Moving in with a girl friend....

[Ken785]

so you all remember that coworker i dated....she was the attention wh0re...

well i was talking to her the other day on the phone...she openly said that she was trying to change and not lead people on and not flake on people anymore and blah blah blah...

she sounded like a totally different person than the girl i knew...i was thinking like "wow!...is that really her??" i mention to her that me and my parents were having problems and i was moving into my apartment. she said "id move in with you but...something something something...(i forgot, i think she mentioned since she quit the job she has no money)" (she had mentioned before that she wants to move out of her house before because of her problems with her mom...)
i was like "ohh...well you know i dont think id be too comfortable with you bringing guys over (in a funny way)" she didnt say anything...for a sec...but mentioned "hey...maybe later on ill need a roommate cuz im sure i wont be able to afford it for long" i said well see how things go with us, well develop a friendship and you can learn to trust me and i can learn to trust you....she said..."yeah cuz im a real person...im not gonna put up a front like i did at work you know?"

and we talked a little more....

then we ended the phone conversation and she said shed come help me look for an apartment on wednesday. if she does really want to move in with me im not really sure cuz i dont know her that well. but i figure people move in with other people they dont know at all all the time you know? so maybe...

on wednesday if she mentions again that she wants to move in...ill tell her that we need to hang out more to get to know each other better and if we still like each other then ill give her a 1 week stay probation kinda...i think i wont charge her for the weeks rent...ill just tell her to buy groceries and cook...hehehe.
so we can know how each others living habits are and im sure a week is enough to know alot about someone and their habits...
what do you guys think??

 

[flexion_]

Let me get this straight... you want your attention ***** to move in with you so you can spend and give even more attention to her?

Did hell freeze over or something?

 

[Ken785]

no...im just going to treat her as a friend....not complimenting her or anything....if she tries to get something outta me and flirt n sh!t....ill be like "HEY!! i know you want to flirt with me and i know you want me but were roommates now and JUST FRIENDS!!"

basically putting the attention wh0re in the friend zone...see how she likes it..

 

[flexion_]

You are going to see how she likes LJBF by having her become a roommate???... ok now I've heard it all. That will show her...

Do you want to be on a Springer show or something?

Read this: You are having your ex-GF move in as roommate. Ok read that again... and again...

Move on and cut contact.

 

[Ken785]

no girl....FRIEND...not Girlfriend.

 

[CLOONEY]

Man, forget that idea for numerous reasons, I wont go into them all, just forget the idea!

U KNOW you ultimately want her as moer than just "friends". How will you like it when she brings other dudes back? Go for it if you like, but you will just be putting yourself between a rock and a hard place!

 

[MindOverMatter]

only move in with her if you just want to be friends, and nothing more. if you have even an ounce of interest for her, don't do it. if you move in with her, she WILL be bringing dudes over, and you WILL hear them f*ck her brains out.

only move in with a girl if she's a 100% platonic friend, or your wife.

 

[Ken785]

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[italostud]

Originally posted by Ken785
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come on 95 views...6 replies. 2 of them from me. come on more opinions and advice. id love to hear from everyone on this.

Ok, don't do it.

 

[nonstop]

Originally posted by Ken785
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come on 95 views...6 replies. 2 of them from me. come on more opinions and advice. id love to hear from everyone on this.

who's the attention ***** again? you or her?

stop messing about

 

[spider_007]

We all learn from OUR OWN mistakes.

She's about to put you through some HARD SCHOOLIN' boy. You'll be lucky to get out with your balls in tact. Might as well say good bye to your wallet and your pride ASF.

 

[Reed247]

moving in

You should never move in with a woman unless she is your wife. or 1 in a million. especially if she is an attention seeker. My friend moved in with an ex stripper who loved attention. she had him by the balls and he did whatever she requested, paid bills, fancy restaraunts, and he went into debt over it. she also was insanely nuts and picked fights with him regulary. she would go out to clubs till 6 am and was totally disrepectful.
don't do it unless she isn't that type of person

 

[dearsappho]

Tjhe lack of replies indicates that nothing more should be said on the matter other than you are OUT OF YOUR MIND.

 

[dig it]

You are crazy.

Find other alternitives if you need a room mate so much.

This idea is ludicrous.

This will cut your freedom. You want to be free dont you?

Have you lived with a girl before?

I reckon you are the type she will end up hating - because you had to ask here - i dont even think you could live with your mum.


