Moral question

[Juanto]

Just found the girlfriend of a friend on a dating site, where she just registered today. As far as I know, she is still his girlfriend, and although all her data there arent accurate, it is her picture. I also know this girl quite well, but should I tell my mate about this or just let it be as it is not of my business?

 

[wifehunter]

Just found the girlfriend of a friend on a dating site, where she just registered today. As far as I know, she is still his girlfriend, and although all her data there arent accurate, it is her picture. I also know this girl quite well, but should I tell my mate about this or just let it be as it is not of my business?

help a friend out, or stay out of it?

tough decision! I would not want to be in your position.

maybe they broke up? You may want to get the whole story from your friend.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Take a screenshot or send him a link, don't say it's her just ask him if it's her.

 

[Juanto]

To make matters worse, since I visited her profile, she now knows that I know

 

[dude99]

Just found the girlfriend of a friend on a dating site, where she just registered today. As far as I know, she is still his girlfriend, and although all her data there arent accurate, it is her picture. I also know this girl quite well, but should I tell my mate about this or just let it be as it is not of my business?

Answer her date add. That will definately out her. Then send her link to your buddy telling him he needs to check this chick out you are messaging on OLD

 

[Juanto]

Take a screenshot or send him a link, don't say it's her just ask him if it's her.

No need for that since her picture there is the same she has on her Facebook profile main pic

 

[dude99]

To make matters worse, since I visited her profile, she now knows that I know

Thats even better.

 

[Bible_Belt]

To make matters worse, since I visited her profile, she now knows that I know

I would message her on the dating site and be like "Hey ____. how's it going?" Don't say anything more than that. She will immediately assume that you told your friend about it, so you don't have to. She'll probably confess to him thinking she is heading you off from snitching on her.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Why do you want some skank as a friend? Any girl would snitch out some dude she knew in a second, then band together with her girl friends to try and block him from banging any of them.

Tell your mate

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Juanto,
So you play dating policeman,do you think he will be grateful to you?....well initially perhaps,but down the line?...Let's think it through,you spill the beans,he goes ballistic,they break up...Then a month later they get back together again,lets even think that they marry...will you be a welcome visitor at their home?...If you must interfere,then do it on the quiet.

 

[Juanto]

there is the possible (but unlikely) scenario that they broke off the relationship in the past 2/3 days, so first I will make sure they are indeed still together before passing judgement or taking any action.

 

[SgtSplacker]

No need for that since her picture there is the same she has on her Facebook profile main pic

It's because your buddy might be in denial that his girl is doing that. I have seen this kind of thing back fire and friendship ends and they accuse you of being jealous and telling lies. The picture is so he can see for himself and just asking him instead of accusing her covers you just in case things get weird.

 

[SmooveMooves]

"Hey bro I seen your chick on Tinder." You guys still together?

No need to beat around the Bush, he's your friend.

 

[Juanto]

So your friend is a beta male, getting 'exclusive' with a woman screwing around? So what?

They have been together for several years now, but i wouldnt label him as a beta chump. However I did notice now on Facebook that even yesterday he was with his GF, so unless they broke it off today, this is some sneaky business from her side....

 

[Trump]

Unless you want to cause problems, stay out of it. It's not your business. They could be testing you, teasing you, manipulating you, screwing with you. You never know what people's motives are.

If your friend asks "did you see my girlfriend on dating site with her picture?" Then you can say "yes." Other than that, mind your own business.

 

[ohrein]

You should always strive for the truth. Tell him. You'd want to know. You can't control the outcome but you can do the morally right thing and have a clear conscience.

 

[dustmuffin]

I would send him the link and tell him. He can deal with it from there. You are saving him from additional heartache down the road. If I were him I would want to know.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

What do you hope to gain?

Nothing. Don't do or say anything. Unless he's your best friend from kindergarten and he's about to drop fifty grand on a wedding, forget about it.

Don't waste your time in friend-drama.

It's unbecoming.