Multiple Girls???

[N_SEAL44]

Hey guys, I've been lurking around the forums for awhile now just sort of listening to your stories and learning a lot. Norwegian DJ, BPH great stuff. My first two years in HS were a complete train wreck, I lost all my friends from middle school and had a pretty rough patch in my life. I was about 6 ft. tall and very skinny at about 140lbs at best, my confidence was gone and I withdrew almost entirely from whatever social life I had left and had a lot of time to think, I spent to many lonely Friday/Saturday nights playing BF2 on my computer. Fortunately two things saved me, 1. Swim team 2. Working out. When I joined the swim team I made some of my closest friends and really came out of my shell socially and used it as a springboard into who I am today. As for the working out, it became a major stress relief for me and became a habit deeply embedded in my psych. It gives me a chance to clear my mind and more stressed I am, the harder I push myself. Here's a little bit about myself, I'm 16 (turning 17 on the 31rst) years old and finishing up my junior year in HS where I'm on the swim team. I'm a little over 6 ft. tall and weigh 185lbs with 8% body fat. I'm generally pretty good with girls on a whole and don't really have trouble actually getting the girl's #'s, hookups, etc. (not to brag or say that I'm better then anyone here as I still have TONS to learn from you guys) but my problem comes when I try to juggle multiple girls at once. I have never liked the idea of a permanent girlfriend and would hate to be tied down, so I prefer more casual relationships with more then one girl which is great until people start to talk. It might sound morally wrong (my philosophy about dating in HS has always been " have fun and have sex with as many girls as possible and don't take it too seriously because its only HS") but, how do you juggle multiple girls at once in a school where everyone knows who hooks up with who? I've thought about about expanding into other schools nearby but as of now I don't know anyone from those schools. I have no "In" at those schools. Any input on my situation, or my story at all is greatly appreciated. Who knows, I might turn this into a journal.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

BF2 is an awesome game. Need I say no more?
I will, actually
Good stuff dude. Sounds like you got a good body. I'm turning 16 on the 30th.

Myself, I cant see myself getting a proper girlfriend either.. Just maybe if she's really cool and hot, but not for a long time. I'll just cheat on them, unless I really like them. Yeah, I dont think I can come up with any help here. Just tell them about the casual part, or make sure they dont find out

 

[ARrocket]

As weird as it sounds, I think drunk hook-ups are your best bet haha.

Seriously, there's no good way to go about it in that small of a setting. But don't worry, once you get out of high school is when all the fun starts, so just be sure to get good grades, have fun, yada yada yada.

 

[N_SEAL44]

Thought I'd give a little update for you guys. Today is my birthday, the big one-seven, I feel exactly the same haha. Also happy birthday to you Norwegian DJ, enjoy it. As far as the girls have been going lately, pretty smooth, no hook ups in a couple weeks but I'm actively texting a couple. Great story from last night though, Norwegian you'll like this. So two friends of mine and I decide that we wanted to go into NYC for the night (I live about a 45 minute drive north of the city). We hop in the car and drive to Time Square and arrive at about 8pm. We brought along some alcohol (I like to call it liquid courage) and went and quickly consumed a good amount of it while wandering around. For whatever reason there was a HUGE amount of great looking girls out that night and we somehow decided that we would pretend to be from South Africa, accents and all (I have no idea why really, alcohol tends to do that to you) and talk to as many girls as we could. First we went into all of the clothing stores (Forever 21, American Eagle, Aeropostale, etc.) and would find targets and go up to them claiming that we were looking for clothes for our (girl) friends back home and that they were about the same height/weight as our friends, and we would ask if they would help us pick out clothing for them. Then when we saw girls on the street, we'd go up to them and ask if they were from here and if they could help us find a certain street or building. Now I'm not sure how good our accents and story was, but we even met 2 girls who were from South Africa and we fooled them. It worked every time, girls LOVE accents. I woke up this morning and found at least 20 pictures/videos on my buddy's IPhone of us with different groups of girls and found 3 numbers in my phone from girls we had met. I doubt I will ever make anything out of these girls but the experience I gained from this is invaluable and I recommend everyone reading this to try it out. I was definitely out of my comfort zone, and got to talk to hot girls.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Hahaha, lols were had.
And I can testify that girls love accents.
And happy birthday as of yesterday dude!

 

[N_SEAL44]

So I guess I've turned this into a journal of sorts.

Been pretty busy lately. Got a second job as a lifeguard at a state park, best decision I have ever made. All of my buddies work there with me and yesterday I spent 2.5 hours just kayaking around the lake and fishing, WHILE getting paid for it, Thank you state of New Jersey. Money is good too and there is a great potential there this summer to meet a ton of girls.

Awhile ago me and two friends (not the NYC crew) were watching the movie Wedding Crashers and got the crazy idea of actually crashing a wedding. It started off as a joke and we weren't that serious about it but last week a friend of mine found a wedding through one of those wedding directory websites that was perfect. We got the address, time, names of the wedding party. We even got the back story of how the couple met, it was legit. So last night we suited up and went to the wedding, we had no idea what to expect. We arrive after the dinner (we wouldn't have had a seat at any of the tables if we went to dinner) and the wedding is AWFUL. I mean it looked like the Napoleon Dynamite prom scene. Luckily, the hotel we were at had another wedding going on that night in the other ballroom that was great. We entered with no problem (if you act confident like your supposed to be there, no one will bother you). First we went to the bar and just reconed the dance floor for HB's. I finally asked the bar tender in a calm collected voice "Rum and Coke please" , he served me, no questions asked. I'm only 17 haha. So now that we had the bartender supplying us we got comfortable and had fun. We danced for a good hour just talking to people (everyone was trashed) until finally I got a little to confident and started to grind with one of the girls there. She was much older then me, probably 22/23 maybe, and then her friend came up and danced behind me, this drew some unwanted attention. From then on we started to get looks from the Groom and finally after about another 15 minutes he approached us and said " you guys need to get the fvck out". So just like that we disappeared and made our escape. I'd like to point out that while we did "crash" the wedding we were very respectful about it. We didn't drink too much, didn't get obnoxious and just sort of had a good time with everyone there. Crashing a wedding is an experience everyone should have but just do it with class, don't be a douche. I'll post some pictures we took on here if I can figure out how to do that.


I've been thinking a lot lately about how girls perceive and are attracted to guys at the purely physical level and I've come to the following conclusion. There are three things that make a guy physically attractive
1.Facial Features
2.Body
3.Fashion

The greatest thing I realized is that 2 of the three things that make you physically attractive are able to be changed by you. Your facial features are determined by genes so you really have no say there but you can make yourself as attractive as you want by working out and dressing well. Even though you can't determine your facial features, unless you were born incredibly ugly, like hit in the face with a shovel ugly, you can still make yourself very attractive to females, its just a matter of motivating yourself to do it.