8 years ago I would have probably thought that he's either gay or it's just an excuse because he gets no women at all (The old "I have no time for girls" excuse) I go out once or twice a week and I sometimes even make out with girls which I wouldn't have made out with in the past because I considered them not beautiful enough. Not because I lowered my standards (the very opposite is the case), but because I do not take myself and the whole situation that serious anymore.
In the past, every girl which I made out or had sex with had to be really beautiful as I was always thinking into the future like "Maybe she will become my girlfriend one day" or "What if my friends will make fun of me the next day" - what great opportunities of pleasure I missed! Today I just enjoy the moment. In general for a night out at the clubs, I now prefer a nice looking chick with a great personality over a bombshell with zero personality (typical hobbies: party and shopping). The second reason is, that I have become a little bit lazy: Getting a girl used to be special in my shy days, now that it has become easy, I do not want to waste hours of my life talking to a girl trying to get her interested in me. Of course, if I meet a really cool and very good looking girl who is worth spending time with, I choose a different approach - but these girls are rare not that easy to find these days, especially in bars or night clubs besides the fact that I'm not actively looking for them. And actually I still enjoy getting older as it's so much easier to get younger chicks just by being "old" (I will turn 30 soon), wise and still in good shape
But the most important thing which I learned is: To appreciate life and every second of it. In the past I caught myself often in doubt, thinking too much about what might happen and how things could evolve...now I'm just flowing through life and everything is better than ever before. I am happy and not worried about the future at all.
My formula for change was: Reading (not just the DJ stuff), absorbing and reflecting, acting. I know all of you guys have probably read this hundreds of times before but it's true. It's simple. Go out and become who you want to become. And if you fail, you will still feel better and be much wiser than if you would have stayed at home continuing to live your past every day again.
Don't let your friends, family or job hold you back. Grab your laptop, buy (e-)books, get a flight ticket to far, far away from home and go out there for some months to discover who you are and what you want - this worked for me and I'm sure that you will profit from such a experience as well.
May be the spirit be with you
It's been a long time since I visited the forums the last time, actually about 3 years. I was curious to see what has become of the DJ forums so I decided to post my story here, maybe it serves some of you as an inspiration.
So allow me to tell you a little bit about myself and where I'm coming from: I found out about the DJ forums in 2005 when I was still in my early twenties, however I did not register until a couple of years later and I've never been much of an active poster but I followed the discussions with lots of interest. If I remember correctly, in 2007 or 2008 Mistic invited me to Senor Fingers "exclusive" forum where I signed up and made a handful of posts. Then I stopped visiting the forums until today. Unfortunately I just found out, that the URL doesn't work anymore..if anyone knows if this place or a forum similar like this still exists, send me a PM please as I am curious to know what these guys are up to today.
In order to get back to my story: I found out about the PUA stuff in 2005 and it seemed to be the holy grail back then. It did work but unfortunately it just helped me to pull mostly superficial chicks with inferiority complexes from the clubs. Luckily I found out about the DJ forums just a couple of weeks later and forgot about the whole PUA tactics and philosophy, which I did not agree with anyway as I was never comfortable with pretending to be someone else or using strategy and tactics to make girls like me. So I read all of the famous old school guys' posts as well as the bible, which turned out to be just the beginning of my journey to transcendency
So what happened in all these years and how did I change? I finished my masters, travelled several times for several months to Asia and Latin America and read a huge load of books (about buddhism, taoism, meditation techniques, philosophical stuff and classical literature) while trying my best to apply the knowledge I got from my readings. And I was amazed that all the knowledge, everything which is here on the forums, has been said already hundreds if not thousands of years ago...
As I continued on my path, everything around me just began to come to me naturally. I met the coolest and most inspirational people on my travels, an awesome and gorgeous woman who accompanied me for more than three years of my life and I found many new interests and hobbies.
Also my relation to women changed completely. While I was mostly afraid to approach women in the past, today I am the one who pulls the strings. My time is precious and although I have more than enough opportunities to get laid, I nowadays prefer to spent my free time rather on my hobbies and on myself than on dating or ****ing women. I am working during the day and training at night. Mind that I've spent the last months and still are in the country of the most beautiful women of the world (The one with the green, blue and yellow flag).
If someone would have told me this 8 years ago I would have probably thought that he's either gay or it's just an excuse because he gets no women at all (The old "I have no time for girls" excuse
) I go out once or twice a week and I sometimes even make out with girls which I wouldn't have made out with in the past because I considered them not beautiful enough. Not because I lowered my standards (the very opposite is the case), but because I do not take myself and the whole situation that serious anymore.In the past, every girl which I made out or had sex with had to be really beautiful as I was always thinking into the future like "Maybe she will become my girlfriend one day" or "What if my friends will make fun of me the next day" - what great opportunities of pleasure I missed! Today I just enjoy the moment. In general for a night out at the clubs, I now prefer a nice looking chick with a great personality over a bombshell with zero personality (typical hobbies: party and shopping). The second reason is, that I have become a little bit lazy: Getting a girl used to be special in my shy days, now that it has become easy, I do not want to waste hours of my life talking to a girl trying to get her interested in me. Of course, if I meet a really cool and very good looking girl who is worth spending time with, I choose a different approach - but these girls are rare not that easy to find these days, especially in bars or night clubs besides the fact that I'm not actively looking for them. And actually I still enjoy getting older as it's so much easier to get younger chicks just by being "old" (I will turn 30 soon), wise and still in good shape
But the most important thing which I learned is: To appreciate life and every second of it. In the past I caught myself often in doubt, thinking too much about what might happen and how things could evolve...now I'm just flowing through life and everything is better than ever before. I am happy and not worried about the future at all.
My formula for change was: Reading (not just the DJ stuff), absorbing and reflecting, acting. I know all of you guys have probably read this hundreds of times before but it's true. It's simple. Go out and become who you want to become. And if you fail, you will still feel better and be much wiser than if you would have stayed at home continuing to live your past every day again.
Don't let your friends, family or job hold you back. Grab your laptop, buy (e-)books, get a flight ticket to far, far away from home and go out there for some months to discover who you are and what you want - this worked for me and I'm sure that you will profit from such a experience as well.
May be the spirit be with you
