Misterchaos
Don Juan
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Hey just wanted to get you guys opinion on a situation I recently encountered.
I was setup with a friend of my bestfriends girlfriend. Met in person exchanged numbers and some light texting. Invited her to a party I was throwing and showed her a great time ( plenty of kino, flirting etc, pretty much had my hands on her the entire night). I would walk away several times and entertain my guests most of which were female so no issues there.
Ended up passed out drunk (birthday + didn't eat = black out). She text me that night when she got home and again the next morning. We again exchanged a few texts during the week. I setup a double date (not a fan of them) for Friday which she agreed.
A redflag did get thrown during the week leading up to the "first date". She text me saying she was hungry, she didn't directly ask for assistance but she pretty much implied that she was low on funds and going through a rough week before her new job started. I was NOT going to just give her money so I offered to have a quick dinner at a local bar which she said was cool.
I ended up not being able to make it because it was during the middle of the week and my work hours are pretty extravagant. No issues, I guess she found another option. I shrugged it off no problem.
We have the date that Friday and have a good time. She made a few subtle relationship remarks such as. "I'm glad you like dogs, I love them and want a few" etc etc...
Toward the end of the date I notice she is texting someone and at first don't really care of think anything off it. When I walk back to her car she seems to be in a rush to get somewhere. (Also she had a toothbrush and few other things in her purse, I noticed when she was fumbling around while I was driving.
All escalation attempts seemed to stall that night so my Spidey senses started to go off.
We text a few times during the week 5-6 msgs a day. I didn't see her for two weeks as I was legitimately busy with events and other pre-planned outings. Three weeks later while we are casually texting I invite her out for a second date. She again agrees and all is well.
The day of the date approaches and 2 hours before she cancels after asking where we were going again. She sent a LONG paragraph apologizing with her excuse and pleading to make sure I wasn't upset. I replied short and said " Cool. next time" She replied: "Are you sure" and I replied: "Yea"
She literally seemed to beg me to not be upset.
I invited another lady friend out no issue.
Now after this I mentally ejected from pursuing her. Until...
She text me the following week. I kept the messages short (3-4) msgs and invited her out with me the next day. She replied but didn't give a yes or a no. I shrug it off and go on about my business.
She then did the same thing the next week with a "Hey stranger" text. I did the same few msgs and a come out and see me tomorrow line. No response.
I did finally learn from a mutual friend that she was talking to a guy she was seeing before she met me. I have no issue with that.
My question is if she in talking to someone else why is she still throwing out breadcrumbs and then proceeding to not come out when I invite her?
Note: She never told me about the guy her friend told my friend.
My reasoning is that she may not be 100% happy with her current bf and is most likely using me to supplement his lack of attention..etc etc.
So I go NC don't have time as I am literally confused. She was a cool chick and I definitely want to smash.
There was no cut off or fallout just a mutual fade. Is it worth keeping lines of communication open with this one particular chick. i.e drop her a line every few weeks. Or just forget about it. Not seeking any kind of relationship here.
Thanks and sorry for any formatting issues.
I was setup with a friend of my bestfriends girlfriend. Met in person exchanged numbers and some light texting. Invited her to a party I was throwing and showed her a great time ( plenty of kino, flirting etc, pretty much had my hands on her the entire night). I would walk away several times and entertain my guests most of which were female so no issues there.
Ended up passed out drunk (birthday + didn't eat = black out). She text me that night when she got home and again the next morning. We again exchanged a few texts during the week. I setup a double date (not a fan of them) for Friday which she agreed.
A redflag did get thrown during the week leading up to the "first date". She text me saying she was hungry, she didn't directly ask for assistance but she pretty much implied that she was low on funds and going through a rough week before her new job started. I was NOT going to just give her money so I offered to have a quick dinner at a local bar which she said was cool.
I ended up not being able to make it because it was during the middle of the week and my work hours are pretty extravagant. No issues, I guess she found another option. I shrugged it off no problem.
We have the date that Friday and have a good time. She made a few subtle relationship remarks such as. "I'm glad you like dogs, I love them and want a few" etc etc...
Toward the end of the date I notice she is texting someone and at first don't really care of think anything off it. When I walk back to her car she seems to be in a rush to get somewhere. (Also she had a toothbrush and few other things in her purse, I noticed when she was fumbling around while I was driving.
All escalation attempts seemed to stall that night so my Spidey senses started to go off.
We text a few times during the week 5-6 msgs a day. I didn't see her for two weeks as I was legitimately busy with events and other pre-planned outings. Three weeks later while we are casually texting I invite her out for a second date. She again agrees and all is well.
The day of the date approaches and 2 hours before she cancels after asking where we were going again. She sent a LONG paragraph apologizing with her excuse and pleading to make sure I wasn't upset. I replied short and said " Cool. next time" She replied: "Are you sure" and I replied: "Yea"
She literally seemed to beg me to not be upset.
I invited another lady friend out no issue.
Now after this I mentally ejected from pursuing her. Until...
She text me the following week. I kept the messages short (3-4) msgs and invited her out with me the next day. She replied but didn't give a yes or a no. I shrug it off and go on about my business.
She then did the same thing the next week with a "Hey stranger" text. I did the same few msgs and a come out and see me tomorrow line. No response.
I did finally learn from a mutual friend that she was talking to a guy she was seeing before she met me. I have no issue with that.
My question is if she in talking to someone else why is she still throwing out breadcrumbs and then proceeding to not come out when I invite her?
Note: She never told me about the guy her friend told my friend.
My reasoning is that she may not be 100% happy with her current bf and is most likely using me to supplement his lack of attention..etc etc.
So I go NC don't have time as I am literally confused. She was a cool chick and I definitely want to smash.
There was no cut off or fallout just a mutual fade. Is it worth keeping lines of communication open with this one particular chick. i.e drop her a line every few weeks. Or just forget about it. Not seeking any kind of relationship here.
Thanks and sorry for any formatting issues.
