My best friend is getting married in 3 months; need some advice

[Ever onward]

I have never been to a wedding before in my life and I'm pretty nervous about the whole thing. Do you guys have any advice for being a groomsman in a wedding?

What about wedding gifts? I know in bigger cities they have some kind of gift registry system at some stores but I don't know jack about that and I live in a smaller town.

Would money make a good gift? If so, how much?

Any other tips about getting ready for a wedding would be much appreciated (bachelor party, tux rental, reception protocol ect).

onward,

 

[Ice Cold]

1) Read a book about it.
2) Ask some grandma/aunt or other aged female individual about it.
3) Stop fretting. Not much you can do to "ruin" a wedding. Be yourself.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Ever onward
I have never been to a wedding before in my life and I'm pretty nervous about the whole thing. Do you guys have any advice for being a groomsman in a wedding?

What about wedding gifts? I know in bigger cities they have some kind of gift registry system at some stores but I don't know jack about that and I live in a smaller town.

Would money make a good gift? If so, how much?

Any other tips about getting ready for a wedding would be much appreciated (bachelor party, tux rental, reception protocol ect).

onward,

Dude, I used to DJ weddings, so I know more about them than your average guy (although not more than your average chick).

When you say groomsman... are you the best man? If so, there are different things you're responsible for. Otherwise, your responsibilities are a bit more limited. But there's no reason to be nervous... no one will be looking at you or caring what you do unless you make an ass out of yourself giving a toast to the wedding party or something.

As far as gifts go, the bride/groom can tell you where they are registered, and if the stores where they are registered are nearby, you just go in and they'll give you a list with sh*t they want. Otherwise, money is perfectly acceptable... as far as how much, you'd just have to play that by ear, just as you would deciding how much to spend for an actual gift.

IF you have any specific questions about stuff, I can try to help answer them.

 

[Ever onward]

1) Read a book about it.
2) Ask some grandma/aunt or other aged female individual about it.
3) Stop fretting. Not much you can do to "ruin" a wedding. Be yourself.

1. The last thing I have time to do right now is read another book. I'm in college and I'm currently reading 5 books at the moment.

2. I'm not sure how much a grandman/aunt would know about being a groomsmen

3. I'm not worried about ruining it, I just don't want to make an ass of myself.

Thanks for trying though

When you say groomsman... are you the best man? If so, there are different things you're responsible for. Otherwise, your responsibilities are a bit more limited. But there's no reason to be nervous... no one will be looking at you or caring what you do unless you make an ass out of yourself giving a toast to the wedding party or something.

I'm not the best man, I'm just a groomsmen. As far as what responsibilites I have, that is what I'm unclear about. I know for sure that I walk a bridesmaid down the isle. So I need to practice that step-together-step-together crap right? I'm not sure if I'll have to make some kind of toast at the reception but I'm thinking I need to be prepared just in case. Do you ( or anyone) know any good (short) toasts?

As far as gifts go, the bride/groom can tell you where they are registered, and if the stores where they are registered are nearby, you just go in and they'll give you a list with sh*t they want. Otherwise, money is perfectly acceptable... as far as how much, you'd just have to play that by ear, just as you would deciding how much to spend for an actual gift.

I can asked where they are registered but I'm sure none of the stores are in my area and I'm at least 150 miles from where they live. I could ask my best friend for some input here....hmmm

What about the bachelor party? You guys must have been to some before? Any tips on making it a night to remember or hooking up with some strippers???

 

[Desdinova]

So, you're like the second or third best man

Personally, I think the gift registry program is kinda dumb. I don't really care for the idea of being told what to buy. I had presentation at my wedding where people give you money.

If you're not the best man, you might not need to do very much other than walk down the isle. We also informed the people we wanted to give speeches about a month before the wedding. My other groomsman didn't need to give a speech, but that was my wedding.

Ask the groom about gifts and speeches. He might not even know WTF is going on if the parents or his fiance is planning the wedding.