my AFC experience read and learn.

[CrimsonPanther]

ok, so i will share a recent experience with you just to see what a loser i can be sometimes, and maybe some of you will learn from my mistake. i was an idiot and i acted the opposite of how i would have acted normally, because i got a sudden urge to "settle down" in a LTR.

i have met a chick in facebook, i knew her vaguely but never talked. she added me as a friend, i accepted it, and asked her how does she know me. she said se saw me at a birthday of a friend, and we talked a little by chat. she was the GF of a friend of mine, who everyone considers a moron (red flag - ignored), but who cheated on her so they split. after 2 hrs of texting we both felt something very intense, we had a wonderful talk. since then, she wrote to me everyday, sending loveydovey quotes and whatnot. i told her i like her (another mistake, i usually NEVRE tell a girl i like her in texting). we arranged a meeting.

when i called her to ask her address, she tried to flake by telling me her grandma's birthday is on and had to travel to see her. me, being persistent talked her into a meeting. i went to her home, we had another wonderful talk (i failed to escalate, i mean i had a lot of kino and everything i just wasn't as cheeky as i generally am), she held my hand and massaged it, pinched me to "see if i am real because i am perfect", and told me she liked me but wants it to take it slow because she was hurt (another red flag). she also told me her family is kinda messed up, her father was aggressive and her parents had a divorce when she was little, she has a very good foster father now blabla... i again was blind to see the signs.

next day she had her birthday i told her we should go oot and celebrate, but she already had some plans with some relative (another red flag, if she really likes me, she either cancels it or invited me along), i said ok, reschedule it for a day. she said ok, next day is perfect. next day, 1 hour before the meeting i called her to confirm if i should pick her up or meet somewhere in town, she told me she is not at home, and she doesn't know when she will get home, so we better cancel that. normally this alone would mean a permanent no contact from my part, but i rather asked her what the problem was. i got ignored, i wrote her i don't really like it when people take me for a fool, i mean she should've called me earlier to tell me not to get all ready because she won't even be in town.

next day also no sign of her. i called her so i can end it there, but she didn't pick it up, but texted me not to be persistent and that she doesn't like being controlled. i was like wtf, she's all mysterious and ****, and expects me to be cool about it.

after that i went ghost. i should've go ghost the first time she tried to flake me. i was confused by her lovey texts she sent me all the time, and i kinda liked her because she was very feminine and sweet. i was a moron ) i think i have put her on a pedestal based on some really good TEXTING, and i messed it up for me. (i am glad nevertheless because i think she has problems and it is good i found out at the beginning). it still hurts though, but i think this is my ego hurting.

so what do you guys think? aside from me being a total AFC )))))

 

[Poop1337]

Well don't be shocked or mystified by her behavior this kind of BS is pretty standard even when you have a nice connection in the beginning. I think you're still committing the most AFC offence of all and caring. I get that we're not robots but you care too much about all this bs. In fact if you did all that afc stuff just to see if it worked and didn't give af you wouldn't be afc at all. It's the caring so much that's making you afc. By the way I've had all that stuff happen to me and had it work out. Persistence is good, caring is not. You also shouldn't have asked her if she wanted to be picked up or tried to see her on her birthday. You should have just told her you were going to pick her up if that's what you wanted to do. Also when she didn't know her plans you could have said we'll meet later tonight... might have worked. I'd just go NC if you think it's a loss cause. You could try again if you want... really afc that you were going to call this girl you weren't dating and explain it was over. Just go NC if it's over.

 

[El Payaso]

Classic slvt who asks on Facebook "What happened to all the good guys?"

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Be yourself man, she came on strong & you gave her waaay too much. Try this! B*ng a broad atleast 10x! Then ask yourself if you like her, if you do don't tell her.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

yeah it was pretty lame experience, i never knew i can be like this. luckily i heal fast and the plates help a lot in this regard.
ALWAYS HAVE PLATES.

i think the main problem was, i started to become a WK, i really wanted to be there for her. weird because i mostly just pump and dump. well, now i see at least how it feels
i'm over her now, but man this sucked big time. never again.
really carin g for a girl too soon is a very slippery slope.

thanks for the criticism and the nice words. good community

 

[wishyo]

"i told her i like her (another mistake, i usually NEVRE tell a girl i like her in texting)."
^ that was pretty lame... kills all interest/mystery in you. you probably know about it so there is no need to repeat
Anyways, we all screw up/acting weak sometimes. It is VERY easy to post/talk "theory," when it gets down to the actual business, it is suddenly not that easy because of our emotions, because suddenly you want to be around this girl, you want her to be yours and so on

 

[CrimsonPanther]

