moments of weakness - former relationship

[Heretolearn]

Hey,

Some of you know my story already. As for me, I have never been so successful (and unsuccessful ) with women.

I have 4 people whom I am getting to know and I like 2 of them especially. *It is actually exciting to get that aldrenalin rush from seeing someone again (which you lose in a ltr to a degree)

Things are going well BUT I have had a couple of dreams about my former relationship. Each time I awake I get weird, last time I posted about being angry at her *probable new boyfriend.

This time I am thinking about contacting her to see how she is. I had a bad feeling something might have happened to her.

Yet I am not sure if this is just my 'obsessed' side just trying to weasel back in. My life has been so much easier without her in my life. So smooth and free.

* so I ask who has been here, how did you feel? what happened?

 

[STR8UP]

Dude, I just went through a breakup myself.

DO NOT contact her!

We all get the temptation to do it, even if it is with purely innocent intentions. I know I would never get back with my ex. I'm still pissed at her for what she did the last time I saw her. I would still love to hear her voice and see how she has been, but there's NO WAY IN HELL I'm gonna do it. I would even have to think twice about picking up the phone if she called me.

Past relationships are best left just as they are.....in the past. Get out there and meet some new women and pretty soon you will go from thinking about her once a minute, to once an hour, to once a day, to once a week, to once a.....you get the picture.

 

[KarmaSutra]

I walked away from a five year marriage "Scott" free.

There isn't anything encompassing so many emotional characters into your head and heart than splitting away from someone with whom you trusted and shared your deepest and true feelings. It makes you realize that the only thing you can count on is your resolve and your accountability.


My ex-wife and I share some of the same circle of friends and it's hard to hear how my step daughter is doing and progressing and not being a daily part of her life.

It's comical, Now that I've replaced guilt and vindictiveness with determination and focus I've heard she refuses to have any other relationships because she's waiting for her husband to come back to her. I'll eat the thumbs and pinky fingers off both of my hands before that happens.

I've made subliminal faux paus regarding the women I'm involved with to carefully selected individuals in order to get my point across that I "Don't look back" (Thank the Gods for Brad Delp and Boston!)

 

[Heretolearn]

thank you guys,

Yeah,

I just do not see how I could ever not view the person without the emotions and past coming back even if they do not affect me.


Unless i get amnesia of course and then I hope I would meet someone else

Yet it is so weird being so close to someone and living your life with them then Blammo - nothing. Like it never happened.