My Best Friend Heart Is Broken Because A Girl Called Him Emotionless and Cold Hearted

[Speculator E]

This is for my one of my best friends. It's been two days and he's really heartbroken. He was really into this girl:

He's been seeing this girl for about two months. He texted her tonight to send more pictures. He thought they were flirting but then she texted him this. He was being a goofball in here. But it looks like she was serious from the start:

Him: So what is this? I have to share a pic for you to share one too now?
Her: Spose so, yeah.
...
...
Him: Your turn
Her: No
Him: Why not (send a pic)?
Her: Bc why should I?
Him: Okay. Fine...let me see what I have.
Him: I don't spend my time taking pictures you know..haha.

Her: "You don't have emotions. You have no capacity to love. You are only interested in fvcking, your video games, and your car. I don't really know anything about you so why do I care to entertain you?

Him: "Fine...if that's what you really think of me then let's just end it. Bye. Nice knowing you." (Too harsh and too quick???)

He's going No contact right now but it's really hard on him to not think about her. It's been two days. And still no reply back. I'd say her interest was very high as she sent him sexy pics before and she was always eager to text back. But this tone from what I can tell came out of no where. So why hasn't text him back to apologize is really puzzling. From what I read it's total B.S. the things she said. My suspicion was she feels used because he was asking for sexy pictures and only doing that. And he's probably not the best at giving a girl his attention as he's really busy with his life. But he's a good guy. He doesn't use girls on purpose and she knows it. He takes time out of his day so he can text her every night. A couple of times I notice she start trying to talk about herself but then he interrupts with something that he was thinking.

But what do you all think? I think what he said was kind of harsh. But there's not much he can do about it now. What's going on is what I'm trying to find out for him? How long until he should just move on?

 

[PlayHer Man]

Any woman can turn on you at ANY minute for ANY reason.

This is why seeking security in women is a fools domain and a man should never bet his mental, emotional or financial future on a woman's fickle feelings.

All a man should worry about at any stage of a relationship is how a woman treats him. That is the criteria by which he should use to judge her. How a woman feels, what her opinions are and what she believes don't matter unless she is treating you right.

If you live by your own terms and behave according to your own standards in all areas of life --> There is NEVER any reason to feel guilt or regret over your actions. NEVER.

You must live and behave by YOUR standards.. not a woman's standards. Thus.. if she becomes b!tchy, cold, unfaithful or hurt by you.. she is simply wrong for you. Its not a failing, its an outcome.

Spin plates, move on.

 

[Epimanes]

What I want to know is why he let her dictate over text like that. Why he listened to what she said rather than wait til they were in person to habe that convo. I bet in person there would not have been as much ego inflation or bravery to say ehat they did in texts. Face to face is so much more personal and a better judge of true feelings as you see the expression on each others faces. Frankly he failed her **** test and had no balls to face her and talk to her in person. Texting is a lame way to judge someones true intent and like I said its easier to say hurtful things when its not face to face.

I say. Visit her in person and then judge her by her actions not words.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Sigh...

This is just one MORE example of why "texting ONLY" is a very poor excuse for a real CONVERSATION. With texting, many nuances like tone, sense of humor, and accurately assessing each other's general "vibe" can be totally lost, misconstrued, or unappreciated.

MEN should use texting as just "one" method of communicating with women---and NOT make it the only weapon in their arsenal.

Many weak men and attention-seeking and duplicitous women LOVE to hide behind texting---because it's less direct than calling or meeting face-to-face.

Or, as Siri herself said on one of my past shows:

"Texting is for Girls!"



V.U.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Him: "Fine...if that's what you really think of me then let's just end it. Bye. Nice knowing you."

This^^^ is an overreaction that you would expect to hear from a girl. Actually, when I first read it I thought you meant to put Her: instead of Him:

The above posters gave good advice.

Of course she's not contacting him. She knows she has him, he got emotionally butt hurt by something minor she said over text's. Who knows what was going on in that hamster brain of hers....bad day, on her period, etc. He acted like a little b1tch (truth hurts) and, if anything, she saw his true colors and lost interest and/or attraction for him.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

This^^^ is an overreaction that you would expect to hear from a girl. Actually, when I first read it I thought you meant to put Her: instead of Him:

The above posters gave good advice.

Of course she's not contacting him. She knows she has him, he got emotionally butt hurt by something minor she said over text's. Who knows what was going on in that hamster brain of hers....bad day, on her period, etc. He acted like a little b1tch (truth hurts) and, if anything, she saw his true colors and lost interest and/or attraction for him.

Agreed. It was a **** test which he failed in a major way. She was trying to beta him and get him to invest more mental energy into her. Its just what girls do over time. Don't think this is recoverable.

 

[Zarky]

Never have "relp discussions" over text. Any time a woman starts b*tching over text, I tell her we'll talk about it in person.