But thats a bit of tongue in cheek.....but this isn't....you are out of your mind.....DONT LET HER MOVE IN, DONT BE AN IDIOT.

You HAVE NOT thought this through.

Hope we have helped.

Its unanimous.....if she moves in, you will regret it.

and bad.

 

[DJDamage]

Again you are going to fvck yourself over.

You know what you are thinking???!! Your way of thinking is that "hey maybe if she moves in with me, we are going to end up having sex". You are in denial about this.

She doesn't have any money anyway so this Attention Wh0re is trying to swindle her way to your apartment in order to find a place to live. As soon as she walks in the door, she will take a charge of everything and you will be like those sorry sap guys who do whatever their woman tells them to do, the only difference is that you are not going to get any sex out of it.

Yes she will be bringing guys over and having sex with them.

She will use you 24 hours as emotional tampon instead of the few hours you normally would get.

The myth of women keeping a house clean and guys are the dirty ones will shutter in your face.

Instead of peace and quiet when you arrive home after a hard day - Guess what? your hard day just began (you already knew she is messed up without living with her, so if you end up living with her you will find out the other 95% of her messed up personality you don't know about)

basically putting the attention wh0re in the friend zone...see how she likes it..

She already put YOU IN THE FRIENDZONE!! don't you get it??! Do you think she will feel hurt if you treat her as a friend?? she will only feel hurt if guys SHE IS SEXUALLY INTERESTED, ignore her. Stop trying to pull a fast one on a proffesional manipulator because you are an amateur in this game.

Stop thinking with your d1ck again!

 

[Golden Arms]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
only move in with her if you just want to be friends, and nothing more. if you have even an ounce of interest for her, don't do it. if you move in with her, she WILL be bringing dudes over, and you WILL hear them f*ck her brains out.

only move in with a girl if she's a 100% platonic friend, or your wife.

EXACTLY

I don't think anything more needs to be said.

And if you want to move in with her only because you're hoping she'll have sex with you, you need to commit yourself to an institution...immediately

 

[Squid]

Wow, this is one of the worst ideas I've ever heard of. There is absolutely no benefit to this whatsoever. I actually cannot believe you even posted this question.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by Ken785
no...im just going to treat her as a friend....not complimenting her or anything....if she tries to get something outta me and flirt n sh!t....ill be like "HEY!! i know you want to flirt with me and i know you want me but were roommates now and JUST FRIENDS!!"

basically putting the attention wh0re in the friend zone...see how she likes it..

You are pathetic. You'd go to those
lengths in order to put her in her place?

Oh, and BTW, you do realise you are falling for her Attention Hor bullsh*t again by merely entertaining her idea of the two of you moving in together, don't you?

GET A CLUE!!

Just listen to yourself already, you're already considering giving her a weeks rent for free!!!

DUH!! :crackup:

You get the so symp poster of the year award for that and it's only April.

 

[Ken785]

so i talked to her today and asked her what was going on with her cuz she didnt call me after we were suppose to meet for lunch. (she gave me this speech the other day about not flaking out on people and not calling people back and trying to change that and blah blah blah) anyways...she says shes going through hella sh!t with her mom and how her mom doesnt want her to live with her anymore and she doesnt have any money and her check engine light just came on and blah blah blah.

i told her not to worry about it, tommorow were suppose to go look for my apartment and i told her we'll talk if shes serious. i told her were gonna go job hunting tommorow too. She said she has a doctors appointment tommorow and i gotta go to the dentist so...she says she has to go to school at 1 till 5 but prolly not going to go.

i told her if shes serious she can talk to me tommorow about it.

wow...analyze this sh!t for me....im thinking i dont want her to move in with me cuz its not smart but if shes really in distress i want to help her, plus i can use a roommate cuz rent is expensive.

 

[JonJack]

And what will happen if she can't or doesn't want to pay the rent? Will you be able to kick her out on the street?

It seems so easy to extend a helping hand to someone in need. Especially when they're like pushing their problems directly into your face. We believe it is a good and honorable thing to help others. We believe the other person will appreciate our help and return it in kind during our time of need.

Do not help her if you are expecting anything in return from her. And when I say anything, I mean anything. As in don't even expect her to be nice to you. Don't even expect her to listen to you. Never put yourself into a situation where you would use the "But I've been so generous and kind to you. How can you do this to me?" crap line if she disappoints you. It'll only make you come off as being a wuss.