NineEleven
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First my apologies for my bad English, it's not my natural language .
Background , I'm a divorced man, and 4 years ago , I met a woman , a 10, and a great mind , for the first year i had no interest in any LTR, because i want to enjoy some freedom , for some time. this woman chase me for 1 and half years , and we became friend's whit benefits.
After this time i accepted to move to a LTR , and the first year everything was great, as we move forward i start to make plans for the future , help her in her career , i became is best friend we develop a great connection, but as time goes by i start to sense some decrease in attraction:
Month after month , and our connection keeps improving, but deep down i felt that something is no wright, fast forward another year and she dumped me .
the night she dumped me , she says that we have became some sort of friend and she is confused about her feelings .
I order a vodka martini,think for 3 minutes ( in complete cold silence) and finally i ask .
- "do you think we can work on this ?"
- she answers "i don't think so'
Then i make this stance :
" i really love you, i would mary you and have kids with you, but i respect your decision, thank you for this 4 years , and fair well"
the i order the bill finished my drink and walk away.
Next day a 7 am phone rings , it's her .
Me- Hi
She: " i just call you to say that you are the most wonderful guy i have met"
Me: great that means I have plenty of opportunities to be happy again .
then i hang up
12 Am another call same stuff
9 PM again
day 2 same story plenty off calls
day 3 to 5 complete silence
day 6 , she shows up at my place and we had sex .
day 7 she regret having sex last night
day 8 - 30 random calls and text, i reply to some in a very short way .
day 31 : I send an email telling her just this :Hi, i'm so sory that in 30 days you are still confused , so it's time to move , please cease all contact.
day 32: 5 calls from her ,i don't answer any
then she stop contact , fast forward 4 weeks and here we are today, 2 days ago she call-me , she wants to talk , so she invited me to dinner today ( in an hour), the question is i love her, she is a 10 and a brilliant architect, but i don't think i what her anymore, and i'm posting this message and a the same time , i'm making an escuse to cancel this dinner.
My advice to all woman, and everybody else, please when you what to breakup, please be 100% sure , as it can and will fire back , if you find someone o puts you on a pedestal, and is pride off himself at the same time, please value this person , you mai not get another chance .
as for myself, now i need to think slowly about what i really do, but today's dinner is already canceled
Background , I'm a divorced man, and 4 years ago , I met a woman , a 10, and a great mind , for the first year i had no interest in any LTR, because i want to enjoy some freedom , for some time. this woman chase me for 1 and half years , and we became friend's whit benefits.
After this time i accepted to move to a LTR , and the first year everything was great, as we move forward i start to make plans for the future , help her in her career , i became is best friend we develop a great connection, but as time goes by i start to sense some decrease in attraction:
Month after month , and our connection keeps improving, but deep down i felt that something is no wright, fast forward another year and she dumped me .
the night she dumped me , she says that we have became some sort of friend and she is confused about her feelings .
I order a vodka martini,think for 3 minutes ( in complete cold silence) and finally i ask .
- "do you think we can work on this ?"
- she answers "i don't think so'
Then i make this stance :
" i really love you, i would mary you and have kids with you, but i respect your decision, thank you for this 4 years , and fair well"
the i order the bill finished my drink and walk away.
Next day a 7 am phone rings , it's her .
Me- Hi
She: " i just call you to say that you are the most wonderful guy i have met"
Me: great that means I have plenty of opportunities to be happy again .
then i hang up
12 Am another call same stuff
9 PM again
day 2 same story plenty off calls
day 3 to 5 complete silence
day 6 , she shows up at my place and we had sex .
day 7 she regret having sex last night
day 8 - 30 random calls and text, i reply to some in a very short way .
day 31 : I send an email telling her just this :Hi, i'm so sory that in 30 days you are still confused , so it's time to move , please cease all contact.
day 32: 5 calls from her ,i don't answer any
then she stop contact , fast forward 4 weeks and here we are today, 2 days ago she call-me , she wants to talk , so she invited me to dinner today ( in an hour), the question is i love her, she is a 10 and a brilliant architect, but i don't think i what her anymore, and i'm posting this message and a the same time , i'm making an escuse to cancel this dinner.
My advice to all woman, and everybody else, please when you what to breakup, please be 100% sure , as it can and will fire back , if you find someone o puts you on a pedestal, and is pride off himself at the same time, please value this person , you mai not get another chance .
as for myself, now i need to think slowly about what i really do, but today's dinner is already canceled