"i told her i like her (another mistake, i usually NEVRE tell a girl i like her in texting)."
^ that was pretty lame... kills all interest/mystery in you. you probably know about it so there is no need to repeat
Anyways, we all screw up/acting weak sometimes. It is VERY easy to post/talk "theory," when it gets down to the actual business, it is suddenly not that easy because of our emotions, because suddenly you want to be around this girl, you want her to be yours and so on

yeah, after i did it i felt i should punch myself in the face for a moment i thought "let's play this out with honesty". also lame.
a guy can turn into an idiot when he convinces himself that one girl is special. i almost turned into cpt. SaveAHoe. in fact, i did.
oh well you win some you lose some. in this case i feel i won something. i know first hand how hard it is to control yourself when you put a broad on a pedestal. worse than a drug addiction. for 2-3 days i felt miserable. now i am ok and do my best not to repeat the experience.

there's a quote from my fav ex-SS poster, PHM:

The only way to have power over women is to not give a sh!t about them. They must need you more than you need them. The minute you care more than they do.. all the money, status, power, PUA tricks, games and good looks won't help you. Sure.. it will get you in the door, but you will ultimately get crushed. It happens all the time to high status men. --> Because behind all the gimmicks.. these men are faggots.

harsh phrasing, but IMO, pure gold.

and another thing. one has to be always vigilant. you can know all the theory, you can be a ladies men, boning all the hotties, when you let yourself fall into the BETA-VAGON, you are screwed.

this why the alpha mentality must always be maintained. go your own way, don't give a fck about what others expect from you, remain cool, laid back and generally be a leader. the moment you are afraid to lose a girl, is the moment you lose to her and yourself.

 

[pyros]

I think that at 28 you should not be souch a p-ussy, really. Take things with little enthusiasm when dealing with girls, do not be so over eager, and do not think she's really intested until you've banged her a few times and everything seems fine.

You behaved like a teenager 'in love', or like a desperate man so you destroyed her interest in you.

If a girl ADDS YOU ON FB, it is crystal clear that she likes you and that if you do not mess it up (which you did) you can bang her for sure.

She can be trash as someone above said, but I think her wet puss-y and tight ass are worth a few bangs.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

I think that at 28 you should not be souch a p-ussy, really. Take things with little enthusiasm when dealing with girls, do not be so over eager, and do not think she's really intested until you've banged her a few times and everything seems fine.

You behaved like a teenager 'in love', or like a desperate man so you destroyed her interest in you.

If a girl ADDS YOU ON FB, it is crystal clear that she likes you and that if you do not mess it up (which you did) you can bang her for sure.

She can be trash as someone above said, but I think her wet puss-y and tight ass are worth a few bangs.

yeah i know i fcked up )
but now i don't really care so much, yeah i missed a tight pvssy, but atm i have 5 active plates, and i am fvcking all of them, this helps. also, we attend the same circle of friends, i can still do her in the future if it so happens.
the me being pvssy part, was that i saw her as THE WOMAN for me, wich is obviously a mistake.

PHM would say i was a big faggot :kick: and he would be right.

well, i accept it, and have moved on well. this thread was a heads up for some who need it, to be careful with these kinds of stuff, because it can backfire.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

so for all those interested in what happened

i went ghost on her (and exited the afc mode induced earlier, thanks to the helpful plates), then she wrote something angry and i basically told her she is below my standards and i won't waste time with losers and told her not to write anymore. she played the cry card, and told me to meet her one last time.
i went to her place, she was all over me, wearing nothing but a tshirt and some panties. i let her do her magic, and then i fcked her, but told her i need more time to "restore my feelings". she said it is ok, and i fck her regularly. i now can confidently say that i am cured of that afc stuff, and have a new plate

so i can confirm first hand: the moment you put a woman above you / on a pedestal, you lose.

 

[wishyo]

thaks for sharing. my current dating case turned the same direction as yours... everything "seemed" to be fine, I thought she is into me, this weekend she flaked two dates.
currently in a ghost mode :/ dont wanna deal with her anymore, fun dating stuff havent been fun at all with her

 

[Dgwizdal]

Quote:
The only way to have power over women is to not give a sh!t about them. They must need you more than you need them. The minute you care more than they do.. all the money, status, power, PUA tricks, games and good looks won't help you. Sure.. it will get you in the door, but you will ultimately get crushed. It happens all the time to high status men. --> Because behind all the gimmicks.. these men are faggots.


PHM FTW!! +1

 

[JohnChops]

this is an awesome thread! I needed to read a RL example like this. It makes sense to. On my end theres a girl I really wanted to bang, so I put my other plate on the side. The girl I wanted to bang became distant and the other plate was texting me and asking me to hangout but I kept blowing her off.

FUnny how the game works, its a game of opposites and shadows.